Struggling with weight issues

[blue_kat]

sorry this is so long....just been bothering me and its nice to get it off my chest!

I am having such mixed feelings at the moment - first thing to say is how happy I am to have this baby growing inside me and I LOVE the bump...its just the rest!

I did weight watcher for years, was so careful to track exactly what I ate and hardly ever ate anything 'naughty'....when I got to my goal I slacked off and after a year or so put on enough to keep me just a few lbs over my ideal weight, I had just started to get back on track when I got my BFP.....

from that moment I decided my baby was the most important thing, I wouldnt worry about my weight and would just enjoy my food (cos it may be last time I could enjoy eating what I want for a long time!)....plus I sometimes worry that I have a slight ocd about food, I wouldnt like to say food disorder but I was so obsessive about tracking everything I ate and would worry if I had a treat...this is not good for baby's health.

Now I can see the weight creeping on, my face is chubby again and my hips/bum/boobs etc are massive! I just feel really unattractive! I am not saying I am the largest person (my maternity trousers are 12/14) but I just feel so out of control and I hate it! plus I am suffering with back ache and general pains a fair amount now which feel fat related not pregnancy although probably not.

I have started cooking much healthier options such as slow cooker meals with loads of veg, fruit instead of cakes and have ordered myself a gymball pregnancy dvd but I still have the odd splurge and its my self confidence which I need help with! My OH is lovely but he is so slim and literally can eat family sized portions without putting any weight on. (hoping baby takes after him!)

I am hoping other people have similar feelings so I dont feel alone...I think thats my main problem, I dont have any close friends locally who I can talk this stuff through with

(lol saying this out loud is screaming HORMONES)

 

[MissFox]

Aww, its rough. I gained 40 lbs from birth control and when I quit I put on another 15! I hate it. I used to be a us size 3 and now I'm an 11!!It's hard for me to cope with it especailly when I my Dr tells me she'd only like me to gain 15lbs this pregnancy!!! It's hard and all you can do is eat right (but remember- INDULGE! You're PREGNANT!). I told her that I will eat the way I eat and I will gain what I gain and I hope it's not a lot. So far I've got a belly on me and I've only gained about 2lbs. I'm afraid of what the upcoming weeks have in store especially with the holidays but I'm going to try to be good.

 

[blue_kat]

thank you xx

I have decided to try not to worry so much, once baby comes we can do lots of walking on the seafront and then when the time is right I will head back to Weight watchers...

Dont think it helps owning a pair of scales - I must remember to hide them!

 

[KandyKinz]

I hate the out of control feeling too... Everytime I go near a scale I just dread that it's gonna be some crazy number. So far I'm not doing too bad in terms of weight gain. I lost some in the first trimester and now I'm just 1 lbs over my prepregnancy weight but I feel that at any given moment I could just suddenly put on twenty or thirty or forty pounds and have absolutely no control over it.

 

[happytobe...]

So know how you feel!

Have struggled with my weight forever and just can't stand the lack of control regarding my weight. Am 16 weeks today and have just started wearing maternity trousers. Only told people last week and they've gone from being "really you would never know2 to "oh your beginning to show!" Im starting to feel guilty that im not happy about my emerging bump, but im sure for both of us it's just a phase. When it's really obvious im sure it will get easier.

Just remember this only lasts 9 months we should embrace it, the weight will soon come off afterwards and it's only baby anyway...

 

[MeAndMyShadow]

Awww hun
I know what this is like too. I was already overweight before becoming pregnant, now I feel like I'm getting a bit too chubby, been taking this eating for 2 thing to literally! Also, not feeling too attractive at the moment.
But, I know in the scheme of life that pregnancy isn't that long so might as well enjoy it, now is the time to be okay with a few extra pounds, baby will appreciate it
Hang in there babes, this pregnancy thing is tough but we are all beautiful and making a wonderful new creation!
xx

 

[Kelly81]

I can relate to you, I am still very overweight now but have been on Weight Watchers for the past year and have lost almost five stone.

It was so bl**dy hard shifting it I'm really not looking forward to putting any back on again. I really like that my clothes feel loose and I feel so much fitter than I did a year ago even though as I said I'm still the size of a whale, albeit a much smaller one!

