The 12 week wait to tell everyone.

[Jenna1985]

I'm finding it hard not to tell my friends and family about this little miracle!! We have had 3 privious MC's at around 10 weeks so I don't want to get anyone excited but at the same time I just want to shout from the roof tops! Anyone else having a hard time? what do you do to pass the time?

 

[herewego3]

I am going through the same thing!! I really want to tell our children and families but it's so hard after losing a baby at exactly the 12 week mark. I have 2 really close friends that know and I talk to them when I feel the urge to divulge our surprise!

 

[Jenna1985]

I am going through the same thing!! I really want to tell our children and families but it's so hard after losing a baby at exactly the 12 week mark. I have 2 really close friends that know and I talk to them when I feel the urge to divulge our surprise!

Yeah, that's exactly how it is with me. My mother and my husband are the only ones who know. Shockingly and without knowing anything my 4 1/2 year old told me she wants to name her baby sister Shelby yesterday lol. I was blown away. Also the day after I found out I had a friend call saying "I just keep praying for you guys to have another child, I know how long and hard you have been trying" it was SOOOOO hard not to say a word.

 

[Jcliff]

Try and keep yourself busy. It will come soon!

 

[Cazran25]

I'm finding it so hard at work not to spill! One of my colleagues knows & she has been amazing but the wait is driving us both insane...

Feel guilty because I've been avoiding making everyone drinks as currently the smell of brewing tea makes me retch....I love tea normally so they must know something is up

 

[loulou1979]

I too had a mc, at almost 12 weeks last year, and as much as I want to shout this from the rooftop I'm so scared to tell anyone! There are only 3 people that know other than myself and hubby, I really want to try and keep it that way until our private scan at 8 weeks, I couldn't bear telling people we've mc again. Roll on the second trimester! xx

 

[bubbles82]

I've already had a scan at 9 weeks so it's getting harder to keep quiet, but trying to hold on for that 12 week mark, only a couple of weeks til my next scan. I'm at the stage now where I'm fed up of trying to lie about things and make up excuses when people notice I'm not drinking etc. I ended up telling a close friend a couple of days ago as she asked outright and I am really rubbish at lying so ended up just telling her. It was a relief in a way as I see her quite often and don't have to cover it up anymore, but I also felt guilty as I agreed with DH to keep it quiet til we've told our parents on Mother's Day. I also hate the idea of anything going wrong and having to start telling anyone there's no baby anymore. We had a miscarriage just before this one, and even though I'm so close to the 12 week mark and have already seen a healthy baby, I'm still so nervous and don't like the idea of everyone knowing and being excited when I can't feel that way yet. A few things have happened at work where I've thought I'm going to end up having to tell them early, but I only have a few days left now before I've got some time off so hopefully I can make it to then!

 

[lynnikins]

it goes so fast I thought time would never pass but ive been ill for the last 5 days its taken me from my booking appiontment to past 10wks so im happy time is passing , just keep busy

 

[iiTTCii]

It's 5 days till my 12 week scan and it feels like every second is lasting an hour!!

As soon as we have the scan, I'm going to announce to the world!!

 

[Josefin]

iiTTCii: I know the feeling! I have my scan in two days and it feels like forever!

 

[cammy]

Time seems to have really slowed down for me since I found out I was pregnant. I just really want 12 weeks to come already, put my mind at ease and hopefully take this dreaded fatigue and nausea with it.

 

[Hotbump]

Yes! I feel like announcing it to everyone but I had a mc at 5/6wks when I thought I was 8 wks along...but I'm trying to keep myself positive because they were many signs with the first mc that something was wrong.

 

[RaeRae91]

Well be glad you guys are sharing at 12 weeks! My hubby wants to wait until im showing! im 11 weeks now and flat as can be. But its more because our family will be furious. I hate the waiting and im sure i will "accidently" let it slip before then tho hahah

 

[rihanna]

It felt like time was dragging for me too but had to have a scan Monday at 10 weeks (had a small bleed) and they said it will be instead of the 12 scan as they dated me then ! So I guess I can tell
Now but It seems too early still x

 

[sunnylove]

I'm almost 10 weeks and we haven't told anybody. I really don't feel a need or desire to tell anyone. I mostly don't want to hear any thoughts or opinions on it from DH's side, nor do I want special treatment and all the questions from everyone else lol. It's kind of really nice actually, being in the early stages and just DH and I knowing. It's kind of intimate and sweet. I'd probably keep it a secret the whole 9 months if I could get away with it. We will probably be telling around Easter though.

Not telling people, and not having a specific time nailed down on when we're telling anybody has really (I think) sped the pregnancy up. Like it's going by so fast.

 

[vic161209]

every one is different and there is no law making us wait untill 12wks, every one is different so i say do what u feel is right for u. with my first i really needed the support so waited about 2wks n told every one between 6-7wks. it was the right choice for me at the time. this time however i really really want to wait untill after the 12wk scan, so far so good no one knows (just two close friends) its been really hard as i see my mum most days n were really close but for many reasons i want to b traditional and make a big announcement once i have my scan photo. my scan is on 6th when im 12+4, but i wanted to wait untill mothersday on 10th, but now were waiting untill the 12th as its my parents 30th anniversery n were having a family meal, so were going to give a gift of some sort for them to open infront of our close family. i cannot wait n i dont know how iv kept my secret this long but im so glad i have as i know they will b so surprised and happy it will b worth the wait. home stretch now 3wks to go

 

[Mummy Bean]

I failed and told a few ppl. esp as a few of the guessed from me not drinking and suddenly eating fruit like it gone out of fashion...apperently my 'gone on health kick' didnt float with ppl. Got a scan on sat when i will be nearly 8 weeks so after that dont mind if ppl find out...as no way i could hold off until 12weeks.

 

[BrollyDolly]

We've told close family and a handful of close friends but waiting until first scan (1week today!!!) to make it public as such. One thing I can say, I have found that since week 9 time has gone really quickly for me! The first 5 week of us knowing seemed to drag on and on and I thought 12 week would never come but now it's almost here I realised the past few week have gone so fast. If you really do want to wait until 12 week, be strong, it'll be here before you know it and if you can't wait then so what, spread your happy news, if the worst was to happen (and I hope and pray it doesn't to any women on here) then at least you would have a strong support system totally personal choice Hun xxx