the fear is escalating, dwelling too much?

[lilwelsh1]

this may sound a bit over dramatic but im 6 days away from the stage i started to miscarry during my last pregnancy. Im getting very on edge, last time the mc dragged itself out i had pain and spotting on the 18th august. Its approaching the 18th november and i will be at exactly the same amount of weeks pregnant as i was back then. Im making very silly comparisons as the pregnancy itself is very different. Im so worried i wont pass 6 weeks. I have no reason for this feeling at all, i have strong symptoms and everything 'feels' like its going well if that makes sense but i still have this horrible fear of it all ending in tears. I tried to be positive and joined the 1st trimester section, set up a ticker but as the 5 n half - 6 week mark gets closer im scared. Shall i distract myself in the lead up to this date as if im shutting my eyes n running past or take it easy i even feel like turning down clients in case i over do it. Sorry for long winded moan i guess its normal to be cautious i just needed to get it out thanks for reading xx

 

[Peril]

Awww bless you. Its hard isn't it??? I have been the same at the loss points of my previous ones. I have only just started relaxing. Hope all goes well for you xxx

 

[Pippin]

Totally normal hon, I can't really believe I'm pregnant again. I got so excited with the last one and with this one I feel kinda detached and a bit fake iykwim. I think I'll believe it once I see the heartbeat we didn't see last time.

 

[tu123]

Eaxactly how i felt after our third miscarriage last December. The best thing for you is to try not to think about it (easier said than done!). The more you dwell and analyse the more panicky you will get which isn't good for either of you!


Believe me- you will worry the whole way through pregnancy so try to give yourself a break!

 

[humblebum]

Yep I'm exactly the same, I've just passed the point I mc in July so I'm hoping it will carry on and our little bean will stick. I could happily sleep away the next few weeks and trying to look towards the first scan. xxx

 

[fifi-folle]

Totally normal to feel like this, I know I have. We are now one day past our longest previous pregnancy and I do feel a little less stressed. This one for me is also different. I try to think that this is our baby who is meant to be (if that makes sense), but every little milestone is important. If you are very stressed speak to your doctor, see if you can get a reassurance scan at 6wks, I had pain around left ovary so had scan at 4+6, only saw the sac but it calmed me right down.
What do you do for a living? Is there any way you can do less manual duties? Or are you self employed?

 

[kit_cat]

I could have written the original post on this thread as it's exactly how I'm feeling right now. Tomorrow would be exactly the same amount of weeks/days pregnant as I was when I miscarried in September. I am having an early scan on Tuesday, so to make it to that point and still feel pregnant will be a major milestone for me too.

I am trying to be calm and philosophical about things (not easy) as I know I do not have control over what my body is doing right now and what will be will be. This thought does help me feel less stressed....maybe try to think that way?

I wish for all the best for you sweetie - good luck x

 

[lilwelsh1]

Totally normal to feel like this, I know I have. We are now one day past our longest previous pregnancy and I do feel a little less stressed. This one for me is also different. I try to think that this is our baby who is meant to be (if that makes sense), but every little milestone is important. If you are very stressed speak to your doctor, see if you can get a reassurance scan at 6wks, I had pain around left ovary so had scan at 4+6, only saw the sac but it calmed me right down.
What do you do for a living? Is there any way you can do less manual duties? Or are you self employed?

im a self employed hairdresser so its up to me if i want to take a break from it as my oh works - alot lol. So it wouldnt do any harm to put it off for a bit, xmas sometimes gets beyond hectic and my non-pregnant self struggled last year, in fact i made myself ill. So think i will be limiting bookings.

I may have a chat with the doctor but in all honesty i was pretty much left to my own devices during my last mc's so i dont expect to have much attention paid while all is well! Im having a few niggles in my pelvis today thats scaring me a bit, but its high up, almost those ligaments that hold/ make up the pelvic floor. Im hoping its just normal wear n tear. I feel everything should be okay but as the date i mc looms nearer i cant control the freak out. Maybe for xmas i could ask oh for a private scan instead of relying on the nhs. Its too early yet but maybe in the new year as in wales they dont do dating scans til 14 weeks!

 

[fifi-folle]

It makes me mad the way some doctors have no understanding of how a miscarriage can affect you. Is there another doc at the practice you can see? Or get in touch with the local EPU?
Pains in early pregnancy are normal, from mild cramps, stretching pains and even the odd stabbing pain (as long as it is very short), but when you've had losses it can be hard not to panic about every twinge (I know I do). Cutting down your hours would be sensible and, normally I think these private scan places are just out to prey on nervous parents to be, possibly a private scan, although find out first if you can be seen at the EPU first. Tell your doctor just how nervous you are, sometimes they will schedule a reassurance scan. Fingers crossed for you x

 

[Perdita]

I was very lucky, I went to see a GP (not my usual so was pleasantly suprised) a few days after getting the BFP. She took bloods, e-mailed the consultant, told me to book in with the midwife for the following monday and I was having a scan a week later and was told 4 weeks maybe and booked in for 2 weeks later!
I think you should see a different GP and hopefully get a better response - if not can you self refer to the midwifes (you're told to do that in Scotland now according to the posters that were at every single busstop for a while!) as there's a good chance they'll be a bit more sympahetic.
xx

 

[fifi-folle]

Glad you have had a positive experience Perdita!
PS Where in Fife are you? Sorry if I've asked you this before. I'm near Dunfermline.

 

[Perdita]

Glad you have had a positive experience Perdita!
PS Where in Fife are you? Sorry if I've asked you this before. I'm near Dunfermline.

I'm in dalgety bay - the night life capital of fife if you're a cat!! Are you going to forth park or just seeing the midwives?
xx

 

[fifi-folle]

Ah you're just along the road, we're in Rosyth. I've already been along to Forth Park and going again on Tuesday for another scan. Met my midwife yesterday, she was lovely. Booking in appt 22nd Dec. Noticed she put down on my forms that I'll be having a consultant led delivery/pregnancy. How about you? Oh and when are you due?

 

[Perdita]

I'm due 10th march but I'm booked in for induction on the 17th of march. Forth park is such fun! I'm under consultant care as well - Rennie Urquart - it's annoying always having to trail up there as I don't drive, though if you've tried to park there you wouldn't necessarily see that as a big issue!! It's ridiculous how many people just dump their car at the entrance. Good luck on monday -the clinic booking appointments can take ages if you have to see lots of different people so take snacks!!
xx