this will probably make me sound like a bitch but...

[kasey590]

ive got a friend hu is TTC and i was TTC too for 12 months. i like to think i kno wat i am doing and i think that this baby has been 12 months in the making and as weve planned as much as we can and have as much planned as we can but it seems like this person is now popping up every now and again making little comments like " going to bed at 4 in the morning? ur sleeping habbits are bad for the baby" and in regards to the air con in our rental only being in the main loung room "you will have to change that with a baby coming into the house". for starters, i was up at 4am coz JB is making me eat alot more and alot more frequently than normal and i woke up at 3am with hunger pains (WTF??!!) so while i was eating i was online, and second of all, our house is insulated, when its hot we hav pedestal fans we use so its not that hot and im in a frikkin rental, its not like i can decide to change it and fir a new aircon in the house and if i asked them too theyd just laugh and up the rent 50 bucks.

please tell me if i am over reacting but all the while ive been TTC this person has made very blunt innapropriate comments and my close friends are starting to notice them too. i want to say something to her but i dont kno wat. i feel horrible coz i got my BFP and she hasnt coz she would be a fantastic mummy but i dont want her to keep saying things that make me mad all the time. i kno wat im doing, it IS my first and i kno ur never truly ready no matter how prepared you think you are but come on!!


argh...sorry i think im over reacting but it would be nice to hear from other ppl wat they think of the situation.

also i work nights and sleep alot during the day so when i get home from work at around 10-11 pm i still have to have dinner and wind down and even now at 2am over here im hungry again and im not tired enough to sleep yet.

 

[mlyn26]

Gosh she sounds a nightmare. Tell her that although you understand she cares about you, her comments are getting you down and to keep them to hersel. Use some pregnancy hormones to get it out!!

 

[kfarb]

You don't sound like a bitch at all. I hate when people do that. I tried for my baby for almost six months, not as long as you but still a wait. Even before I found out I was pregnant I gave up the caffeine. Well, I went into the restaurant where I work and got a glass of dr. pepper, my first caffeine of any kind since I got my BFP and this older lady I worked with said "Well, sooner or later you're going to have to give that up." It seriously annoyed me. Plus, my MIL who I love dearly, makes comments like that sometimes. I said I was craving pickles and beef jerky and she said "That sure sounds like a lot of salt." or when I mentioned I was taking unisom (1/2 a night) she asked if that was ok when I'm pregnant. Like I would do anything I wasn't 100% sure about. I worked hard for this baby! I just think older women, who have had children just think they have to teach us or something. I always politely don't answer. I've been reading pregnancy books since before I got my BFP.

 

[kasey590]

i just dont get it, i mean i kno shes in her late 30s and trying and i can appreciate that but when i used to get angry and frustrated from TTC she said pretty much said i had no right to coz she was in a worse situation than i was just coz shes older. she didn know that afew years ago i had issues and they didnt think i was gunna be able to fall pregnant. and then if i got angry at a teen chick hu was pregnant and doing the wrong thing or someone hu wasnt doing the right thing by there kids she would tell me to grow the ff up and get over it. apparently me being upset coz a teen i knew was still drinking and smoking during pregnancy was a childish thing to do...i am sorry i just needed to vent

 

[kfarb]

That explains a little more. She really wants to be pregnant and you are, so she's jealous. It doesn't make what she's doing right, but I can understand her a bit. It drove me nuts at work when this girl was pregnant a few months before me and she would drink coffee the entire shift. Or the other girl who used sweet n low. I wanted to be pregnant and wasn't and to me they were taking for granted what they had. You, on the other hand are not. But it looks to her like you are. Of course, I'm not defending her actions AT ALL! Although I understand what she's feeling, she should keep her mouth shut like I did!

 

[kasey590]

hey Kfarb thanks for replying
i kno wat u mean we were reading books for 6 months before we decided to TTC so i kno wat u mean. no matter how long u ttc for it always feels like a life time!
i have always drunk coke, i love my coke. since my bfp ive cut down so much. a 1.25 litre lasted me a week and i had a glass at work tonight coz i needed the sugar. i just wish ppl would let me look after my baby. its inside ME after all....

 

[quaizer]

Things change bigtime when you have a baby, Ive done it twice so I know what Im talking about. I think you should tell her that its your house, your job and non of her damn business. Whilst youre still at work , you cant change your sleep pattern and I seriously doubt that it will affect your baby directly anyway. Youre sleep pattern is disturbed anyway during pregnancy, with my second, I was getting max 2 hours a night, but my baby had the same pattern until I gave birth, Youll know what you need to change when the time comes and you have plenty of time for planning. Meanwhile tell your so-called-friend to bugger off, put your feet up and relax while you grow that gorgeous babe.

Good luck hun xx

 

[kasey590]

Things change bigtime when you have a baby, Ive done it twice so I know what Im talking about. I think you should tell her that its your house, your job and non of her damn business. Whilst youre still at work , you cant change your sleep pattern and I seriously doubt that it will affect your baby directly anyway. Youre sleep pattern is disturbed anyway during pregnancy, with my second, I was getting max 2 hours a night, but my baby had the same pattern until I gave birth, Youll know what you need to change when the time comes and you have plenty of time for planning. Meanwhile tell your so-called-friend to bugger off, put your feet up and relax while you grow that gorgeous babe.

Good luck hun xx

thank you chick i really appreciate all the support that ive been given in this thread. i thort maybe i was over reacting or something...i guesse im right afterall. on my facebook account ive found a way to not let her comment on future updats and statuses so hopefully my angryness will now cease lol
if u ever have any advice u wanna share quaizer please do. like u said uve already done this once and this is bubba numero uno for me so ill take as much advice as i can get

 

[quaizer]

The best advice I can give you is this....its incredibly hard at first, but give yourself a break and chance to adjust. Take advice but be sure to do it YOUR way, don let anyone take over and tell you what to do. Mommy ALWAYS knows best imo.

Youre very welcome hun, your doing the right thing ad youll know instinctively what to do when your boo arrives. Have a feeling you gonna be an excellent mom

 

[AP]

When you're pregnant, and when baby is around - you will always get 'advice'. It gets worse when the baby is here - I promise, you will hear the most stupid suggestions!

Like I heard on of the girls say here - just smile and nod.....: