Oh hun, what a horrible situation to be in when recovering from a loss. It must be really sore for you, especially when she is unsure if she is going to keep it or not, so soon after your losses. Is there not anyone else she could stay with if it got too much for you? If there is, although you wouldn't feel like doing this, and she will have her own things to deal with in her head, but maybe you could have a word with her and explain how difficult this is for you (phrased very tactfully obv)? I know it is hard, and you want to help, but for anyone recovering after a loss, this is just a bit too close to home for anyone to have to deal with.
If she really doesn't have anywhere else to go, will it be for long she would be with you? I really can't think of an answer to this at all if this is the case
. As she hasn't suffered a loss herself, and is in a different circumstance from you, she won't be thinking in the same way as you are, and that will undoubtedly hurt. I know it isn't exactly the same thing, but my best friend had an abortion last year, before my 2 mcs and sometimes she will mention it if I mention my mcs, as if it were the same thing, and if she mentions it, I struggle to talk with her about it as she had the choice and I didn't. Basically my point there is if you have suffered a loss, or losses, being around someone who has had an abortion can be too sore, so if this does turn out to be the choice she makes, just be careful with your own feelings and take plenty of time out for yourself.
Similarly, if she chooses to go ahead, try to take as much time out for yourself, and keep reminding yourself it isn't going to be forever.
Hope it all gets sorted out soon.
xxxx