This is a little awkward..

[xAmiixLouisex]

I couldn't even think of a title. Basically.. I haven't actually had sex since I conceived. If you've kept up with my story on here you'll know that me and FOB aren't together. I don't really feel comfortable with dating during pregnancy and would never feel comfortable having sex with anyone other than the actual father of my child (during pregnancy). No offence to any single mom's who have dated during their pregnancy.

Ok so I'm wondering. Will this effect me during childbirth?

Obviously, it must be getting a little tight down there with no sexual activy since July.. and it's not gonna get any bigger in the next 3 months. I feel kinda awkward asking this, as there's not much I can do about it unless I erm.. Take a trip to a toy shop.

 

[youngmommy2]

I've been wondering the same thing.. I haven't had sex since september (when me and fob split) and the first internal exam I had was EXCRUCIATING!! I felt really really tight and I don't use toys or anything like that, zero sex drive anyways. I can't even reach to do my own perenium massages so im pretty certain I am going to tear pretty badly or get cut.. ugh.

 

[crazylilth1ng]

I haven't been penetrated since I conceived either, seriously... it will not make ANY difference in terms of the delivery. Sex and toys don't actually make your vagina any bigger, just more used to things being inserted... and think of the size of the baby anyway, even if sex did alter the size the amount would be negligible... so I think you will be ok

 

[MaybeP]

Ahaha I wouldn't worry, I know a lot of women on here don't even have sex with their OH's, me included except on maybe 3 occasions since becoming pregnant and each time I wouldn't let him go very deep as I did feel very tight.

If it would make you feel better about labour and delivering I would suggest self perineum massage to stretch things out down there and prepare yourself for a baby coming out

 

[Kyliem87]

I don't think it should make a difference hun. We all dilate to the approx of 10cms before we push anyways and that's regardless of how much sex we have. Also every mans penis is a different size as is every womens toosh so again you can't really say. I think whether you have regular sex or no sex your birth will be the same!

But that's my opinion and nothing medically substantial - I haven't a clue! lol

 

[stepmummy]

I wouldn't imagine it would affect your *ahem* stretchiness that much, then I'm no expert. Personally DH and I haven't had a good bonk since about 3 months ago and I don't plan to until after the baby's well clear of me - I just can't face it! I think a lot of women spend the lead-up to the birth not having any action, so I woulnd't worry

 

[emuuu]

Lol, bless you! I don't think that will have any effect what so ever, lack of sex certainly won't stop your cervix dilating which is what needs to happen for baby to get out. If your worried try perenium (spelling?) massage to help the skin stretch and well if sex is supposed to help get things going and sex is off the menu then why not have a trip to ann summers anyway? It can't hurt! x

 

[Kyliem87]

Lol, bless you! I don't think that will have any effect what so ever, lack of sex certainly won't stop your cervix dilating which is what needs to happen for baby to get out. If your worried try perenium (spelling?) massage to help the skin stretch and well if sex is supposed to help get things going and sex is off the menu then why not have a trip to ann summers anyway? It can't hurt! x

OT - Good name choice hun!

 

[bababel]

Me and my hubby have only dtd two or three times since conceiving. I just haven't been in the mood! I don't think it'll make any difference in birth though. You'll be fine!

 

[waitandsee]

I could imagine that doing Kegels regularly would help, with post partum recovery. cause thats what I use sex for

 

[..katie..]

My sex life has decreased considerably since conception since, well, OH/FOB (depending on the mood of the day. bleh) and I split and don't see each other often... But the weird thing is, when we do do it, I feel looser? He says he doesn't notice a difference. But anyway, I think it matters in delivery. After all, sex is having something going in, delivery is something coming out. I have no idea.
Anyway, I kind of agree with the comments about get a toy. idk about you, but my libido is ridiculous and I am not cool with having sex with anybody other than the baby's dad. They help. (im blushing.)

 

[youngwife20]

Tbh- I was having sex with hubby but still felt tight! when i had an internal to check if my waters had broke nd they put some huge thing up my Vajayjay and i have never felt so sore down there!! so clearly it doesnt make a diffrence so i wouldnt worry x

 

[molly27]

hubby and i are the same we havent had sex since i found out i was pregnant as ive had three mc so am so scared to do anything.ive always been very tight down there and internals hurt like hell so ive been wondering the same thing.glad u posted this thread.

 

[Charlie_x]

Oh Amy i always love reading your posts!! Dont worry, when your labour it will strech out itself and settle back down! xx

 

[jenniferttc1]

Ha ha I don't think it would, if you think about it a penis isn't THAT huge like most men like to think they are. So it probably wouldn't help out much in our favor anyways. You could always use a vibrator though.