The BFP Before The 'Would Of Been' Due Date Thread - Any Joiners?

[xxxjessxxx]

Hey ladies
I thought of starting a thread for us ladies to help and support eachother to getting a before the due date of your loss arrives.
For example I have experienced 4 losses recently (now 6 ) but the only one I knew of the due date for, was the first miscarriage.
I was due for December 9th but sadly, my lil Roo left 7 months too early for me to ever get to the due date
It's creeping up rather close and I'm getting so down with it all, and I figured there are probably more women feeling the same too.
So I thought to start a thread for all us women aiming to get a bfp before our expected due date just to make the pain that little bit easier... who's joining?


(I'll start a list with us, and our expected due dates)

xxxjessxxx - Enolah 21st October 2012
Twinkie210 - Liam 28th September 2012
Keepthefaithx - Nicholas 2nd October 2012
KozmikKitten - March 28th 2012
Newmrsg - April 3rd 2012
Heavyheart - January 7th 2012
Jennajul2001 - January 27th 2012
Srbjbex - May 22nd 2012
SweetJennie - February 16th 2012
Confusedprego - March 13th 2012
Threebirds - February 2012
Chiapso - February 26th 2012
Bes_ - March 3rd 2012
Futurephotos - December 20th 2011
Jessy1101 - March 12th 2012
Collie_crazy - January 1st 2012
Mrskg - August 26th 2012
Crownjewelz - May 15th 2012
Sarasparra - May 3rd 2012
Bastetgrrl - February 5th 2012
Micsor - November 23rd 2011
Lemondrops - May 6th 2012
Ickle pand - January 2nd 2012
CARNAT22 - January 4th 2012
Debzie - October 31st 2012
Butterfly00 - March 2nd 2012
Blakesmom - April 1st 2012
Mammatotwo - December 9th 2011
NZ TTC - April 28th 2012
Breaking Dawn - April 12th 2012
Mom22boys - May 15th 2012
Lomelly - Liam 10th October 2012
Nicoleoleole - July 14th 2012
Mrs Miggens - May 15th 2012
Jacobnmatty - December 7th 2011
Babydust818 - April 2012
YingYang - December 25th 2011
Lauren10 - April 1st 2012
Hopeforamirac - February 5th 2012
Nursekelly - February 11th 2012
Nibeley - July 5th 2012
Jelly Beann - July 19th 2012
Islander - May 7th 2012
Maddysmum - December 4th 2012
BabyBumpLove - June 28th 2012
Jordens_Mommy - June 17th 2011
Hopestruck - May 4th 2012
BabyBob - April 14th 2011
NewbieLisette - Unknown
Kmae - April 13th 2012
Divinebliss - April 5th 2012
RomaTomato - March 4th 2012
Wantingathird - March 30th 2012
Analley - December 25th
Ami1985 - July 2012
Natashahm - August 2012
LeeC - December 25th 2011
Dodgercpkl - August 12th 2012
Pinksmarties - Unknown
Amandamb1108 - January 24th 2012
Karacal - August 9th 2012
Jennyanne83 - March 5th 2012
Camlet - Sophia October 27th 2012
Bride2b - April 21st 2012
Jennifer - July 2012
2Peas4wings - September 8th 2012
Mrs_t2 - August 1st 2012
Lilblossom - August 3rd 2012
Girlinyork - due 3rd July 2013
FngrsCrossed - March 7th 2012
Amotherslove - May 14th 2012
Auntylolo - June 19th 2012
Hanfromman - March 24th 2012
Samj732 - May 31st/June 7th 2012
Leinzlove - October 6th 2012
CherylC3 - October 21/22nd 2012
Carebear1981 - August 15th 2012
Md13 - November 16th 2012
MissMummyMoo - Noah 19th April 2013
Bluecathy1978 - July 21st 2012
CortneyMarie - November 12th 2012
Lou15 - July 1st 2012
Kelly9 - June 15th 2012
Ttcbabyisom - June 15th 2012
Kategirl - October 26th 2012
ILuvBabies200 - October 15th 2012
Old Bear - September 24th 2012
Sweetz33 - June 15th 2012
NesSAH - October 20th 2012
Godblessme - May 23rd 2012
Dancareoi - June 15th 2012
Cetarari - May 19th 2012
LilesMom - December 16th 2012
Redmonkeysock - November 26th 2012
Hope2bmum2b - June 29th 2012
Kelly4 - November 4th 2012
Bump2Baby - January 18th 2013
PinkCupcake - December 20th 2012
SirBaby - January 12th 2013
Kristina1291 - December 25th 2012
Sparkles86 - January 23rd 2013
TraceyAndLee - December 2012
Armymama2012 - September 29th 2012
3xBlessed - December 4th 2012
Bamagurl - November 5th 2012
Kathleen1994 - January 20th 2013
MummyWant2be - March 28th 2013
CatchBabyDust - March 2013
Foxycleopatra - August 22nd 2012
Khloeee - December 2012
BlessedWomb - January 5th 2013
Tekkitten - February 15th 2013
Mummy2o - April 5th 2013
Palangi - October 25th 2012
Pink_Sparkle - January 15th 2013
Pbl_ge - April 27th 2013
Harley Quinn - due 29th July 2013
B&LsMom - Lukas 17th November 2012
Brittany12 - June 14th 2013

 

[Twinkie210]

I'll join! I had my MC in August @ 7w, so my due date isn't until March 18, 2012. We just had a our first cycle TTCAL and it was BFN. So I am on to cycle #2 TTCAL.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Hey hunny I've added you! Sorry for your loss
Fx'd you'll get that bfp soon! How do you feel about it all?

 

[Twinkie210]

Well I that first cycle afterwards was hard. We were so gung ho trying to get that BFP, I was so hopeful too because everything was timed correctly and I felt really positive, and then AF shows up right on schedule. It was just kind of crushing. I think I am OK with it now, I am just starting to worry that I might have fertility problems that are keeping us from conceiving. It has now been 9 months since we first started. I have a Dr. appt next week for my yearly exam, I am hoping I can talk him into running some blood tests just to make sure everything is working fine.

I still have some time before my due date, so I feel like I have some time to get my BFP, but I think every month will get harder and harder, like time is ticking away.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

I understand how you feel hunny. Do all you can to make your Dr see just how much you need those tests done
I feel like I have problems too, after 4 losses I'm just so confused and hurt still.
I was just watching this video >> https://vimeo.com/19596387 << which brought me to tears. I kind of feel better after watching it though, it helped

 

[keepthefaithx]

I am def in! My due date was 2/24/2012, i am really hoping for this month, but god please by february!!!!!!!!!!!


Goodluck to everyone i really like this group good idea hun!

Sorry for your losses

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Good to have another one joining us
Sorry for your loss
Yes I thought it would be a good idea. This past week it's been on my head constantly, how I'd have a little one in my arms for christmas How are you coping?

 

[keepthefaithx]

i am doing okay i guess trying to stay postive you know!

i still cry everday i really am heartbroken, but i do believe that there is a reason for everything and god will bless me and my husband with a beautiful baby

we all gotta stick together and have faith!

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Yeah, I still cry too.
Is your hubby supportive? How is he coping?
If it helps, you should watch the video I linked, it helps so much with the way she explains things as a part of life... made me cry

 

[KozmikKitten]

I would love to join! My DD was March 28 2012. I think knowing the date made it much harder on DH and I to cope with the loss. We would love a BFP! My goal is by end of Dec but DH wants to be more realistic, and have a BPF by my birthday, which is March 15. GL to everyone! Hope everyone is doing well after your losses!

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Sorry for your loss too hunny
Does your husband talk or let you know how he feels about it?
So how far we're you gone hun?

 

[keepthefaithx]

yeah, i still cry too.
Is your hubby supportive? How is he coping?
If it helps, you should watch the video i linked, it helps so much with the way she explains things as a part of life... Made me cry

my hubby is great!! Hes my best friend hes amazing!!! Hes really upset, he cried a couple times which was so hard for me to see, but we are very supportive with eachother-


i wanna watch it, but im not good w sad stuff lol i will see!!!

 

[keepthefaithx]

I was almost 12 weeks, i had a missed miscarriage baby passed away at 9weeks.

Like i still cant believe it happend to us you know? Like its so crazy still-

it kills me thinking the end of sept i could have found out what we were having like its so freakin crazy

but we gotta look to the future and hopefully we all get bfp sooon!!!!

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Aww that's great to hear
It's so sad seeing them cry isn't it!
So how long have you two been together?
My OH is supportive, but he never shows how he fels about it until it all suddenly gets to him, he snaps and then cries. I've told him countless times to talk to me how he feels, but he always says - it isn't very manly :/

 

[Twinkie210]

My DH is supportive, but it bother's me that he wasn't as upset (at least not outwardly) as I was. I think he understand's why I am upset, but I don't understand why he isn't. He just keeps telling me we can try again. Even when I was upset after getting 3 BFNs this weekend, he just said well we will try again next month. But to me it is personal, like everytime I see a BFN, it is a failure. Somehow he is just always looking ahead to the future.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Aww that must of been devastating seeing the scan then and finding that out
It is hard to come to terms with, have you thought of naming it? writing letters? doing anything like that? x

 

[xxxjessxxx]

My DH is supportive, but it bother's me that he wasn't as upset (at least not outwardly) as I was. I think he understand's why I am upset, but I don't understand why he isn't. He just keeps telling me we can try again. Even when I was upset after getting 3 BFNs this weekend, he just said well we will try again next month. But to me it is personal, like everytime I see a BFN, it is a failure. Somehow he is just always looking ahead to the future.

Yeah it's so hard when it's like that
OH's the same, he always says 'well we've got plenty of time to get this right'
And it's like - that isn't the point!!
I don't know, they don't see it do they
Are you a POAS addict then? x

 

[Twinkie210]

My DH is supportive, but it bother's me that he wasn't as upset (at least not outwardly) as I was. I think he understand's why I am upset, but I don't understand why he isn't. He just keeps telling me we can try again. Even when I was upset after getting 3 BFNs this weekend, he just said well we will try again next month. But to me it is personal, like everytime I see a BFN, it is a failure. Somehow he is just always looking ahead to the future.

Yeah it's so hard when it's like that
OH's the same, he always says 'well we've got plenty of time to get this right'
And it's like - that isn't the point!!
I don't know, they don't see it do they
Are you a POAS addict then? x

Exactly, at that point in time I don't care that we can try again, I want it to happen right now. I am a semi addict. I never was until I got my last BFP, now I feel like I want to know right away. But I don't take 5 tests a day like some I took one Friday, Saturday, and Monday, which was 9,10, and 12dpo.
I am more addicted to OPKs because I don't want to miss my surge! LOL I would sometimes take 2 or 3 a day with those. I don't know why either, because me and DH were BDing everyother day anyway!

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Exactly, at that point in time I don't care that we can try again, I want it to happen right now. I am a semi addict. I never was until I got my last BFP, now I feel like I want to know right away. But I don't take 5 tests a day like some I took one Friday, Saturday, and Monday, which was 9,10, and 12dpo.
I am more addicted to OPKs because I don't want to miss my surge! LOL I would sometimes take 2 or 3 a day with those. I don't know why either, because me and DH were BDing everyother day anyway!

Yeah exactly! You don't want to keep seeing and you don't want the feeling of confusion and god knows what else everytime you see them. You just want what everyone else seems to be doing at the moment which is getting a lol
Ahh I see, you pace yourself with them
I have days, sometimes I don't even think about it, then other days that's all I want to do! Now I try to make sure I have none in the house as then I know it's harder to x

 

[keepthefaithx]

Men never show feelings, my dh never cries since ive been with him (2004) he cried 2 times, when he proposed and when we had a miscarriage...thats it!