Staying in hospital??

[Lauraxamy]

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[brandonsgirl]

Honestly dont plan anything. I had everything planned out on how i wanted it to happen and not one thing went to plan. I wanted to go home after the 6 hours your ment to stay and i ended up having to stay for a couple of days.
Your allowed to go home after the pediatrition has seen your baby and given you the all clear. And it does all depend on how busy they are.
If everything is ok and you are determined to go home ( depending on your hospitals policies) you can discharge yourself and baby and have your DR see the baby insted of the pediatrition BUT it has to be 72 hours after baby is born else they can press charges for neglect.
Trust me i went through all the options coz i was determined to go home. If you stand your ground about wanting to go home and show them you mean it they will generally speed things up so you can go.
I kicked up a fuss coz they had strung me along all day, i even got to the point where i refused to do the food menu for the next day and got myself and baby dressed and they finally got the pediatrition to come down to see him.
Good luck with everything though.

 

[Lauraxamy]

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[brandonsgirl]

I was told that too. But when i went for my check up they thought that my waters had gone 3 days before so i had to be induced incase of infection. The induction was horrible but becuase of the scare of infection i had to stay in over night because of risk to LO. Of corse everything was fine but they were determined and i went down to labor ward fairly late anyways so i knew it would only be a couple of hours untill the next morning when i could go home. But then they strung me along all day and it was 8 that night before they gave me a straight answer. I hated every moment of being in there. I asked nearly every hour when the DR was coming down to see LO and they would tell me 'oh not long now only 10 mins, oh your next etc etc' and they was telling me that since 11 in the morning. So i gave up and said i was discharging myself, got us both dressed and just as OH was helping me to the toilet to get changed the DR came in to assess LO.
Sometimes it just takes you showing them that your serious and mean what you say for them to actually listen to you.
Dont let them fob you off or string you along. If you want something let them know. The majority of the people are lovely and will help out as much as they can but you get the one or two snotty ones that 'listen but ignore' if you know what i mean and after giving birth they can really upset you lol.
I was worried to use the buzzer thing incase they were busy but then i saw a spider and nothing stopped me pressing the buzzer lol. After that everything i needed i would call someone, thats what they are there for, so dont feel bad for asking i you need something either.
I hope everything goes well for you though, and if by any chance you do have to stay for some reason i hope you have nice MW's

 

[lizardbreath]

It depends on How everything goes Really I had my Daughter and I wasnt allowed to leave That Night because of what Time she was Born. But i got to leave as soon It was Day time as both me and baby were Fine and i had No stiches or anything like that. But dont Plan anything to much because if you have to stay then you have to stay , and sadly Fighting with them just makes you stay longer. So just go with the Flow of things

 

[sleepinbeauty]

No, you don't HAVE to. Sadly, my hospitals might make you stay. Like others have said, don't make any concrete plans but if you want to and it is safe you shouldn't HAVE to stay the whole 3 days or whatever it is.

At least, that's how it is over here... I had a friend plan a homebirth, go in for the delivery then come home not even 6 hours later. It all depends on the situation.

 

[daniellelk]

I'm praying I don't have to stay in over night, I wont be able to sleep.
I had a operation a couple of year's ago, and didn't get one wink of sleep :/

 

[amandad192]

I had Liam at 16:04. That night I had 3 blood transfusions and a catheter so my call buzzer was used ALOT..every time he needed feeding/changing/had been sick etc.
There was one time he was sick and I couldn't find the buzzer. I was so overwhelmed from my labour I ended out crying.
The next night I had to stay in because Liam was jaundice and they wanted to keep an eye on him. I didn't get to leave the hospital until about 4/5 o'clock the next day.
I would advice you to stay in hospital with LO the first night, especially if your planning on breastfeeding, or need to sleep. The MW's will help you BFing if you need it. If you go home and have to get help, it may take a while for someone to get there, and LO will be crying the whole time waiting for food. Also if LO won't settle the MW's can take him/her away for a while so you can get some sleep.
I had a few grumpy MW's! After I had my catheter removed (and I'd had an epidural) I didn't feel the need to go to the toilet until I felt DESPERATE to pee and HAD TO GO ASAP. At that point I'd find my bladder screaming to be emptied and my kidneys in pain. After the first night I kept getting pain in my kidneys if I bent down so to change Liam's nappy I would place him on the bed, raise the bed to the highest it would go and not need to bend down. The MW's moaned at me for it because he weed whilst he had his nappy off and they had to change my bed sheets. Again..I ended out crying.
The only bad point about staying in over night is that it's just you and LO. Your OH can't stay to help you out.

