Terrified of putting her in her own room ='[

[RainbowDrop_x]

DD is quite rapidly outgrowing her moses basket & I really don't think I'll be able to get away with keeping her with me for much longer. Before she was born I was adamant that she would be in her own room from an early age but then of course she came and things changed.. I KNOW I need to get her in her own room before she gets to used to being in with us..The problem is I'm terrified..

I don't know why. We have monitors. Her room is right next to ours. I just can't stand the thought of her being on her own all night. She has slept in her cot during the day and she does sleep really well in it but I just get over the fear of moving of her.. How do I get over it? I know she wont be in with me much longer and OH is adamant that we are NOT moving the cot into our room I can't bear the thought of her not being next to me at night

 

[MrsT&Ben]

Just take the plunge! It'll get easier. We did it about 6 weeks ago and it was horrible. I spent the first few nights leaping out of bed at every little noise. Drove OH mad.
DS on the other hand sleeps much better in his own room, best thing we did.

Good Luck xx

 

[cherryglitter]

I dont really have anything to say other than Im feeling exactly the same about Jake! He's really long for his age and im so worried about him outgrowing his moses basket already
I don't think I can have him in his own room, I will move the cot, with OH's support or not aha!xx

 

[Boomerslady]

Awww Hun I don't really know what to say, but once you've done it, it won't feel as bad iykwim.

Ben went into his own room at just under 5 months and immediately started sleeping through! To be fair his cot does look much nicer than the cramped Moses!

It felt so weird at first going into my room at night and being able to turn the light on and make noise etc...after a few days it felt lovely! Kinda like me and the OH could be an 'us' again rather than just looking after Ben.

I hope it goes well when you do decide to do it.

ETA: Also I too jumped out of bed at every tony noise, it's natural! eventually you'll relax though I promise.

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

Awww Hun I don't really know what to say, but once you've done it, it won't feel as bad iykwim.

Ben went into his own room at just under 5 months and immediately started sleeping through! To be fair his cot does look much nicer than the cramped Moses!

It felt so weird at first going into my room at night and being able to turn the light on and make noise etc...after a few days it felt lovely! Kinda like me and the OH could be an 'us' again rather than just looking after Ben.

I hope it goes well when you do decide to do it.

See I feel the complete opposite!! She looks so lost & tiny in her cot lol. She loves it in her room don't get me wrong she'll sit an babble away happily to herself for hours.. I don't think she would be bothered by it at all..Me on the other hand. I'm a nervous wreck just thinking about it!!!!

 

[Boomerslady]

Bless you I was in hospital numerous times when Ben was ickle (first time at 3 weeks) so I was forced to be away from him so I've never felt the anxiety about leaving him.

It's purely natural and the worrying will prob never end!! My OH keeps reminding me of things like...learning to ride a bike, or starting school, I'm gonna be petrified for Ben but it has to be done...does that make sense??

 

[loopy_lou]

I though i would be ok when Harriet moved into her own room for the first time, in fact i was a wreck even with monitors.

First 2 weeks i could not sleep though partly because she was up teething pain (first week and a bit) and partially because i kept checking on her.

Only the last 2 nights have i had better nights sleep but I still checked on her when i got up to the toilet. I found putting a fan on in my room helped mask the little noises that they make so you sleep a little deeper - dont worry you will hear the noises you need to as far as i can tell.

She loves her room and much prefers it to sleeping with us and even though the bed shes left is only a little smaller than the one shes moved to (was in travel cot) she seams much happer and snug.

 

[mrsthomas623]

Oh I completely understand. My OH keeps pressuring me to put LO in his crib.. I tried it one night and was literally sick to my stomach, so when he woke up for a feed I brought him back to bed with me.

LO suffers with silent reflux so is constantly breathing like he has a chest cold and gagging on stomach acid, it terrifies me not to hear him right next to me. I actually just spent $130 on a Nap Nanny (big wedge like bed thing) and he now sleeps on that between DH and myself. Needless to say DH isnt too thrilled with it. I am hoping once the reflux gets better, I will be brave enough to put him in his crib.

 

[Kim T]

Aww hun. Its lovely once they are in their own room!
I moved my son to his own room a couple of weeks after he started sleeping through the night. So he ended up going in there when he was around 8 weeks old. I then slept on the sofa bed in his room for a couple weeks just so i got used to all the noises of his room etc and make sure he was ok, then i left him to it and have never looked back. Now he will only sleep in a room by himself.
You could always get one of those video monitors that works even in a dark room?!
You will both be much happier once she has settled into her room by herself

 

[britt1986]

I know how you feel. Bryson co-slept with me until he was 8 months old. We moved his crib into our room then to see how he would do in it. It was a nightmare. He was waking every hour or so. Finally at 9 months DH talked me into putting him in his own room. The first week I was a nervous wreck, I was up at least every hour checking on him. He was great though. Only waking once maybe twice. Much better than the 4-5 times. After about a week it does get easier.

 

[cupcake23]

I'm going through the same thing

Lo is getting to big for her crib and keeps waking herself up, we sometimes cosleep but this is not ideal for us. I feel like I'm abandoning her

Its so silly considering she has such a lovely room and shes not slept in her cot once! I think I'm going to start slow and get her used to taking naps during the day and then progress to nights. I'm sure it will be fine once we make the move.

 

[_Vicky_]

oohh why rush? lol sorry probably NOT what you want to here but keep her with you for a little longer. SIDS gudelines say 6 months - surely that would be enough to convinve OH to move the cot into your room. The boys are still in with us - I am just not ready for them to move into their own room yet and they sleep for 12 hours - I dont follow 'rules' or what i should do - I just follow my heart. In older times it was the norm to keep them with you till they were a year as they usually went in with older siblings xx

 

[bump_wanted]

i brought Ollies cot into my room as i couldnt do it at all i was crying at the thought of it xx

 

[Neferet]

Sorry, I don't have any advice... Just wanted you toknow you're definitely not alone. Isaac is 10 months old and still sleepingin my room. His cot is next to my bed and I can't stand the thought of him being in a room in his own at his age.

 

[Szaffi]

It was tough for me too, but OH insisted and it turned out to be the right decision. Everybody got better quality sleep (LO included), and we got our privacy back.

Howver, when OH is not home, I sneak over to sleep in LO's room - there is a couch there.

 

[RHR]

We've just moved our DD into her own room as she outgrew her Moses basket. We don't have space to put her cot in our room and DD and myself sleep better at night. She's been in her own room nearly a week now and she seems to like being in there.

I got her used to being in her own room by putting her in her cot for some of her naps during the day. She does look tiny in her cot though.

I think it's one of those situations where you need to take the plunge and do it. I worried that I wouldn't hear DD wake up but I do. I think part of you goes into a deep sleep and the other part stays awake to hear the baby. I still wake up occasionally and think I haven't heard DD make a noise in a while and will be in the process of getting up to go and check when she'll make a noise or a good wriggle which reassures me.

Good luck hun

 

[BabyJayne]

If you think she looks too little and lost in her cot, do what we have done, and put her moses basket in her cot for her to sleep in. We did this with Madeline at 10 weeks old, and at 13 weeks she is still sleeping in her moses basket, but the basket is in her cot. In the day she sleeps just in her cot and is fine. We will be taking her out of her moses basket in a couple of weeks so she will be sleeping just in her cot.

It was strange for the first few nights not having her right by our side - but I realised we were keeping her there for our contentment and not hers. She would stir when we went to bed, be restless in the night and generally have a more disturbed sleep. I thought about it properly and concluded that I wanted her in there for my convenience (don't have to get out of bed to soothe her, I want her close to me, I want to be able to check on her through the night without getting up etc etc) and not for her needs.

Madeline settled immediately in her own room, and slept better than she had ever done when in our room. I think putting her in her moses basket in her cot has helped her get used to the quiet, the dark (we just have a very faint night light on) and the look of her room. It may be different when she sleeps in her full cot for the first time, but she will at least be at ease with her surroundings.

Good luck hun - just do whatever you feel is best. But my advice would be it worked for us - plus it is nice for me and DH to have our room, and therefore a bit of time at night, back to ourselves. We are all happier all round xxx

 

[LankyDoodle]

Isabella outgrew hers at 3ish months, so I bought a space saver cot from Kiddicare for £50. Best money I ever spent because now she can stay in with me/us and still comes into bed with me.
I just couldn't bear to put her in her own room yet. She's too little and vulnerable to me, and I just hate the thought of her in that big cot, on her own. Chances are she'd be fine, but for similar reasons to you I'm just not ready to let her go yet!

 

[ellie27]

We moved Anna into her cot around 10wks as she kept banging off the sides of the moses basket and waking herself up!!

So, the cot was in our room so that was ok- she was still in our room til almost 7 months!!! If she was waking us up a lot we may have moved her into her own room earlier but she slept well so it never crossed our minds to move her through.

So around 7 months we moved her into her own room and she has slept even better!!!! I think we were actually waking Anna up with our snoring!!! It was scary at first.

Olivia will be fine - she is right next door as you say so you will soon hear her if she needs you. Let us know how you get on!

 

[Sam9kids]

Im with you on this one! Jenson is massive in his basket and i dont want to move him!

It hosetly wont do her any harm to have the cot in your room until you get used to the idea of her being in it xx