To Announce at 12 Weeks or Not

[Beth04]

I am currently 9 weeks 4 days along and I am really hoping to announce my pregnancy at 12 weeks. However, I just went to my dr. and won't be seeing him again until I am 14 1/2 weeks along. I have had an ultrasound done (at 6 weeks) where a heartbeat was seen. OH is pushing for a 12 week announcement as well. I am just worried that if something is wrong, I won't find out until my appt. at 14 1/2 weeks. I guess I am just looking for experiences from those who chose to announce at 12 weeks... did you do so purely from hitting that milestone, or did you have a scan/appt. to confirm everything was okay right beforehand? Any advice is appreciated!

 

[Amygdala]

Personally, I'd err on the side of caution and wait until after the scan. That's because I've had a previous mmc though, which wasn't discovered until my scan. So last pregnancy we waited for the "12 week" scan to make it public (a few friends and family aside) and this time we are as well. I think it all boils down to who you'd be comfortable with knowing, if something was to go wrong. NOT saying it will of course, chances are you'll be totally fine.

 

[motherofboys]

I think most people have a 12 week scan and then announce after that. I've always announced way before 12 weeks but am trying to hold off this time.

 

[george83]

I had my 'twelve' week scan at thirteen and a half weeks and we waited until after then, sorry probably not what you wanted to hear!

 

[iiTTCii]

My scan won't be till about 13/14 weeks so going to wait till then, but that's just because I had a mc last year and a bit worried. I had a scan at 9w1d and everything was fine but still want to wait till this next one as the risk of mc will have dramatically reduced by then.

 

[Leylalou]

I'm very early on and for some reason I feel it's taking so long to get to the twelve week milestone. The question is, would most of your closest people be told anyway, even if and God forbid, something was wrong? Or would you keep it completely secret?
It's a tough call and I think it's hard to keep it quiet for this long let alone another two weeks but then on the other hand, what's another fortnight? I will personally be telling people on my twelfth week but completely see where the more cautious reasoning comes in.

 

[Beth04]

Thanks for all of the advice! If it was purely me making this decision, I would definitely wait until my appt., but my OH is really anxious to tell (I have let him tell a few people already and he thinks I am worrying needlessly... they don't always understand).
Leyla- I agree that is feels like it is taking forever! Thanks for making that point about whether or not I would tell people anyways... because to be honest the people I would probably be telling are ones that I would eventually tell anyways if something bad did happen.
I really wish that I was having a 12 week scan but unfortunately I will not be getting one until I am 19 1/2 weeks along. Such a long wait!

 

[HappyBump25]

I'll be telling close friends and family after either after our scan (at about 10 weeks) or right at 12. I don't want to tell other family until after the next appointment (which I'm guessing will be right about 14 weeks, knowing my doctor). And then there's FB, which I will not announce until well into second trimester (same as with last baby). We also won't tell DD (whose almost 7) until after 20 weeks which is what we did for last baby as well. I told my DH that I couldn't bear to try to explain anything to her if something went wrong.

I know that's erring WAY on the side of caution, but I'm a bit of a realist.

 

[xdxxtx]

I agree that I'd wait until after you saw the doctor at 14 1/2 weeks. Besides, once you tell people, things slow waaaay down. With my first, I told at 6 1/2 weeks with my first ultrasound, and I regretted it the whole time. With this one, I told at 12 1/2 weeks due to someone leaking the info, and I had wanted to wait until 14 weeks and do a cute Christmas-theme (since I turned 14 weeks on Christmas Eve, if I'm remembering correctly). It was a lot less stress waiting until after my "12 week scan" to tell, even though I was still terrified until 14 weeks came and went.

 

[kc1980]

I waited till my NT scan before telling anyone, and I plan to do the same for this one, although it may be impossible to hide. Someone at work already asked if I am preggers, I guess because my tummy is getting BIIIIGG!

 

[laila 44]

I agree with Waiting to announce after a scan. Most people announce at 12 weeks after their screening scan. That is what id like to do if all is well at the scan. I too had a Mmc and am cautious. No fun explaining to a heap of people should things go wrong. Been there...

 

[Kiss08]

I had an early scan at 6+5 and all was good. My doctor said I won't get another scan until 20 weeks now. I have an appt next week at 10+5. My next appt after that won't be until 14+5. I am planning on announcing at 12 or 13 weeks if my 10+5 appt goes well. It's hard enough for me to wait this long I don't think I could add a couple more weeks! Plus, I'm not getting another ultrasound until 20 weeks anyways so I'm not getting any REAL confirmation otherwise.. I am borrowing my sister's doppler though and plan on confirming there's still a heartbeat before announcing.

Sidenote - this is my first pregnancy so I'm probably naive and therefore less cautious than women who have had mc/mmc.

 

[Sker]

Really close friends and family already know, but other than that I haven't wanted to jinx it in a sense. Personally, I'm waiting to find out how the bub's doing at my next scan before finally letting everyone know. If you aren't 100% comfortable announcing just yet, I'd suggest waiting a little bit longer till that next scan.

 

[bassdesire]

Told around 12 with my first 4 weeks with my second

 

[twinmummy06]

I waited until after the 12 week scan and will probably do the same this time.

 

[d_b]

With my first we waited until after the first scan to tell anyone, around 12 weeks. We've only told 2 people so far but will probably tell our families over the next week since they'll be here visiting. Then we'll tell other people and I'll tell my work after the 12 week ultrasound.

If I wasn't having an ultrasound I'd probably still tell people around the 3 month mark.. but since your scan isn't too far from 12 weeks I'd probably just wait til after the ultrasound... I know it will feel like forever tho!

 

[SMGP]

We announced at 11 weeks after we heard the heartbeat. I only get one scan at 20 weeks (we opted out of the downs testing). But a friend of mine is giving me a free one at her school next week. (Thank God!!). Hahahah.
Is your next appointment when you get your scan?

 

[J22]

I think it's down to how confortable you feel as to when to tell people. I waited until my 12 week scan (which was also my first scan) and we told our parents and brothers but I decided not to tell anyone else yet (no friends or other family members know)...I don't really know why, maybe I'm just scared still and want a couple more weeks before I tell the world....but that's just me! x