That's it, I'm abandoning TTC board

Discussion in 'Long Term Trying To Conceive' started by hayz1981, Oct 28, 2008.

  1. hayz1981

    hayz1981 mummy to IVF miracle

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    Just a vent really - have AF pains today (although no AF just yet but that's usual for me though - it's even more annoying to be in pain but have nothing to show for it!!) so I think that's making me stroppier than usual!

    Anyway, I get so annoyed at the TTC board sometimes. I don't venture over there much, but both times when I have in the last couple of days, I've seen BFP postings - not in the BFP section, just on the main board. I'm sure it's just an oversight and people don't realise, but it upsets me, as I only go to the BFP section when I'm feeling strong enough to deal with other people's successes with TTC and I get caught off guard if they're in the normal forum. Plus both times were names I didn't recognise so my guess is that they were people who have probably only just started TTC. (I might be wrong I guess).

    Anyway, it's just got me down today. So I'm sticking in here where I feel I belong right now.

    It just feels like there is more sensitivity on this board. So thank you girls :hug:

    xxx
     
  2. DaisyDuke

    DaisyDuke Matilda Tasya's mum :)

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    I know exactly how u feel i'm sure they don't realise, i have to avoid the bfp section mostly, and it's not even because i don't want to see other's getting there bfp it's cos it 98% of the time brand new names, and i just think why couldn't it be me or one of my friends that have worked so hard. My pet hate is when it's then followed with OMG i'm so scared or moaning about MS, i would love MS, i know i probo just sound dead selfish :hugs:
     
  3. natthecat

    natthecat 2 years TTC #1

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    But just think, when we post our BFP's there will be others feel the same.

    I go in there sometimes to give me a boost and steer clear when i'm feeling low.

    Other than that I keep saying make themost of this cheap xmas, cos next year will cost me a bomb :) LOL!
     
  4. hayz1981

    hayz1981 mummy to IVF miracle

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    You don't sound selfish, I'm exactly the same. Really I only visit the BFP board to see if there are any names I do actually recognise and usually I end up just wishing I hadnt looked.

    Ok, I'm off on one now. The other thing that annoys me is people that say, 'oh I just feel like it's never going to happen for me. Some people just fall so quickly etc etc' and then say they've been trying for 3 cycles now or something.

    Ok, I know I sound bitter now but it does get to me!!
     
  5. rachelle1975

    rachelle1975 And then there were 3!!

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    Ah Hayz i know exactly how you feel - big :hug:

    I left TTC as i felt like i knew no-one there and didn't recognise anyone get BFPs - i occasionally pop back (when i feel like a know-it-all) but that's about it!

    We are much lovelier here anyway :rofl: JOKE (if anyone from TTC reads this i apologise!) Sorry that evil AF may have you in her grip :hug:

    Why don't you tell us a bit about yourself?xx
     
  6. Vickie

    Vickie Hannah & Rhys <3

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    If anyone sees a BFP posted in the wrong place, you are always more than welcome to PM one of the mods or Admin and we will move it. :hugs: We do try to catch them and move them, but there are a lot of members and a lot of posts everyday to keep track of. :)
     
  7. jacky24

    jacky24 Mom of 37w2d Angel

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    Agreed:blush::blush::blush:
    I have tons of friends whom are pregnant.... I class getting pissed of....

    *OMG we have been trying for 2months*rant*
    *After 3 months i finally got my BFP
    *Is it ever going to happen cycle 2/3/4/5/6

    Not pissed of when ladies get a :bfp:

    *Over the age of 35 and cycle 2/3/4/5/6/7/8/9/10
    *Having O, or cycle problems
    *1st time IUI,IVF
    *PCOS girls
    *Ladies with m/c & Stillborn babies

    So my general thing is exactly the same...

    Cycle 14 for me, back to no O... and baby gone now almost 17 months...

    :hug: girls
     
  8. DaisyDuke

    DaisyDuke Matilda Tasya's mum :)

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    :hugs: for everyone it is such a huge support in here, and i'm so glad i found u all. :hugs:
     
  9. Schmelly

    Schmelly Regaining my life...

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    Reading this thread has made me feel much better. I get cross with myself for being such a cow sometimes, but now I know it's just normal.

    :hug: to everyone :hugs:
     
  10. miel

    miel Married to an amazing guy

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    i feel the same way girls ...trust me ...but at the end we are talking about the most precious gift mother nature gave us and ...the ability to conceive and questioning it so i do have to say if i go back 12 month in my life when i was starting to ttc after 3 months i did ask myself the same question as i am asking today ...my feeling are the same ...not knowing if something may be wrong ...so i don't really get" mad or upset at the ladies" and the posts where the girls wonder about thier TTc journey even if it's only 3 months ...

    as for the BFP being post in the ttc section and not the bfp section i think mostly the girls are news and don't really know how the board is working ...like Vickie said you can Pm me and i will redirect the thread to the right section ...:hugs:
     
  11. Angeldust

    Angeldust Guest

    Sorry your feeling down hun :hugs:
    its really hard when your longing for a bfp i know just how you feel
    even when i do get my bfp after long mths even yrs of trying i get it take away no hb at 8 & 10wks :( i gets pregnant in feb with twins and not one of them survived :cry: its really really hard for us all seeing bfps but we have to be strong and be happy for them ladies as i would not wish fertility problems on anyone and i am 100% you all agree :hugs:

    I often look at the bfp thread everyone tells me i have so much strength after everything i have been through and going through and looking at the bfp thread does not hurt me its weird but it does not make me sad i am happy to see them getting there bfp but i just wish i get one so i can join them soon :) and wish we all get one so we can all join them :)

    Every one is different , I know we are ttc and we are hurt etc but we cant let it destroy our lives cause we will never get pg stress causes so many problems and if we can look at the bpfs congatulate them and even talk with them pg then thats a good thing it means we are accepting things but does not mean we are giving up ttc and we will get our bfp girls our mr storky has ours waiting for us just wish he would hurry up :rofl:
    If we dont laugh we will cry :hug::hug::hug:
     
  12. pixielou

    pixielou Well-Known Member

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    Yep i'm with you on this one too! That's one of the reasons I left that section as I found that it was new names all the time who were stressing and just didn't feel right there. I'm suprised that youv'e lasted that long to be honest with you!
     
