Wishfullmama
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Urg Ok well since I am on BnB as being pregnant with my third, I have come across this section and need to vent, and hopefully find some answers! If I ramble, I am sorry, as I tend to ramble my words
I have a six year old son named Blake, and ever since he was three, the doctor, myself, and family have noticed his behavior is not like the other childrens. Blake is hyperactive, rages are out of control, sleep cycle is like a roller coaster, he cannot focus or concentrate on ANYTHING (even play time can be frustrating for Blake!), anxiety is off the charts high, and some noises effect Blake (hand driers are a big one! as well as a toilet flushing), as well as feelings of certain things (he wont use the shower unless it is the head that can come down and is not attached to the top of the shower, he doesnt like it over his face and will panic, and at the age of three, he hated HATED being in the tub while it ran, he would panic and cry one time causing scratch marks all down my back!)
His doctor did make notice to all of these things, and him and I were working on a solution to all of them. I was hesitant to medicate Blake at first, since we truly had no diagnosis and I did not feel like sedating my three year old.....
We did see a psychologist, no help to say unfortunatly, even with the situation Blake had with sounds he was no help, pretty much saying Blake is three and he will 'outgrow' it so to speak.
So I went back to Blakes doctor. Blakes doctor, at the age of five for Blake finally convinced me to try Blake on a ADHD med (Strattera) which I did since it is not a sedative nor a stimulant. I did not notice a change at all. Actually, I noticed Blake becoming MORE anxious and worked up over everything. Unfortunatly (and I am about to ball while writing this) Blake was molested by another child older then him down the street. It did cause alot of nightmares, anxiety and stress on my child, and the doctor and I were both unsure if the anxiety was caused truly by this or by the strattera, but he did say we could stop it on a trial and see how Blake did over the summer.
Well summer came and gone, first grade was beginning, and I really did not want Blake on strattera again, so his doctor did tell me we need Blake on something, it will help with the situation and help Blake better absorb certain behavioral techniques we were trying with him. His doctor decided to put him on ritalin. We started at a small dose, but right away I noticed it was doing the same thing the strattera does, making him edgy. So I called the doctor, explained this all to him, and he told me ritalin is a tricky med and sometimes the levels have to be raised to find the right dose, so he rose Blakes ritalin, and I was still seeing a more anxious and depressed child! So, I went to get my mail about 2 weeks ago, this doctor, the one that way trying SO SO SO hard to help me with this, has left! He left the area and moved up north to work in the prison! So since I had seen no change in Blake with the med, as it was making him more anxious and more depressed, I called a new doctor, which was a pediatrician, HOPING he would help me with this, hoping he has seen it before since he was a pediatrician and could shed some light...I was so wrong! This doctor pretty much said nothing was wrong with Blake and that it all is involved with how I parent him! I was heartbroken! I have tried everything with Blake, and to hear this doctor tell me nothing is there...when I see my son suffer with anxiety, when I see my son pace with anxiety, cry at noises, not be able to sit still to save his life, something is not right with my child! So the doctor also said Blake needs to get more sleep (even though Blakes sleep cycle is so irregular, some months Blake can sleep from 8 in the evening until 10 in the morning, and some months he is up until midnight and up at 4) and put Blake on clonidine.
To add to all of this, Blake is now having issues at school, becomming more defiant then usual, acting out to peers, not listening, and not attempting to do any schoolwork. He lies about his schoolwork and when he comes home World War Three breaks out in my house. His teacher called me today, explained to me Blake disrupted the class (once again after numerous times) and her and I now have a conference on Monday to discuss it all.
I just dont know what to do anymore.
Blake is such a fun child, he really is, and I love him more then life itself! He is funny, warm, caring, and his melt my heart, but I know for him inside it must not feel so good to go through all of this!
I am sick and tired of the looks in stores, I am sick and tired of no one understanding and that doctor just made it worse. He barely had seen my child for 5 minutes, actually had to remove Blake from the room due to Blakes defiant behavior in there, but then continued to tell me it is all about my parenting....