I'm trying to stick to healthy eating but am finding myself having little treats or eating out more often... really must stop this The only good thing is I can't fit as much in my stomach as I could pre-diet so at least I can limit what I eat.

I think for 'normal' sized people gaining the recommended amount of weight is totally fine, but that's easy for me to say, if I had lost all my excess weight before getting pregnant I'd more than likely still not want to gain much back, so all I can really say is try not to worry and you're not alone in worrying about this issue

 

[Macmad]

Oh, I'm so with you on this!

I was never a big eater before and was always in control of my weight. Mainly going to the gym and eating low carbs.

But then I got BFP and BANG, its all gone to pot! I've put weight on my hips and bum and haven't been able to get into any of my usual trouser or jeans since week 9. Some days I am so depressed......

I know that I am pregnant and try to eat healthy and drink lots of water but I HATE the feeling of not controlling my weight. I'm doing light exercise too but that doesn't make any difference. I only need to look at carbs and the weight is on my hips and bum!!!

I'm sure my hubby is not going to fancy me anymore and this is the part of pregnancy I knew I would hate. It is hard to feel ok about putting on weight, I suppose I wouldn't mind if I had a cute bump but I just look fat.

 

[blue_kat]

thank you so much everyone, its so good to know I am not alone

I am sure that once bubs comes I will be moaning about how rubbish it is having to control my eating so might as well enjoy this while I can x

 

[Beckster30]

I really know and sympathise with how you feel. I have struggled since early adulthood with my weight. During my pregnancy and after having my first daughter I had severe depression, couldn't leave the house and went up to 20 stone. I lost 8 stone following Atkins and then got pregnant with my 2nd daughter, put on 4 stone, lost some, then had my DS. When he was 6 months old I started Slimming World because it's safe to follow while breastfeeding, within 6 months I had lost 4.5 stone and got to my target weight of 10 stone, size 10, which is the slimmest I had ever been. I maintained for over eighteen months and then BAM surprise BFP!

I have been trying my hardest to control my eating because trust me I can get out of control! and that's what I hate the most, like food controls me not the other way around. I think I'm gaining weight at the right speed but still struggle to see the weight go on and get quite down about it. But I know once baby is here I can get back to Slimming World and between that and breastfeeding am confident I can get back to where I was.

I keep reminding myself my body is doing an amazing thing growing a new life and not to be too focused on weight, so I'll enjoy having treats but certainly won't be eating for 2 this time round!

Sorry for the essay

 

[daisy118]

This is one thing that makes pregnancy so hard. With my first, I gained weight everywhere you can possibly imagine. I had been on a very healthy, pretty strict eating plan before I got married and then a month and a half after, got pregnant. I think my body went into survival mode or something and I gained about 50 lbs. (I know...I know...) Part of the problem-for me anyway- was that I NEVER stepped on a scale except when I went to the doctor. Or exercised. I told myself I was too tired. After giving birth, it took me soooooo long to get it off. I was eating for 2 full grown adults instead of me and a little one. Anyway, this time around, after losing most (except about 10 lbs) of baby weight, I step on the scale a couple times a week. I just have to make sure I am not getting out of control. If is creeping up faster than I would like, I know I need to reign in the sweets etc. Also, I walk about 5-6 days a week now. That has helped me. But I have still already gained about 5/6 lbs and I am just about 15 weeks.

I was thinking that maybe, if you started walking daily, or every other day, that would make you feel more in control and better about how you look. ? I definitely relate to how you are feeling right now. I think some of us just naturally gain weight a little easier during pregnancy than others. Hang in there. You are not alone in how you feel.

 

[blue_kat]

Thanks Daisy, I totally understand what you are saying....I forgot to mention that I actually have a massively active job and generally spend most of my days walking around (plus living in a hilly part of the country its fairly aerobic which I hate lol) .....so excersise is definately not the issue!

I just keep telling myself the weight WILL come off, if I managed before I can do it again!

If I am honest I think part of it is because my midwife hasnt weighed me at all and so am scared of getting on the scales and her telling me off lol! Plus it really doesnt help that when I stood on mine at home the other day, I am the same weight as the first time I went to WeightWatchers all those years ago.....even with baby it was a bit of a shocking moment as I told myself I would never allow myself to get that big again!