sorry if tmi...

Discussion in 'Miscarriage Support' started by T'elle, Apr 12, 2009.

  1. T'elle

    T'elle feeling blessed & lucky!

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    I m/c around a week ago now i think, sorry my head is all over the place for dates and times :( but DH and i had sex for the first time since m/c and i was in a lot of pain inside during BD :( is this normal xx
     
  2. CarCam

    CarCam WTT after 2nd MC :(

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    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a miscarriage five days ago now, and I am scared to death to resume having sex.

    I don't know from personal experience, but I wouldn't think sex should hurt. Do you think maybe it is because you weren't very interested because of what you just went through? Maybe your body wasn't relaxing very well. I know if I am not in the mood, things down there just don't feel very good. Know what I mean?:blush:

    I have to say, for me personally, it will be very hard- emotionally- to have sex again. I am much more nervous about it this time than I was after having a vaginal delivery.

    Definitely talk to your doctor about it, but maybe next time you should wait for a while until you have had ample time to heal emotionally, physically and mentally.

    Again, I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't hesitate to contact me anytime if you would like to talk. :hugs:
     
  3. Parkep

    Parkep Very happy mom

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    Ummmm hun i really hope there isnt a next time...


    it could be that your cervix wasnt back to normal? i know my cervix was REALLY sensitive after and any how to put this :blush: stenuous sex hurt or too deep of sex try controlling it your self if you know what i mean :blush: this helped me alot... I am really sorry for your loss hun PM me if you need anything :hug:
     
  4. dan-o

    dan-o RMC's but mum to 3 now!

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    So sorry t'elle :hugs:

    We've BD a few times since & the first couple of tries were painful if he bumped my cervix, same as when I was pg (sorry for tmi!)
    Now it's been a while it doesnt seem to hurt at all any more xx

    :hug:
     
  5. broodylocket

    broodylocket Well-Known Member

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    when i m/c i felt "wrong" down there, and tried have sex and ended up crying it hurt so much, it cause i didnt feel ready to have sex again. hope that helps x sorry for ur loss xx:hugs:
     
  6. Jessa

    Jessa Guest

    I agree with broody. If you're not quite ready emotionally, you might find that your body responds by you feeling physical pain. After our first miscarriage, I felt just like this, but after the second miscarriage I felt much more ready to start having sex again almost right away. Give yourself a little bit longer to deal with the emotional pain and then try again. If it is really worrying you, perhaps you should talk it over with your doctor.
     

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