  13. mer01

    mer01 Waiting for brain scan

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    yes i agree, and i also know im probably one of the culprits moaning cos it didnt work 1st time.:blush: BUT i do have an exuse (sort of) were using AI and the donor will only give us 6cycles :hissy:so to be honest im s***ing myself but if its ok with u all i might move over to this section????

    :hug:

    xxx
     
  14. Coffee

    Coffee I don't know

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    I can't help getting frustrated reading the same old posts! Was just reading one about coming off the pill (the usual "how long will it take me to conceive") and someone had replied saying it took them 6 months. The OP then replied with "6 months, OMG! I'll have a breakdown if it takes me that long". I'm reading it thinking yuuuupppp! welcome to my world!!!
    6 months? IF ONLY! Feels like such a short amount of time to me now!
    As Miel says, we were probably all the same back then when we first started trying too, so you've got to try and not get annoyed by it.

    Think i might stick to this section too now...
     
  15. Farie

    Farie Well-Known Member

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    I just stay in journals and that's about all - compared to all the new TTCers I feel cold and jaded :cry: I don't like feeling like that, so I avoid it TBH.
    I have no patience writing out long replies to 'how long will it take' and 'OMG ..3rd cycle here I come .. why is it taking so long' so rather than be short or curt I just don't say anything.

    Trouble is now I don't recognise anyone!!!!!!!

    Heyho, everyone here is lovely and I have to remember that once I was new to all this and saying 'just off BCP how long will it take' :rofl:
    And that all said I have made some amazing friends from the newer members.
     
  16. ahava

    ahava me & hubby

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    I know what you mean, i find it hard also to see peoples pics of their beautiful children, and i know i shouldnt, but the longer ttc goes on the harder it gets. However we cant close ourselves off to ladies who are pregnant or have children, ...it is just a little hard when we want kids so much....

    I am i suppose used to it now.....i do like to see ladies bfp sticks so im more going in that section, as i hope i get mine for good soon.... Keep your chin up....x
     
  17. hayz1981

    hayz1981 mummy to IVF miracle

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    Hi girls, just logged in after a couple of days break as had an AF from hell this time - pain, sickness you name it. Feeling much better today though - just a bit spacy!! Not sure how much use I am at work today!

    Thank you all for your replies. Don't get me wrong, I really don't begrudge anyone their BFPs. Every single one is a miracle. It's just sometimes I'm just not a in a place where I can hear about them and not get upset. I hope I haven't come across too bitter. I guess like everyone I have good days and bad.

    Today I've decided I'm feeling positive though! I'm on day 3 today and am determined to TTC like crazy this month. OH has assured me he is on board! I think I may even start a journal this month. And I'll just hope it's the shortest journal in history!!

    Sending lots of :dust: to all of you xxxx
     
  18. hayz1981

    hayz1981 mummy to IVF miracle

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    PS I cant access FF at work so please ignore my ticker! I will update tonight! xxx
     
  19. LadyBee

    LadyBee PQ and CT miracle boys

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    Hi! I'm lurking on this board, and happened upon this thread. I am a 'new' TTCer, but that isn't exactly accurate. I haven't been using contraception for 5 years because I knew I had endometriosis. I have known since I was 16 that there was something very wrong with my cycle because of the pain, the throwing up the other problems also associated with the horrid 'disease'. I was finally diagnosed (because I decided I must not be able to get preg because of our carelessness/hopefullness for over 2 years prior) in December of last year.

    I had my surger(ies) which included a hysteroscopy to remove a polyp at the entrance of my uterus (probably one of the main culprits for not 'winding up' preg) and removal of 2 large benign cysts (1 on each ovary) and to diagnose stage 3 endo. I was devistated to learn of the severity of my endo and swore myself to not get all 'worked up' about wanting a baby (but I have since I was tiny little) as I was told it would not happen naturally. So, I changed my life in January '08 and after my February surgery I've decided that now is the time to TRY. This is technically my first cycle of properly TTC...but I do view this as year 6.

    The point of my rant is #1 to introduce myself to your boards (because I will be on both) and #2 to clarify WHY I may have somewhat silly posts and questions on the other boards.

    I do RELATE to your quests for a BFP, and why it's hard to see those 'newbie' questions and see the new ones post their BFPs on the wrong boards. We all want the same thing ladies. All of our 'paths' are just very unique (some admittedly moreso than others), so I just try to be understanding. And don't forget, you've developed friendships on here with others like you and assumably you started your 'quest' on the regular TTC boards just as we have.

    I (and I won't speak for the other ones in TTC, but I know they probably as well) appreciate each one of you in the BnB community, you all have valuable experiences, and helpful info.

    I wish all of you the very best and I look forward to seeing each one of your BFPs posted soon!

    :hug: to you all
     

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