This momma can't nest!

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I'm so frustrated. My husband still hasn't done ONE thing to get the office stuff moved so we can get this nursery up and ready! I need to nest now!
Hegot so made at me when i brought it up about 2 weeks ago, that I told hiim I wouldn't bring it up again. I just don't know what to do! He doesn't see anything wrong with having baby in with us for the first few months. But, I just feel after baby comes I will be too stressed to work on a nursery too!
 
just start doing it yourself he will soon get the message and step in an do it lol x
 
It's totally fine to have baby in with you but that's not the point. You still want a nursery done before baby arrives - somewhere to store their clothes, gifts etc and generally admire :) If I were you I'd start it myself and if he kicks off just say well you werent going to do it. He needs a kick up the backside. Hugs xx
 
I agree, just start doing what you can (but don't over exert yourself) and hopefully he'll catch on. Let him know how important this is to you and you are not trying to nag but it is part of the process of becoming a parent and something you're ready to do. Or find a bunch of stuff to decorate the nursery with and tell him it's on sale and you have to buy it now which means it's better to set up the nursery now, lol.
 
lol When we found out I was pregnant I approached the office conversion after a few weeks. The heavy frown and grunt from him said it all. So knowing I wasn't going to get much help from him about it, I started to gut it while he was at work. It was slow, but steady, and once pictures were off the wall and things began to look stark, he gave in a touch by transferring some of the unneeded furniture downstairs. The only thing left in the room is his desk and chair, which will be tossed after we reach the 24 week mark. He will be on his new desk in the man's den I have been slowly converting downstairs. He says he doesn't like it because it's too open and an office should be in a room, but he knows it's the only option. So I'll let him have his office as long as possible, just add the smaller baby things around him :thumbup:
 
I could of written your post.

My baby is now 14 mths old, in that pregnancy I was asking him to sort the office out before she was born, he never did. You should see the shit in there, his shit, his desk is piled high with paperwork.. all over the floor you cant even hoover in there.

Now we're having this 2nd baby, Ella is in a small box room, so we need the big room (his office) to put both babys in. I've been asking him again from the start of my pregnancy.. NOTHING is done yet. We need it cleared out and decorated. I'm due in decemeber and I am starting to get pissed off with him now. I asked him again last night and he came back with the usual 'when have I got time' ? Well he finds time to watch football, play on the pc for hours etc etc.

I will give him another week, then I will raid the room with Bin bags, I swear I will do it, he wont be happy as all his paperwork will be thrown in the bags but - tough shit, it's been over 14ths now and this time we do need the room.

I'll probably do it when I am having a bitch hormonal day ! :haha:
 
Tell him you are going to hire professional movers if he won't do it. Usually the thought of spending his money helps to get things going for us:)))
 
It's the other way around in my house I haven't been up to doing anything baby related, but my husband has been driving me crazy with his "nesting". I'm only 14 weeks and he has already bought a baby swing and travel system. I on the other hand haven't bought anything baby related.

I would just start to do somethings on your own, and eventually he will get the picture.
 
awwww...thanks so much for the support ladies! I had my dad come over last night to move the dresser for baby in the office. My hubby was so mad! I am going to do this by myself. Mad or not! I want to paint this room and make it look like a baby boy's room! I will see about hiring professional movers for the big desks and office equipment! I will give them his cell phone number to call back for arranging a date/time! hahaha! I can only imagine what he will say!!
 
hahahaha- I only laugh because we just had a huge argument about all of this last night! I totally understand! We hired a painter, so that's the *only* reason we even moved the stuff last night- because he was coming today! Then, my husband just wanted to pile the furniture and everything in our room, but that made me anxious bc I just wanted to have to move everything once, rather than twice- and it would stay in our room for ages before it actually got moved. We had a huge argument about it- do be careful, bc I got so upset, I acted on adrenaline and moved a bunch of things I shouldn't have.
Not that I did anything too crazy, but it was too much. My husband got soooo mad at me when he saw that- then of course I had an adrenaline/emotion crash and felt horrible that I could have hurt myself or baby........

Anyhow, I can relate! I feel the pressure to get things done earlier because I am nesting AND because my body is already having a hard time doing things I used to be able to. I want to be done early while I still can. Just try to explain that very respectfully and rationally to him and ask if it would be less stressful to hire someone to do it? When I was taking more of that approach, it was going much better for us...lol!
In the end, I know my DH is happy things are pretty much completed rather than sitll having it looming over our heads.
 
