This is my only chance at a baby

[Lawgirl]

I've started to feel a little despondent recently especially since there are discussions on the forum about later losses. Before I got pregnant I had been trying for 4 years, with 2 early m/cs, followed by nothing for 3 years. This baby was conceived on the 2nd attempt at IVF (using ICSI) and, since only 1 egg survived from 20 (which is less than would be expected, so something is clearly wrong) this really is a miracle baby. If something goes wrong it will mean the end of my hopes of a having a baby, since I could not put myself through this again.

I guess it doesn't help that I don't feel pg at the moment and I'm worrying about my 16 week checkup on Thursday. The only symptom I have is neverending hunger and and an expanding bump. But surely that would have stopped if something had gone wrong.

 

[mnonie]

Tbh I never felt pg until about 4 weeks ago, I'm sure it'll be ok Hun. Just try and enjoy it, think about when you get to hold your LO in your arms instead of thinking about what could go wrong.
I know that's not a great help but you've got all of our support. X

 

[CatherineK]

The great, great majority of babies that make it 16 weeks end up making it and thriving ! Don't stress. I was told I couldn't have kids, after years of trying and fertility treatments I got pregnant for the first time at 34. Lost that baby at 13 weeks, thought I'd never have a chance again. Well, less than five years later here I am with a (surprise, unplanned and unaided) THIRD baby. So realize life is full of miracles

 

[piscean]

Have you thought of getting a fetal doppler for reassurance? My pregnancy is very high risk. My fetal doppler is a lifesaver for me.

 

[Kiwi4545]

Definitely feel you on this one. I am worried about every little thing, and we didn't have nearly the journey you did! Rest easy girl. Try to enjoy it as much as you can, I hear it goes fast.

 

[Bethi22]

Think positive thoughts, hun! There is a baby in your belly and chances are he/she is going to be perfectly wonderful!!

 

[bethneebabe]

I'm feeling the same way. I am 19 weeks now and feeling a bit of movement but am terrified of my 20 week scan. Last summer I had an early miscarriage and I've carried that with me. My heart breaks for everyone who has lost their baby on here. I am praying that we all make it with healthy and happy babies.

 

[Linz88]

I think you should get a doppler if you believe this wil be your last pregnancy i think you should enjoy it as much as you can, i stressed my entire pregnancy, and it ruined it for me , my doppler helped ease my worries until i started feelin her move good luck hun xxx

 

[xdxxtx]

I felt that way about my first baby. I was classed as "infertile" due to numerous factors and was not ovulating. Well, I decided to TTC anyway, even though I "knew" it would never take. My partner and I were actually planning on adopting in a few years but figured it wouldn't hurt to try. One took, and that's my wonderful 13 month old. Now, this baby was a true surprise. I was using protection even though I didn't think I would be able to conceive again anyway... I've got a baby AND a fetus now who are complete miracles to me.

I spent my entire first pregnancy worrying because I wasn't going to ever do it again if something bad happened... but nothing ever did. Hun, I am thinking of you and will continue to keep you in my thoughts. My sister went through 9 years of TTC and finally got a baby with help from a fertility specialist. I KNOW your pregnancy will be just fine and wonderful as well.