The down hill slop begins...

[bdb]

Oh I didn't realize this was your thread proud army wife

I normally don't pay much attention to that once the thread gets going lol

make sure you BD the morning of the 18th so you have the full 5 day window!!!

You would be surprised at how many unplanned babies happened within a 6 day window before my husbands deployment the last one.

He was underweigh for 3 months came home for 6 day then left for 9 months..... there was about 12 new dads from that small window.... DH wasn't one of the lucky ones but it was sweet seeing all the children see dad for the first time....

 

[ProudArmyWife]

Oh I didn't realize this was your thread proud army wife

I normally don't pay much attention to that once the thread gets going lol

make sure you BD the morning of the 18th so you have the full 5 day window!!!

You would be surprised at how many unplanned babies happened within a 6 day window before my husbands deployment the last one.

He was underweigh for 3 months came home for 6 day then left for 9 months..... there was about 12 new dads from that small window.... DH wasn't one of the lucky ones but it was sweet seeing all the children see dad for the first time....

I don't either it just becomes everyone's thread by that point 😂😂


And I agree the influx of deployment babies is crazy! You def have a chance!

 

[sarah2211]

Haha yes that's how it usually goes. A whole lot of pregnancies before and after a deployment.

Hopefully just a month, 18th June -18th July. Because my cycle are usually 35 ish days he shouldn't miss July ovulation.

I'm thinking we will get in as much BDing before he leaves and as close to him leaving as possible. I'll use heaps of preseed and maybe even soft cups. This is my first month on Met so we are prepared for O to maybe change slightly (not that it does the same thing month to month anyway)

DH and I had a big talk about it all last night. He's really upset about being away when I O this month. But what can you do?

 

[bdb]

Just tell him to keep his chin up. Military life is not easy. So many people including our family's can give us their sympathy but empathy is not something you can understand until you see your husband 2 to 3 months out of the year. Its really hard conceiving when schedules are all over the place and change every other month. I know that it may not happen when we want it to but I keep remindidng myself of all the ways I am blessed and tell myself that its going to happen Im just not going to get to pick the day lol......

 

[sarah2211]

Thanks bdb. You're right, sympathy doesn't really cut it. Sure it's nice that people are thinking of you but I've had that and then friends in tears because their boyfriend is going away for the weekend and they can't cope.

My DH's dad was in the navy and my DH is 1 of 7 children. His dad was away a lot, home for a few weeks a few times a year. DH likes to bring that up and say 'look it can happen'. Except they must have been very fertile. We've been actively trying, tracking cycles for now 8 months and nothing.

 

[ProudArmyWife]

friends in tears because their boyfriend is going away for the weekend and they can't cope.

This right here makes me want to poke my eyes out!!

Hang in there Sarah it will happen I'm confident 😄 We tried for 13 months before we got our first bfp with dd1. And I was only 19 (DH was 22) then with dd2 it took just two short months. I really think the timing is everything and it always happens when it's meant to. The journey is half the fun.

I know it's so so frustrating when your circumstances are out of your control though.

 

[sarah2211]

I know. I told her to clean the house, open a bottle of wine and watch all the to programmes her boyfriend doesn't like. Just a weekend away is a luxury. I don't even mind a week. Enough time to have some me time (unless it's O week!).

Thanks, I'm just finding it difficult to let go of it all. It's hard enough when it's not happening let alone him going away and we don't even get to try to make it happen.

He's doing a SA next week and we should be seeing a fertility specialist in the next month or so. I have mild PCOS but enough for my doctor to think it's worth looking further into.

It was fun initially but lately it's just been the opposite.

How's the TWW going for you?

 

[ProudArmyWife]

Exactly. I enjoy a weekend to myself 😂 I guess when you've never dealt with a long separation though a weekend fees like a long time.

Tww is going slow for me I just want to know. Like is it a yes or a no so I can move on 😂 I've been trying to just focus on other things. I'm really big into working out so I've been at work/ gym and the rest of my time is filled chasing my two rug rays around this weekend we have gone to visit my mom so that will be a good distraction. Then just gotta make it through on more week. Next Sunday feels like forever away though

 

[sarah2211]

That's true. When my husband was deployed for 7 months, a girl I know told me she knew exactly what it was like because her boyfriend played Call of Duty all the time so she was basically an army wife. I actually laughed, but she was being serious!


That's good you've got things to keep you busy. I feel like I'm in perpetual state of waiting. Waiting for ovulation, tww, waiting for AF to start then finish. How many DPO are you?

 

[ProudArmyWife]

call of duty! And she was serious

I'm 5dpo now. Feels like it's passing so slow. While I'm anxious to test I'm also kind of dreading testing. I hate seeing negatives. My initial plan was to not test until AF arrived but the though of being able to tell DH on Father's Day was very exciting to me so I'm gonna go ahead and try

Where are you at in your cycle right now? I find waiting to O doesn't make me quite as impatient as the tww does. But my O is fairly predictable coming on cd16 or cd17 generally.

 

[sarah2211]

Haha yes! Call of Duty is exactly like being deployed to the Middle East....!!

5 DPO is still early days. I hope it goes quickly for you. I think we celebrate Father's Day or a different Sunday where I live. Is it next Sunday in the States?

I usually find waiting to O harder but that's because it's usually longer than the TWW. My cycles have been getting longer and longer and last month was 35 days with O on CD 22. My O date and length of cycle changes so I don't quite know when it's going to happen. Plus I started Metformin this cycle and it's made my temps a lot smoother and stable than before. I'm not sure if it'll have any other effects on my cycle. I'm currently CD 14 so hopefully it's not too much more waiting.

 

[ProudArmyWife]

Oh that's frustrating! I hope that the metformin helps and you get a soon

This is 4th cycle off the pill but only my second regulated cycle. My first was all wonky I went like 38-39 days before AF finally showed and then my next cycle was only 27 days. My third I ovulated on cd 16 and had my normal 31-31 day cycle so that was nice. This cycle I ovulated on cd 16 again.

6dpo no symptoms but that doesn't really bother me since I didn't really have "symptoms" with my girls either. The only early symptom I had with my girls was headaches around 9-10dpo. I currently have a cold and have managed to lose my voice so that's pretty fun

 

[ProudArmyWife]

Hey girls :wave: how is everyone doing?

8dpo here. No real preg symptoms but no AF symptoms either so I'm keeping my fingers crossed this is a good sign. About 7 days to AF. Thinking I might test on Saturday at 12dpo that way if I manage to come up with a positive I can't find a cute way to tell DH on Sunday(Father's Day)

 

[sarah2211]

Just trucking along. Still hoping for an early O but not sure if I'm going to be that lucky. Nothing confirmed about DH going or staying. We are trying to BD every day, use lots of preseed and I also tried a moon cup after BD last night. A little weird but fingers crossed it helps.

No symptoms is not a bad sign either. I hope you get your BFP on Father's Day. That would be a cool surprise for him!

 

[ProudArmyWife]

I actually broke down and tested today and it was confirmed with 3 tests. One a test that we use at the doctors office I work at, a FRER and a clearblue digi that said pregnant 1-2

I seriously could not believe it but I'm super excited. Planning to wait though and still surprise DH on Father's Day.

Crossing my fingers for you Sarah!

 

[fxmummyduck]

I actually broke down and tested today and it was confirmed with 3 tests. One a test that we use at the doctors office I work at, a FRER and a clearblue digi that said pregnant 1-2

I seriously could not believe it but I'm super excited. Planning to wait though and still surprise DH on Father's Day.

Crossing my fingers for you Sarah!

Massive congratulations!!!

I'd never be able to keep quiet that long!!!

 

[JenzyKY]

Oh wow! Congrats! That's so early.

 

[ProudArmyWife]

Here's my test from this morning. It has gotten darker since yesterday

I still can't believe it.

 

[JenzyKY]

Wow! That line at 9dpo?? Impressive!

 

[ProudArmyWife]

I got this yesterday on just a 2.5 hour hold in the middle of the day. I'm wondering if maybe I ovulated earlier than I thought? But my opk was negative up until I got to cd16 so I'm no really sure. I'm gonna take my second digi in a few days to see if the weeks go up.