telling your parents?

[libbymarks198]

how did you tell your parents? how far along where you? and what where their reactions?

i have been pregnant before but lost the baby i wrote mum a letter last time, she rung me and went nuts, then i didnt see her for a few days she then made me go to a family meeting where they all went nuts again tried to make me get an abortion and then calmed down a bit after that.. i know this time is going to be a million times worse as they now hate my OH and he hates them, she is always trying to make me leave him (because he didnt have a job for 6 months) and they fight all the time... we live alone and i am in debt so we are going to struggle with money for the first year.. they are going to flip it i am so so scared

 

[Burchy314]

Hey I am Tina, 17 and I told my parents with my youth paster because I was afraid to tell them alone, but the one thing that upset my parents the most was that I didn't go to them alone. I suggest sitting them down and telling them as calmly as possible. Explain to them how much you neeed their support. I waited until I was about 14 weeks even though I knew like right away. I also suggest doing it before then because the sooner you tell then the sooner you get the care you and your baby needs. My parents reacted pretty good thankfully. We talked it out without any yelling and by the next day they were making jokes about it.

But you need to explain to your parents how much you need their love and support and how you want to keep the baby. Maybe after they have calmed down a bit have the FOB talk to your family and explain to them how much he cares for you and the baby and what he is going to do to make things right.

I wish you the best of luck and congrats on the pregnancy.

 

[libbymarks198]

thanks hun!

FOB will not talk to them he only sees them about 2-3 times a year and they say hi and bye to one another.

im not worried about telling them late as me and OH live alone and can afford any care we need and can organise it all ourselves.
i like the idea about telling them with some one, i might get my aunty (mums sister) to sit with me and tell mum i know my aunty will be a bit mad but she will be good about telling mum with me.. me and OH had planned this baby so its going to be hard to tell them that it will make it worse i can tell them it was an accident but i know she wont believe that..

eeek i am so scared to tell them

 

[Burchy314]

Yeah I was really scared too! Just do what you think is best and I wish you luck!

 

[libbymarks198]

thanks hun, i wish i could wait until i am about 16 weeks as me and OH are going to australia for the week so i could write them a letter before i go like put it in their letter box and they would have a week to calm down haha, the only thing is they are dog sitting my two babies for me and i would be scared the woudlnt give them back

 

[Burchy314]

Haha that might work, and I am sure they will give you your dogs back. Maybe just talk to your OH about all your options and see what he thinks is best and also maybe talk to your aunt and she what she thinks is best.

 

[libbymarks198]

he just says as long as he doesnt have to be there and that they dont come around to the house, he said he will lock the doors and close the curtains

 

[Burchy314]

Well then if you feel like you need support and someone that you care about advise I would suggest going to your Aunt. Also it will help because you trust her and she knows your mom well so I think she would be great to talk to about this if needed.

 

[Leah_xx]

Hi hun!
Im leah and im 17
I found out the day before prom that i was pregnant
i told my parents the day after.
I went downstairs and well started crying and my mom just knew.
I then told her mom I took a test well 3 and they all came back within a min that i was deff pregnant
Turned out when i went to the doctors 2 days later i was 14 weeks and 5 days

 

[libbymarks198]

wow i wish i found out that far along and didnt have to worry about first tri.
where your parents okay?

 

[Tanara]

I think you should just tell them and get it over with, Honestly the worst thing they can do is get upset, which wouldn't even be that bad if your not living with them. I just told my parents both times the day i found out and they were pissed when i was pregnant with Taye for a while, disappointed in me since i was suppose to make more of my life, then within 2 weeks they totally came around. Good luck xxx

 

[Leah_xx]

my mom was shocked and dissapointed at first cause she was a teen mom
and dad was mad and upset,
but got over it the same day i told them

 

[libbymarks198]

thanks guys, i think once i have seen the heart beat i will tell them there is no point them getitng upset and mad if it is not a viable pregnancy like last time, i will be 20 when bubs is born, i am no longer a child under there care they dont pay for anything, so i think they should be happy for me i would be for my child

 

[Serene123]

On the phone, 4 weeks, "you've ruined your life!"

You have to remember peoples first reactions are not how they feel when your baby is born. My daughter is the best thing that's ever happened to my mum, apparently. Thanks mum!!

 

[libbymarks198]

yeah thanks hun i know they will love bubs so much when he/she is born, my cousin is a teen mum and the family was so annoyed and mad at her but they all love brody more than anything he is the apple of everyones eye. im just worried about those first few weeks of them being super mad

 

[libbymarks198]

should i tell them it was planned

 

[MissMamma]

yes! tell them the truth, they'll respect you much more for it. And whats the point lying about wanting your baby?
Good luck honey, you're not a kid anymore so they have no right to get mad [they might still do it because to them you'll always be their baby girl] but in the end its your life. If they see that this is something that matters so much to you i'm sure they'll be happy for you..xx

 

[FayDanielle]

I told my mum by text
I was just under 16 weeks and I was absolutely petrified of telling her and I knew there would be no other way to tell her, so I sent her a text.

Her reaction actually shocked me, she rung me...and I started crying right away and she told me to stop being silly and to calm down! I asked if she was ashamed of me, and she said no (to which I cried some more) and kept asking if she was angry!!
She told me to calm down, asked me how far I was, have I made my mind up over what I wanted to do, have I had a scan and I asked if she was mad which she replied and I quote...
'No Fay, your 19 years old, you have your own life now, your old enough. but im telling you now it'll be hard, but I promise you Ill do everything I can to help and support you'
*Cue more crying*
Anyway, the phone call ended and I was staying out that night over at a friends, at about 10am the next morning, she text me and said, 'I've bought you a moses basket!!'

So obviously I still had to face her, which I was nervous about! but I walked into the house and she was sat onto the computer and she just looked up and said 'Hello Mummy!! Lets have a look at your scan then!'

And to be honest shes been absolutely fine about it!!
Shes been really involved in my pregnancy and cant wait till my daughter is born!

Sorry for rambling, but I wish you all the best in telling your parents, like someone else said, be completely honest with them, because theyll find out your child was planned at some point and will be dissapointed if you dont tell them that from day 1.
xxx

 

[MummyToAmberx]

I gave my mam the scan picture & burst out crying. I was in huge state of shock.
I was 18weeks & 6 days. My mam told my dad.

 

[xtinydancerx]

I feel a little bit pathetic.
I'm pregnant with my first, 20 years old, out of the house, living with fiance soon to be hubby, we were engaged in Feb 2010, just found out we are expecting on Sept 3rd, I'm 5 weeks 4 days, my mom didn't talk to me for a year when I moved in with OH but since we have been talking again she has thrown herself into planning my wedding, I am terrified to tell her. I shouldn't be, I'm quite of age, I just hate how narrow minded she is and I know it's going to be bad.