See how you feel after giving birth, you might be desperate to leave, or you may appreciated the help and decide you'd like to stay a night (or 2)
Good luck x

 

[brandonsgirl]

I had Liam at 16:04. That night I had 3 blood transfusions and a catheter so my call buzzer was used ALOT..every time he needed feeding/changing/had been sick etc.
There was one time he was sick and I couldn't find the buzzer. I was so overwhelmed from my labour I ended out crying.
The next night I had to stay in because Liam was jaundice and they wanted to keep an eye on him. I didn't get to leave the hospital until about 4/5 o'clock the next day.
I would advice you to stay in hospital with LO the first night, especially if your planning on breastfeeding, or need to sleep. The MW's will help you BFing if you need it. If you go home and have to get help, it may take a while for someone to get there, and LO will be crying the whole time waiting for food. Also if LO won't settle the MW's can take him/her away for a while so you can get some sleep.
I had a few grumpy MW's! After I had my catheter removed (and I'd had an epidural) I didn't feel the need to go to the toilet until I felt DESPERATE to pee and HAD TO GO ASAP. At that point I'd find my bladder screaming to be emptied and my kidneys in pain. After the first night I kept getting pain in my kidneys if I bent down so to change Liam's nappy I would place him on the bed, raise the bed to the highest it would go and not need to bend down. The MW's moaned at me for it because he weed whilst he had his nappy off and they had to change my bed sheets. Again..I ended out crying.
The only bad point about staying in over night is that it's just you and LO. Your OH can't stay to help you out.



See how you feel after giving birth, you might be desperate to leave, or you may appreciated the help and decide you'd like to stay a night (or 2)
Good luck x

Aww hun sounds like you had a crappy time too.

 

[trashit]

Brandon's girl is completely right; dont plan. I was saying before labour, oh i dont wanna stay when hes here, ill discharge myself. He was born via forceps cos he had shoulder dystocia and was face first, i had a spinal so couldnt feel my body for first few hours after, catheter, i was hooked up to various machines and i felt like shit. I couldnt move for the first day after, so i wouldn't have wanted to go home nor could it have been possible unless someone carried me lol. Give yourself time to recover, and imo its much safer to have LO in hosp for first day after, just incase. I didnt sleep the entire time i was in hosp either (went into labour saturday, wasnt discharged til tuesday) but you wont think of that, its all about baby! xx

 

[amandad192]

I had Liam at 16:04. That night I had 3 blood transfusions and a catheter so my call buzzer was used ALOT..every time he needed feeding/changing/had been sick etc.
There was one time he was sick and I couldn't find the buzzer. I was so overwhelmed from my labour I ended out crying.
The next night I had to stay in because Liam was jaundice and they wanted to keep an eye on him. I didn't get to leave the hospital until about 4/5 o'clock the next day.
I would advice you to stay in hospital with LO the first night, especially if your planning on breastfeeding, or need to sleep. The MW's will help you BFing if you need it. If you go home and have to get help, it may take a while for someone to get there, and LO will be crying the whole time waiting for food. Also if LO won't settle the MW's can take him/her away for a while so you can get some sleep.
I had a few grumpy MW's! After I had my catheter removed (and I'd had an epidural) I didn't feel the need to go to the toilet until I felt DESPERATE to pee and HAD TO GO ASAP. At that point I'd find my bladder screaming to be emptied and my kidneys in pain. After the first night I kept getting pain in my kidneys if I bent down so to change Liam's nappy I would place him on the bed, raise the bed to the highest it would go and not need to bend down. The MW's moaned at me for it because he weed whilst he had his nappy off and they had to change my bed sheets. Again..I ended out crying.
The only bad point about staying in over night is that it's just you and LO. Your OH can't stay to help you out.



See how you feel after giving birth, you might be desperate to leave, or you may appreciated the help and decide you'd like to stay a night (or 2)
Good luck x

Aww hun sounds like you had a crappy time too.

Yep, I had quite a rough time. Emotions were all over the place. My labour was TERRIBLE. Liam was back to back, needed ventouse and his shoulder got stuck on the way out. After such an experience a few days in hospital actually did me a lot of good (even with the odd crappy MW.) I had a good laugh with my OH about one of the MW's though. Her name was Maureen and every time some one called out her name it reminded me of the directory inquiry adverts on TV "Ohh, she's cheap."

There's no knowing how anyone's labour will turn out to be. So I'd suggest that you pack your hospital bag assuming your going to be staying overnight. If all is good and you get to go home and manage ok, then great. But if you need to stay at least you have everything you need and don't have to panic about clean clothes.

Make sure you pack LOADS of vests/babygros in your hospital bag. My dad and OH told me I looked like I'd packed for a weeks stay, but then I ended out needing MORE clean clothes for Liam.

