Third Time Lucky - Fingers Crossed!!!

[mannymoo]

Bagpus - I wouldn't have a scan before 7-8 weeks, especially if you're not 100% sure when you actually conceived. Best thing at this stage would be to ask for repeat blood tests to make sure your HCG is going up suitably (and also to test your progresterone) and try get a scan for a few weeks time. My doctor put me on progesterone supplements for the first 12 weeks as well as low dose aspirin which I'm still on. Perhaps you can ask your doc about that?

Welcome Mah0113 and sorry for your losses. Fingers crossed you get lucky this cycle! I don't think old sperm is necessarily a reason for miscarriage. If it was old, it probably wuldn't be able to fertilise the egg. I used pre-seed for this pregnancy and it does help keep sperm going strong for longer so maybe give it a try.

Cheryl - how many weeks are you? You must be very close now - very exciting!!

FMS - not much. got a scan tomorrow but DH is away so its just me. And then we have our 4D scan on Thursday which I am very excited about!

 

[thethomsons]

Hey welcome to all the newbies!

Glad to hear all the bumps are doing well at all different stages!

Definitely a lucky forum!

Have copied the post I have put in 2nd trimester as saves me retyping. Please help me decide what's for best!

Girls I'm looking for advice can you give me your opinions please ......
I have been off work since 12 weeks pregnant as I had to have a major laparotomy where I had appendix and also part of bowel removed. Baby survived ordeal really well and im so blessed. I'm not 25 weeks and baby wise everything great. The problem is that since operation I have had terrible ligament pain as well as terrible rib pain. The rib pain comes from the operation recovery as the consultant had to separate my '6 back' to get into investigate pain i was in. The ligament pain is from weakened muscles due to operation mixed with my ever growing belly as baby grows. So when I'm on feet for too long I get really sore and stiff. Also I can't bend much due to rib pain which is also not helped by every growing belly. The physio I see said she thought avoid work as could be very difficult. I'm a primary school teacher so quite a physical job. So my problem is, I have a sick line covering me till 15th April which is 7 weeks before maternity leave starts. As I am off with a non pregnancy illness it doesn't affect my maternity leave which will start on 3rd June. That's leaves 7 weeks where i either go back to work and struggle on the 7 weeks or I get another line to take me to start of maternity leave? I so don't know what to do for best? I don't want to be off if I should be battling on? What I am scared about though is that my work have disciplinary procedures linked to long term absence and if I go back and then go off again then that puts me up a stage which isn't good if that makes sence. Also there is a teacher covering my class who the boss wants to use for my mat leave and she did mention that me going back might mean she loses her. (That couldn't be a reason for me not to go back though)

So what would you do in my position? I will be 30 weeks pg by the the time need to go back or get another sick line to take me to 3rd June.

All opinions appreciated! Thanks again girls xxx

 

[bagpuss19]

Hi everyone
Thanks for the welcome I really hope I get to stay. Had a crappy day todayive been feeling really low and lonely. I'm crampy today worse than other days so I'm worried no bleeding tho. But I was out with my DS swimming this am then softplay this aft. Got a message from friend we were with asking if I was ok as seemed very flat. I am flat but I haven't told anyone and feel so lonely going through this anxiety without having anyone to talk to. They don't warn you how tough actual pregnancy is after mc! Xx

 

[mah0113]

thanks manny. That makes sense. We use conceive plus, I like it so far...and it helped us conceive twice fairly quickly so I feel happy with it.

I read lots of positive stories today and felt much more confident that the 3rd one will stick

When is everyone testing? I will be testing April 7/8

 

[mannymoo]

Elaine - quite a tough situation. TBH I don't think you will be feeling like doing much work at 30 weeks. I'm approaching that now and feel like working less and less every day. Has your work indicated if they will follow through on disciplinary action for long term absence? Sounds to me like it might suit both you and your employer by not going back to work as they can then keep the replacement on. Perhaps you can try chat to them and see what the likelihood is of disciplinary action and if they are against it, I would avoid working all together. You don't need to get that far into your pregnancy and then struggle through the last few weeks. Rather take it easy. Keep us posted on what you decide.

Bagpuss sorry you had a bad day yesterday. Hope today is better.
Mah0113 will be thinking of you on 7/8 April. Fingers crossed.

Hi everyone else. Hope you're all well.
x

 

[Laubull]

Elaine it sounds like you're in a really tricky situation and to be honest I wouldn't know what to do either, I am 30 weeks now and agree with Manny, working is no fun! I think what Manny said is right, try and speak to your work off the record, be honest with them about how you feel, obviously you want to go back but you're concerned that if you go back you won't be able to do your job properly and where will that leave them? If your boss is a good boss, which I am sure they are, they will try and resolve the situation. Sorry it's not more straight forward.

Welcome to the news girls, I have everything crossed for third time lucky for you both. Bagpuss are you getting an early scan? And mah fingers crossed for testing

Everyone else I hope you're well, sorry I can't remember everything that is posted!

AFM I am 30 weeks, yeahhhhhhh! 3/4 of the way through, only 10 weeks left, I cannot believe how quick it's going. I've been so tired and had an emotional weekend, my Dad had a heart scare, apparently all is ok but I can't stop worrying about it Anyway my work is flexible so I am taking today to work from home, check emails and start getting organised for when I leave in under 8 weeks!

