Thank you so much for all your support and kind words. It really means the world to me, as I am isolated from friends and family, 6 weeks pregnant, and not at all financially or emotionally stable right now.
I've been doing a lot of research, and it's clear to me now this man was a sociopath. He lacks remorse and has no conscience. He is an expert manipulator.
The story about his daughter---a complete fabrication. He did not have an adult adopted daughter who went to Harvard with a liver transplant that went bad, and then she died.
He told me all of this CRYING. He is an expert manipulator. Apparently this was to get out of proposing to me---although he said he loved me, took me to Tiffany's, and we even picked out a ring for me. Then he disappeared because of this "daughter" situation.
He was not in the CIA, he did not have a law degree, he does not have multiple businesses in different parts of the country-----It's all too much to handle right now! I mean, I heard him speak Chinese over the phone to a business associate! Does he really speak 7 languages? I don't know!
How i found out....well, I started realizing things weren't adding up, and then I found out I was pregnant, and he disappeared to deal with his "grief." Something in my heart knew I didn't deserve this kind of treatment, and I needed to do something. Crying and being alone and uncertain was making me miserable.
The one time I had access to his Blackberry (he keeps a password on it), I looked and saw a woman's name and I thought it was his mother or his sister. I quickly shut it off without seeing the number (because even though my mom and friends thought something was amiss, I don't abuse trust).
Anyways, last night I googled her name on the white pages, and i came up with a phone number, and then I got up enough courage to call. I gave his name and a description, and she said, yes this is my husband, we've been married 10 years and have 2 kids. He has 3 kids by a previous wife. She sounded really nice, and not at all upset as I sobbed into the phone for 2 hours. She just babbled on about how she knew he was a sneaky guy, how he doesn't have money, and still owes over $100,000 in back child support to his first wife, how she felt sorry for me, she kinda had a feeling he was cheating but it didn't bother her, how she knew he didn't wear his wedding ring, and how he's a Pisces and Pisces men are like that...and Charlie Sheen is a Pisces...and how our children can play together....
I was horrified.
And then I called back about 30 minutes later because she said he would be home, and when he answered the phone, he immediately denied everything and called me crazy. He said I was making everything up. I mean, instead of acting caught red-handed, instead of apologizing, or showing any sign of guilt or remorse, he immediately shifted the blame....like I got myself pregnant? I randomly call up strangers' wives and make up crazy stories?! I know how I'll spend my evenings, going through the white pages and wreaking havoc!
I cannot describe how difficult last night was. To be pregnant (and not be able to drink my sorrows away) with a monster's child, to have my heartbroken, to feel used and abused, and my trust violated....I sobbed all night, and when I finally got some sleep, I have 4 different vivid nightmares about this man.
I truly believe he is a sociopath. I don't understand how he could even keep track of all of those detailed lies, the man never stopped talking, and everything was so detailed and in depth! I can't even imagine conning someone like that, I'm the most honest person I know and what's worse is I'm really open-hearted and caring. My mother told me it's my fault for trusting him, and I just feel like curling up in a fetal position and never getting out of bed ever again.
Here's some info about the behaviors of these kinds of people, I truly hope none of you ever cross paths with these sick individuals.
https://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html
Now I don't know what to do, I'm shattered and I'm really thinking about A, even though I'm against it...I feel broken. My reality has been shattered and I feel like my perception of the world around me is like I'm looking at everything through those mirrors you find in a circus show. I don't know if that makes any sense, but it's all..fragmented.
Sorry this is long, and thanks again for your support.
I feel so bad for you huni, im so sorry 
