Soo.. FOB decided to text.

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  1. xAmiixLouisex

    xAmiixLouisex Mommy! <3

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    Never would have expected this. If you read my FOB rant, you'll understand why. If not, here it is..

    https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-second-trimester/789059-rant-fob-sorry-really-long.html

    So, here's how the texts went. Excuse my language.

    Him: "Where you?"
    Me: "Was that the wrong number? Or are you seriously just gonna casually text me asking where I am?!"
    Him: "You know what, whatever. Play your games. Don't bother me. Do what you're doing"
    Me: "Just a bit random after everything. I'm at mine. Why?"
    Him:"Don't matter. I was gonna try and be civilised but when you go on like that fuck it, do what your doing."
    Me: "CBA with this moody bolox, If you want to talk, then talk!"
    Him: "Don't worry, I wont bother"
    Me: "J stop being a fucking dick. I ain't gonna beg you to talk to me but obviously you had something you wanted to say, so say it! I'll stop being a bitch. It was just shock really".
    Him: "No but why go on like that? I'm only trying to chat to you."
    Me: "Because after 4 months I expected a little more than a little where are you text!"
    Him:"Well you know, can't expect much after all the shit that's happened"
    Me: "Infact, I can't say I expected anything. I thought you would have just deleted my number to be honest."
    Him:"Just don't worry ok. Do what you're doing an I'll talk to you soon".
    Me: "Ok. Take care. Your son's called Jaydon by the way."
    Him: "Ok talk to ya soon. If you can be cool Amii so can I"
    Me: "Cool."

    I have no idea what to make of this. He is drunk. But, it's the further I've got in the past 4 months. So, I'll take it as a positive that we're on speaking terms. Any thoughts?
     
  2. PegLeg2na

    PegLeg2na Well-Known Member

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    I'd say it's a step towards speaking terms! He initiated contact, after all. :thumbup:
     
  3. sjwebb

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    I think I would have told him to go fuck himself to be completely honest. I understand that he made an effort but then he threw a fit like a toddler. What kind of man just ditches the woman carrying his child and then doesn't even own up to be a father to his own son. Your better off without hun.
     
  4. loveme_x

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    Well, i was surprised my FOB texted me the same week we had a physical fight, asking how am i. Last time my FOB texted me, he told me to keep his fucking name out of my mouth to his people unless i want to jump stupid. He just looks at me and pretends he doesn't even see me. You just know he was thinking of you. Thats a start i guess.
     
  5. sandilion

    sandilion Well-Known Member

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    Sounds like he's still being a prat though....i personally wouldn't wanna talk to him. If you can be cool he will too? Sounds like he blames you for everything. I think you're too good to be dealing with this wank. He needs to suck it up and speak to you properly, or not bother at all. If he can't manage to ask "How ARE you" instead of "Where you" wtf is with texting that to you anyways?! Who the hell texts that to someone unless they are expecting to meet with them. Who knows maybe the text was for someone else, maybe it was for you and he is just being stupid about it. Either way he sounds like he's not ready to treat you with much respect so id just forget about him until he grows up and comes to you as a mature adult.

    Just my opinion anyways.
     
  6. sandilion

    sandilion Well-Known Member

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    Completely agree.
     
  7. xAmiixLouisex

    xAmiixLouisex Mommy! <3

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    Yep girls, you're right. I think he actually had no idea what to say so asked where I was. Instead of just being a man and asking about the baby or apologising or something constructive! Can't believe he acted so casual like nothing has happened. He does still need to grow up. Pissed me off how he tried to make out I was dismissing his effort. Which was hardly effort. I had to have 15 minutes each time to text back and really think it through. Part of me just wanted to abuse the hell out of him. But, for my sons sake I tried to be as nice as possible. I'm hoping it's a good step. But, I wont be contacting him. His turn to make an effort. I just feel a little better knowing that all hope isn't lost for him being a father. But my expectations aren't high.
     
  8. Jaylynne

    Jaylynne Well-Known Member

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    Was where you maybe him seeing if you wanted a booty call? You did say he was drunk and a random where you to me kinda seems like that. Especially if your response indicated you had zero interest towards anything like that. Usually guy drunk texts are booty calls... I could be WAY off...
     
