someone please tell me it's normal to feel this scared?

[amotherslove]

sooo like the title says.. i'm frigging terrified.. off and on.. i'll go through moments where i'm fine and nothing is wrong but then all my insides tense up and i'm scared again..

i'm trying to stay low stress and this is making me stress and i don't know what to do...

i have this feeling of foreboding.. like i KNOW it's going to happen again.. (only in those bad moments) is this normal? like.. i didn't just become a psychic right? i'm just anxious? guh... i'm losing it.. and sometimes i feel like i'm having problems connecting to the pregnancy.. i'm talking to my belly and singing to it. even though i know baby cant hear me yet.. because i want them to know i love them.. but i'm worried i'm too scared to connect.. even though i know that i fi lose them. it'll be awful whether i connect or not.

thanks for reading

 

[tuckie27]

Wow, we are at exactly the same point right now, same due date and all! I am scared too! I lost 2 babies last year as you can see below...I keep worrying myself about every little thing (like my boobs aren't as sore today as tehy were the last couple days). I am going today for beta #2, beta #1 was 210 on monday 3/19 and I'M VERY nervous! Dr. put me on progesterone as a precaution. Do you know anything about the cause of your loss? All our tests came back "normal", so we're hoping this will be "3rd times a charm" baby Good luck to you! People say try not to worry, but I know exactly how hard is to take that advice!!!

 

[xxxjessxxx]

im the same hunny, i believe it is natural to feel like that. Today I am worrying like every day, Im just trying to have faith in my LO and my body, it's hard when your bodies let you down before but Im sure it'll be fine for all of us

 

[SabrinaKat]

I have written elsewhere here, but how you feel is completely, sadly, NORMAL! I had an mc in August 2009 and it took ages to get pregnant again, but I did and LO arrived last month (okay, to be fair, I did have pre-eclampsia, but the first 32wks were fine) -- I worried every day, was positive sometimes, scared others, but that is okay....

Just take it one day at a time/perhaps break into smaller milestones, e.g. first scan, 12wk scan, feeling the baby move, etc., and try to relax a little. All of the ladies here have been through the same worries and fears, so you are not alone!

best wishes

 

[amotherslove]

thanks ladies and tuckie, i do know sortof. Lily had Oligohydramnios.. which is a lack of fluid in the sac.. which tells me WHY but not necessarily what caused it.. some theories are kidney and bladder issues in the fetus. or a dehydrated mother (which i dont believe i was) also its VERY cool that we have the same due due. i'm thinking about you! i hope this is it for you! i cant even imagine what you must be feeling.. i only had the one loss.. and i can hope and pray it was a fluke or her fathers genetics (i used a donor this time)... but i don't know how i would handle a second loss..

 

[tuckie27]

Hey, just to let you know my 2nd beta was 694! So I went from 210 to 694 in 72 hours. Woot! My HCG was monitored in my last preg and it wasn't even close to doubling. I know I'm not out of the woods by any means, but it is giving us hope! I am hoping my las m/c's were just flukes; that something wasn't quite right and now things will be all good...Maybe that will cheer you up for your preg too, I sure hope the same is true for you and we both deliver healthy babies this November!!!

 

[amotherslove]

just saw this i dunno if you will ever see this but we're both 14+1 right now. so happy for us both.