 

[brandonsgirl]

Yeah thats true.. In the first day or so babies bring u a fair amount of mucus and flem type spit up so its good to have alot of bibs or something. I dont know about the type of hospital you are going to but ours was really hot so we just kept LO in a short sleeve vest. So i wish i would have packed more of them. I took a starter pack of nappies too. The ones that are 27 count. The hospital didnt provide any of that for me. They did provide anything actually, not even pads for me (only the huge bed pads) So i would make sure you bring more then enough pads too.
Oh and remember you loose all dignity when you go in lol

 

[Mummy2Asher]

i agree, dont plan. even if you have a great birth and baby is all well, alot of the times midwives are busy and dont get things done and also have alot of women to discharge.
i had to stay in with my son for a week becuase i had gbs and had to have checks ash didnt get it. but i am glad i did stay, bf'ing for a 1st time mum is hard, i would be answering bells all night long to try and get a baby to latch on.
if me and baby are fine im going to push for a 6hr discharge, theres nothing i need to learn, im a bf counsellor, worked on maternity for a year and a 2nd time mum, noone needs to show me anything. and i KNOW even if i have a tear again i can still go home straight away, i have asked several consultants this and if they fob me off i will complain. midwives can check everything is okay when your at home.
but who knows how this birth will go, if they dont induce me and i have a quick labour again the this baby will have to have the checks my son did to make sure he didnt get gbs. so we will see! but i really want to go home quick, i HATE leaving my son.

 

[amandad192]

Yeah thats true.. In the first day or so babies bring u a fair amount of mucus and flem type spit up so its good to have alot of bibs or something. I dont know about the type of hospital you are going to but ours was really hot so we just kept LO in a short sleeve vest. So i wish i would have packed more of them. I took a starter pack of nappies too. The ones that are 27 count. The hospital didnt provide any of that for me. They did provide anything actually, not even pads for me (only the huge bed pads) So i would make sure you bring more then enough pads too.
Oh and remember you loose all dignity when you go in lol

I was provided with 5 nappies whilst still on the labour ward. I was provided with disposable underwear and a pad after my shower (just the one though) There was also brown bags in the toilet/shower room to put your sanitary towels in before binning them. I took some of these home with me

 

[brandonsgirl]

Wow you were lucky, i got nothing. Not even help with BF all i got was leaflets. So i just kind of guessed and what ever felt right. I didnt even get offered a shower. lol

 

[trashit]

I was provided with 5 nappies too lol! no pads for me and i only brought ten, i didnt think id need any more but you dont realise how much blood there is before, i was getting through about that in a day, so definitely remember pads, pads, pads! and remember 0-3 clothes as well as newborn, i cant state the importance of that enough! None of the clothes except the vest fit Jude, so my mum had to have a manic rush back to mine to get baby grows that fit!! And the hosp was reli hot for me too, i was sweltering!!! didnt help i was right next to window with the sun shining through,
and what else.
Oh yeah i dont think Jude's normal, there was never any mucus and he's never thrown up, he spits milk back out sometimes but thats just dribbling lol. x

 

[brandonsgirl]

I think they say there is alot of mucus coming up if your baby swallows some when coming out. Proberly the way i was induced and LO heart rate kept dropping ment he took in a fair amount of mucus.

 

[fantastica]

Honestly..it's not that bad staying in hospital...i HATE hospitals haha..and kept trying to leave..but everything was awful..I had a catheter for 3 days so couldn't get up..had to be on all kinds of drugs and 2 blood transfusions...and tbh fighting everything made it worse!

Don't worry about not being able to sleep....labour is so tiring not a whole lot will keep you awake haha!

 

[Mellie1988]

Well with DD I had her at 11:42pm, so I had to stay in over night, the next day I asked when I could go home & she told me not till the next morning, I just said no way, me & DD were perfectly fine, BF was going well etc and I was just taking up a bed that I didn't even need! Soo I discharged myself at 6pm that night, so wasn't even in 24 hours!

With DS I had him at 9:10am, MW straight away asked me if I would like a 6 hour discharge, I was like ermmm no, I want a good nights sleep before going home (I must of been high of the gas and air still pmsl, good night sleep in a hospital?!) so I was taken to the ward and omg it just dragged all day, everyone had visitors all day & I just felt sooo lonely and just wanted to go home (DP was at home sleeping as we had been up all night and my mum was looking after my DD) so I told the nurse I had changed my mind and would like to go home, she said she would see what she could do but there was no docs available to discharge me and baby, so I had to stay over night ...DPS auntie was a MW on the ward though so I got my own private room (normally you have to pay £30 a night!) so I wasn't too bothered, and I actually did get an okayish nights sleep! Next day we was waiting all day pretty much for a doctor to come though, apparently there was a big emergency in the SCBU I think in the end we just had a senior MW look over baby, tbh I just wanted to go home!!

But yeah like the others have said, you don't know what your labour might bring, so I would psych yourself up for a 3 day stay, if you get to go home earlier its a bonus!

Good luck
x

 

[Lauraxamy]

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