  9. xAmiixLouisex

    xAmiixLouisex Mommy! <3

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    I thought this! He used to text me like that before and I used to just ignore him LOL. But, seems a little odd that he decided to text me, his baby mom who he hasn't acknowledged for 4 months for a booty call. But then he is pretty immature! Probably thought of course she'll want to sleep with me, she's carrying my child. Couldn't be more wrong :dohh:
     
  10. Jaylynne

    Jaylynne Well-Known Member

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    Ugh guys are IDIOTS sometimes. When drunk they either get sappy or think with their dicks... I think he's a dickhead. I can't really explain any other reason why he got so snarky with his replies if he was merely curious about you besides him being horny and finding he has no chance. You are so better off without him.
     
  11. lalitas charm

    lalitas charm Mummy to Bethan & Piplet

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    I thought it was a booty call as well!! I'm not convinced it wasn't even near the end. He doesn't deserve to just jump in and out of your life when he feels like it. Men!!
     
  12. Sew_Sweet

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    My thoughts are - he's still an immature dick. IGNORE his texts and calls for about 2 months. See how he likes it.
     
  13. AngelUK

    AngelUK Mummy of twin boys

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    Amii that made me well up, the bit where you told him your son's name and all he said was Ok talk to you later. Ok I am being emotional but what a effing jerk he must be to react like that! I told me OH this cause as wondering why I was sniffling and he said well he clearly doesn't deserve to have a baby. Amii even if he made contact, I would have expected a lot more of him to make up for 4 months of silence AND he nearly had you begging to not just cut the communication off as if you had no right to be peed off! As if he was being gracious and you the bratty one! I hate that guy for your and your baby's sake. :hugs:
     
  14. xPH03N1Xx

    xPH03N1Xx Well-Known Member

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    I have an ex who ONLY texts me when he's drunk/smashed off his face on whatever substance he can get his hands on. It's the only time he WANTS to talk, and couldn't give a shit that I exist any other time..

    Recently he moved about 12 hours away... and when he's home he will text me at 2am, when he knows my OH is at work, asking where I am.. lol. 3 guesses what he wants...

    Ignore those texts honey, your FOB needs to grow some balls and take some responsibility for himself!
     
  15. xAmiixLouisex

    xAmiixLouisex Mommy! <3

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    I've woke up with such a clearer head. Yeah he's deffo a fucking jerk. The whole convo he didn't even acknowledge the baby! I thought if he ever got in touch, it would be about the baby. But, why the hell is he trying to conversate with me? Me and him aren't important and unless it's bout my son we don't have anything to talk about. I think I was clinging onto straws but when I read the texts today I've realised there's nothing in there that even gives the impression he's gonna be a dad. And the whole, "I'll talk to you soon". Well, when? Next time you get drunk. When your sons born? When CSA contact you for child support? :shrug:

    I'm just gonna forget I ever heard off him. I'll keep you updated if I anything else comes up. But I'm not depending on it and if everytime he gets in touch is just because he's wasted, I'm gonna tell him to fuck off with his drunken self.
     
  16. sjwebb

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    Good :) You and your son deserve a REAL man who is going to take care of you guys and actually care for both of you. There are tons of good men out there but obviously he isn't one of them. FOB? Yeah, right. More like sperm donor. :D
     
  17. LaRockera

    LaRockera Well-Known Member

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    My advice is, let is sip.

    Only the future will tell if he was drunk or high or whatever, or not.

    Depending on his future attitude you can decide what to do. Right now you have other things to think about. :winkwink:
     
  18. stickylizard

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    wow what a prick! sorry but id have been like whatEVER he sounds like a frickin moron!

    whats with the "do what youre doin" crap?


    also i agree it does sound like he wanted a booty call. which makes me want to punch him where itll make sure this is his only baby! xxx
     
  19. Jen_xx

    Jen_xx Bun in the Oven

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    Next time he text you "play it cool" like he said...and ignore his ass.
    He is trying to guilt you and blame you for what is going on.
    Typical immature twit move. And TBH his mother should be ashamed (just read your other post)

    I'd never sit around and allow my son to be an ass and support him through it because I KNOW I'd never raise my child to act to heartless. Apparently she DIDN'T raise her son not to be a dick though.

    You're a bright, beautiful women with an amazing blessing. Don't allow his ignorance to mess anything up for you, doll. He doesn't deserve the pleasure.
     
  20. dustbunny

    dustbunny mummy bird

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    Men... no... boys... are just dicks. They think with their dick, act with their dick and sod the consequences. I think with the text he was probably just doing what he thought was enough effort so he can say "at least I tried," I'm sorry but you and your baby deserve better. Ignore him for the time being. :hugs:
     

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