P.S. I'm having a baby shower, so I was able to use that as our deadline with my hubby. I just explained that we will be getting a lot of things then- better to have to room done and have a place to put it all.
 
Yes! I could definately see myself getting all my emotions involved and trying to move things myself too. Completely something I would do for sure!!! Thanks so much for all your support ladies. It's just so frustrating- especially when he is relaxing so nicely on the couch right now!! urgh!!
 
Haha I also could have written this post, my hubby is ok moving his office to the basement but it keeps getting put off! Last week I had an ultrasound and apparently my dates ate wrong in actually almost 26 weeks pregnant. So I'm completely panicked, and just want the house organized, and the babies room emptied.

I just have to get him motivated some how.
 
Just start doing it while he's sitting on the couch and make sure your extra loud and huff and puff and guilt him lol
 
I'm so frustrated. My husband still hasn't done ONE thing to get the office stuff moved so we can get this nursery up and ready! I need to nest now!
Hegot so made at me when i brought it up about 2 weeks ago, that I told hiim I wouldn't bring it up again. I just don't know what to do! He doesn't see anything wrong with having baby in with us for the first few months. But, I just feel after baby comes I will be too stressed to work on a nursery too!

I can relate! Men just don't understand nesting!! I really want to get my nursery set up, mainly for fun but also because I doubt I'll have time when baby is born. OH doesn't see the point of getting things like a cot now because baby won't need it for a while, but it will be nice to have it all set up anyway, & I want to make my own bumpers etc. I told him I'll be too tierd to do it in 3rd tri. He gave me the lecture about how lots of women do hard physical work right up to their due date. Who are these women & why are they making it do hard for me to get away with wanting some rest later on?! ;)
 
I'm so frustrated. My husband still hasn't done ONE thing to get the office stuff moved so we can get this nursery up and ready! I need to nest now!
Hegot so made at me when i brought it up about 2 weeks ago, that I told hiim I wouldn't bring it up again. I just don't know what to do! He doesn't see anything wrong with having baby in with us for the first few months. But, I just feel after baby comes I will be too stressed to work on a nursery too!

Oh I just started doing that kind of stuff like 2 months ago myself. After 4-5 months of begging. Trust me when he hears you banging around getting the stuff out he will help. My DH decided that while number 3 was in our room he was sleeping else where. I got sick of it begged him for 2 months to move the bed, "I'll do it another day". He heard me banging around he's like, "what are you doing?" I told him I was trying to move the bed myself, but it wouldn't fit out our door. Guess what it may have been the next night but he did it himself. Or do what I have done before (ie not necessarily this pregnancy that is). Say you have hurt yourself and go to labor and delivery or your dr. When they ask what the problem is and what was happening when you were doing it. Make sure DH goes with to that appointment, then the dr/nurse will be sure enough to yell at him for you doing it all by yourself. Personally I believe the same room is ok for the first 2 or 3 months. Then intimacy is kinda awkward cause then when he/she rolls over they try to watch. So I usually feel by 3 months it is better for a relationship for them to be in their own room and not so much with mommy and daddy. Not saying that relationship don't count. But when kids move out after turning 18 then it is just you and DH so might as well try to nuture the relationship all along so no resentment.
 
I'm so frustrated. My husband still hasn't done ONE thing to get the office stuff moved so we can get this nursery up and ready! I need to nest now!
Hegot so made at me when i brought it up about 2 weeks ago, that I told hiim I wouldn't bring it up again. I just don't know what to do! He doesn't see anything wrong with having baby in with us for the first few months. But, I just feel after baby comes I will be too stressed to work on a nursery too!

I can relate! Men just don't understand nesting!! I really want to get my nursery set up, mainly for fun but also because I doubt I'll have time when baby is born. OH doesn't see the point of getting things like a cot now because baby won't need it for a while, but it will be nice to have it all set up anyway, & I want to make my own bumpers etc. I told him I'll be too tierd to do it in 3rd tri. He gave me the lecture about how lots of women do hard physical work right up to their due date. Who are these women & why are they making it do hard for me to get away with wanting some rest later on?! ;)

And I heard of women doing all sorts of stuff in third tri that was too tough for them. That sent them to L and D for premature labor (cause they did too much stuff and alot of it was without the help of their OH/SO/DH). Tell him that one and who knows maybe he will listen then, LMAO.
 

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