Hugs to all. xxx

 

[bagpuss19]

Elaine it sounds like you're in a really tricky situation and to be honest I wouldn't know what to do either, I am 30 weeks now and agree with Manny, working is no fun! I think what Manny said is right, try and speak to your work off the record, be honest with them about how you feel, obviously you want to go back but you're concerned that if you go back you won't be able to do your job properly and where will that leave them? If your boss is a good boss, which I am sure they are, they will try and resolve the situation. Sorry it's not more straight forward.

Welcome to the news girls, I have everything crossed for third time lucky for you both. Bagpuss are you getting an early scan? And mah fingers crossed for testing

Everyone else I hope you're well, sorry I can't remember everything that is posted!

AFM I am 30 weeks, yeahhhhhhh! 3/4 of the way through, only 10 weeks left, I cannot believe how quick it's going. I've been so tired and had an emotional weekend, my Dad had a heart scare, apparently all is ok but I can't stop worrying about it Anyway my work is flexible so I am taking today to work from home, check emails and start getting organised for when I leave in under 8 weeks!

Hugs to all. xxx

I have the gp on thurs so will ask I think. I know it's early but I think I would rather feel like I knew what was going on! I appreciate I might not be able to see much but I guess they then have something to compare the next scan to?

 

[Laubull]

I think it's worth asking bagpuss. I had a scan at 7 weeks and you could see baby was in the right place and there was a heartbeat too. However if you don't get one be positive, you've had no bleeding which is a positive sign

 

[Lou15]

Hi Bagpuss and welcome! Sorry you had a tough day yesterday, it is very hard being pregnant after 2 losses but all the ladies on here will help keep you going! Some cramping can be completely normal in early pregnancy, there's a lot going on in there at the moment so you're bound to feel something, especially when you're worried and you notice every twinge. I was scanned weekly from just over 5 weeks, and I found it very reassuring. Good luck and keep us posted.

Welcome Mah0113! I am so very sorry for your losses and hope this forum brings you lots of comfort and luck.

Laubull,sorry to hear about your Dad, but be reassured that anything heart-wise is always taken very seriously and investigated fully, so if they say all is ok then I'm sure it must be x

Elaine, from what you have said I think you would be much better off just staying off work through to maternity leave. Working in 3rd tri is hard enough without all your additional aches and pains. I would think it would be very stressful returning after a long absence and you don't need any additional stress at the moment either. Surely they wouldn't have any basis for disciplinary action given what you have been through? You and baby are most important at the moment, look after yourself if you possibly can.

Everyone else, I hope you're ok. Sending love and good wishes xx

 

[bagpuss19]

Hi Bagpuss and welcome! Sorry you had a tough day yesterday, it is very hard being pregnant after 2 losses but all the ladies on here will help keep you going! Some cramping can be completely normal in early pregnancy, there's a lot going on in there at the moment so you're bound to feel something, especially when you're worried and you notice every twinge. I was scanned weekly from just over 5 weeks, and I found it very reassuring. Good luck and keep us posted.

Welcome Mah0113! I am so very sorry for your losses and hope this forum brings you lots of comfort and luck.

Laubull,sorry to hear about your Dad, but be reassured that anything heart-wise is always taken very seriously and investigated fully, so if they say all is ok then I'm sure it must be x

Elaine, from what you have said I think you would be much better off just staying off work through to maternity leave. Working in 3rd tri is hard enough without all your additional aches and pains. I would think it would be very stressful returning after a long absence and you don't need any additional stress at the moment either. Surely they wouldn't have any basis for disciplinary action given what you have been through? You and baby are most important at the moment, look after yourself if you possibly can.

Everyone else, I hope you're ok. Sending love and good wishes xx

Hi guys
Well yesterday no cramps just twinges and same today so far. I did another clearblue today and it has gone up to 3+ so that's got to be positive right?
Gp tomorrow...

 

[mannymoo]

Excellent news Bagpuss. I've read that lots of girls who have early losses struggle to get the required results on CB digitals so I think its a great sign that your pregnancy seems to be progressing nicely so far! GL for tomorrow.

 

[mannymoo]

Excellent news Bagpuss! I've read that lots of girls who have early losses struggle to get the required results on CB digitals so I think its a great sign that your pregnancy seems to be progressing nicely so far! GL for tomorrow!

 

[mannymoo]

Sorry - don't know why I sometimes get a double post. Think my computer is sloooowww.

 

[CherylC3]

Hey I'm 35 wks now manny god can't believe ur 28wks

Elaine can u not get ur maternity leave to start at 30wks?x

Lou how are u doin Hun?x

Bag puss try to enjoy ur pregnancy Hun I kno it's hard after 2 losses but its only fair on ur baby to be excited..x

Laubull hope ur doing good Hun can't believe ur 30 wks x

 

[Laubull]

Cheryl and Lou you must be next to drop, or is poptart before you both? Either way thinking of you both lots, hope you get the birth you want

Bagpuss 3+ weeks is great, I remember getting it with this pregnancy, didn't get it with any of my others so it must be a good sign

Lou, thank you, you are right he's been looked after, it's just very scary. Fingers crossed for the best.

Hugs to all

 

[CherylC3]

Hey yeah but I thot pop tart was about 4wks ahead of us... S hoping to hear if her baby is on the way yet...x

 

[garfie]

That's great news bagpuss - good luck for your appointment tomorrow

AFM - temps are extremely high - will probably crash tomorrow so just waiting

I can't believe how far on you ladies are it seems like only yesterday (to me ) you were announcing your BFPs one by one



X

 

[Lou15]

I think Poptart is about 2 weeks ahead of me.....

 

[thethomsons]

I'm 26 weeks on Sunday!!

 

[mannymoo]

I am really getting excited for these babies to start being born!!