I am just at a loss, I dont know what to do.....
I have a six year old son named Blake, and ever since he was three, the doctor, myself, and family have noticed his behavior is not like the other childrens. Blake is hyperactive, rages are out of control, sleep cycle is like a roller coaster, he cannot focus or concentrate on ANYTHING (even play time can be frustrating for Blake!), anxiety is off the charts high, and some noises effect Blake (hand driers are a big one! as well as a toilet flushing), as well as feelings of certain things (he wont use the shower unless it is the head that can come down and is not attached to the top of the shower, he doesnt like it over his face and will panic, and at the age of three, he hated HATED being in the tub while it ran, he would panic and cry one time causing scratch marks all down my back!)
His doctor did make notice to all of these things, and him and I were working on a solution to all of them. I was hesitant to medicate Blake at first, since we truly had no diagnosis and I did not feel like sedating my three year old.....
We did see a psychologist, no help to say unfortunatly, even with the situation Blake had with sounds he was no help, pretty much saying Blake is three and he will 'outgrow' it so to speak.
So I went back to Blakes doctor. Blakes doctor, at the age of five for Blake finally convinced me to try Blake on a ADHD med (Strattera) which I did since it is not a sedative nor a stimulant. I did not notice a change at all. Actually, I noticed Blake becoming MORE anxious and worked up over everything. Unfortunatly (and I am about to ball while writing this) Blake was molested by another child older then him down the street. It did cause alot of nightmares, anxiety and stress on my child, and the doctor and I were both unsure if the anxiety was caused truly by this or by the strattera, but he did say we could stop it on a trial and see how Blake did over the summer.
Well summer came and gone, first grade was beginning, and I really did not want Blake on strattera again, so his doctor did tell me we need Blake on something, it will help with the situation and help Blake better absorb certain behavioral techniques we were trying with him. His doctor decided to put him on ritalin. We started at a small dose, but right away I noticed it was doing the same thing the strattera does, making him edgy. So I called the doctor, explained this all to him, and he told me ritalin is a tricky med and sometimes the levels have to be raised to find the right dose, so he rose Blakes ritalin, and I was still seeing a more anxious and depressed child! So, I went to get my mail about 2 weeks ago, this doctor, the one that way trying SO SO SO hard to help me with this, has left! He left the area and moved up north to work in the prison! So since I had seen no change in Blake with the med, as it was making him more anxious and more depressed, I called a new doctor, which was a pediatrician, HOPING he would help me with this, hoping he has seen it before since he was a pediatrician and could shed some light...I was so wrong! This doctor pretty much said nothing was wrong with Blake and that it all is involved with how I parent him! I was heartbroken! I have tried everything with Blake, and to hear this doctor tell me nothing is there...when I see my son suffer with anxiety, when I see my son pace with anxiety, cry at noises, not be able to sit still to save his life, something is not right with my child! So the doctor also said Blake needs to get more sleep (even though Blakes sleep cycle is so irregular, some months Blake can sleep from 8 in the evening until 10 in the morning, and some months he is up until midnight and up at 4) and put Blake on clonidine.
To add to all of this, Blake is now having issues at school, becomming more defiant then usual, acting out to peers, not listening, and not attempting to do any schoolwork. He lies about his schoolwork and when he comes home World War Three breaks out in my house. His teacher called me today, explained to me Blake disrupted the class (once again after numerous times) and her and I now have a conference on Monday to discuss it all.
I just dont know what to do anymore.
Blake is such a fun child, he really is, and I love him more then life itself! He is funny, warm, caring, and his melt my heart, but I know for him inside it must not feel so good to go through all of this!
I am sick and tired of the looks in stores, I am sick and tired of no one understanding and that doctor just made it worse. He barely had seen my child for 5 minutes, actually had to remove Blake from the room due to Blakes defiant behavior in there, but then continued to tell me it is all about my parenting....
I am just at a loss, I dont know what to do.....