threads about amazing dads-to-be

[nicole_]

theres lots of threads of nice gestures etc
but im having a bit of a tough time with my OH
weve been arguing a lot and hes finding me being pregnant hard to get his head round
we always sort it out and we know we wont actually call us off,
but people say its usual to put strain on a relationship; hormones etc
but everyone on here has feet rubbing, flower giving OHs lol
anyone else found things a bit more strained or am i fighting a loosing battle

 

[mislaww]

I would describe my DH as "meh". He's not an ass or anything, and has been helping out with household chores when I'm too tired, etc. But he's no angel, he pisses me off a lot and I don't feel like he's all that into it right now. Kind of like you said - he hasn't wrapped his head around it. He's completely unhelpful in planning, etc. It's annoying.

 

[Inge]

mines like that. He's playing call of buty til 12pm every night even though im knackered and he even wanted me to make him a tea when I had my head down the toilet But he's like a little boy and someones has to look after him You wouldnt know he's 30 and gonna be a dad of 2 soon

 

[welshmummy2be]

my OH is the same as he's always been although i must admit he's the im hard kinda guy and is showing hs emotions a lot more considering....i find he puts his hands on my belly, buys me foods i've been craving without questions, even came home with a cute little dress for our lil princess which i though he wouldnt do by himself. we still have arguments and want to kill one another but always make up ten min later with a cupper lol x x

 

[nicole_]

im glad im not alone, mislaw thats such a good word for my OH lol, he is extremely 'meh' he says hes still trying to get his head round it. i sometimes catch him rubbing my tummy when im half asleep in the mornings when he thinks im fast asleep
but otherwise hes not got much intrest in baby things, names etc
inge my OHs asked for COD for christmas, i soooo dont wanna get it haha

 

[lilprince]

You're not alone hun! As wonderful and sweet and loving as my DH is he is very selfish. He works full time but often stays later when he doesnt have to and races PRO cyclocross, road and DH bikes. So basically he works, trains, and races both days on the weekend. I literally NEVER see him. When he is home he is always tinkering and working on his bikes. I knew thats what I signed up for but I know myself all too well and if it continues when baby comes Im going to be extremely resentful! As it stands I only see DH after his training rides at 8pm or so till about 10:30 when we go to sleep and for a few hours on the weekends. I throw many fits but he can be very selfish! I keep telling him racing will always be there but we are only having one chiild together and you are missing everything! Hope its worth it.....

 

[nicole_]

thankgod for not being alone
although i dont wish it on anyone to feel like their OH is 'meh'

 

[rockabillymom]

I think all of ours have our issues...I only new my DH 3 monthes before I got prego (I knwo i know we are fast moving people) So he has known me longer pregnant than he has before that. We fight a lot but you just have to keep in sight that its just your horomones and let him know that. My DH read what to expect when expecting (the dad part) and it helped him understand what I am going through and what I need. We still get into tiffs almost every other night but always make up before we go to bed. You just got to get ahold of your emotions sometimes and swallow your pride to admit your wrong (ive learned anyways). Hang in there! Youll get back to yourself once your LO is here.

 

[Inge]

im glad im not alone, mislaw thats such a good word for my OH lol, he is extremely 'meh' he says hes still trying to get his head round it. i sometimes catch him rubbing my tummy when im half asleep in the mornings when he thinks im fast asleep
but otherwise hes not got much intrest in baby things, names etc
inge my OHs asked for COD for christmas, i soooo dont wanna get it haha

if you never want to see him again buy it oh cant keep away from it! I hide the tv remote and pad in the mornings to try to keep him off it

 

[DazedConfused]

I can't relate to the fail male situation as my OH cries over bassinets and things and is always running around asking me not to move...?

But I'm a bit "meh" to be honest. So I can relate to the guys! it's a lot to get your head around

 

[Mini_Me_x]

I think being a woman and as we are the ones carrying our babies no one will ever be how we want them to be all the time.. we will always want our other half to be excited over baby grows and buying nappies etc.. but...they are men! Men arent the most sensitive creatures! And sometimes cant do right for doing wrong when we get in our moods..!

Us girls can be scary women when are hormones are all over the place xxx

 

[Widget]

My DH has been wonderful with chores - he does everything from laundry to sweeping. However we still argue over baby related things... I think its normal considering I'm a ball of hormones and he is scared shitless about being a dad for the first time.

Ok... DH is reading this and he says I must write "apprehensive" instead of "scared shitless". Ha.... another argument he isn't going to win against this hormonal witch.

We have been arguing a lot over the discipline of our 1 year old great dane too. I can't imagine how much we will argue over disciplining a child.

 

[Widget]

You're not alone hun! As wonderful and sweet and loving as my DH is he is very selfish. He works full time but often stays later when he doesnt have to and races PRO cyclocross, road and DH bikes. So basically he works, trains, and races both days on the weekend. I literally NEVER see him. When he is home he is always tinkering and working on his bikes. I knew thats what I signed up for but I know myself all too well and if it continues when baby comes Im going to be extremely resentful! As it stands I only see DH after his training rides at 8pm or so till about 10:30 when we go to sleep and for a few hours on the weekends. I throw many fits but he can be very selfish! I keep telling him racing will always be there but we are only having one chiild together and you are missing everything! Hope its worth it.....

Cyclocross? Work all day and night? You sure our husbands aren't related or something?

Although, my hubby has been slacking on his training lately so I tease him about getting chubby. Even though its so easy for him to point out MY preggo chubbiness in return, he is smart enough not to comment. Bless him...

 

[bellablue]

I have to say my husband has been great he is coming home with baby stuff all the time bassinets,strollers,diapers,diaper bag even my breast pump lol!

I'm sure your hubby will come around men can't feel the baby so can't relate to women, And with all are hormones we get more sensitive

 

[DazedConfused]

Am I the only woman in the world who doesn't become a mum at conception!
Seriously OH is a way better mum than me