The first I knew that Thomas might be on the spectrum was at age 4.5, at his final Well Child check. The nurse said he was obviously on the spectrum, but high functioning so to just see how he goes once at school etc. I was shocked so just followed her advice. To me he's just Thomas - I don't see him as a bunch of symptoms, and he was all normal and fine as a baby and toddler. Eye contact was great, he was social and friendly, waved and smiled and laughed and cuddled. All the normal things. Once he got to about 18 months I was worried about his speech, he didn't end up talking until 23/24 months. A red flag? Anyway, after his first school teacher contacting the public health nurse with worries, we went down the road of formal diagnosis. The first lot of initial forms I filled out were "lost", so we had to start all over again. Not a fun thing on a public health system! So now, he's finally getting close to the diagnosis part. I'm so nervous. I hate having him labeled, and I feel like it must have been something I did wrong to make him this way. We have two meetings with a child psychologist next month, the final meeting will be on the 28th will all info gathered from myself, his teachers and the paediatrician at the hospital. The paed is tentatively saying Thomas has scored rather highly and he says he's very sure he is on the spectrum. He mainly gets along just fine with life, but has zero interest in the kids at school and has a few quirks. He seems to live in this bubble where home and us in it are all that matters, and everyone else could vanish. Anyway I'm just nervous and worrying that he's never going to have friends, and that a diagnosis will make the teachers not like him or want them in his class as he goes through school .