Itsychik
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Would love some advice in dealing with my 2 year old!
My DD can be stubborn and temperamental in general, but things like nap- and bedtimes have never been an issue in the past. She usually indicates fully on her own that she's ready to go to bed and comes and kisses us goodnight and takes the hand of whichever parent is bringing her to bed that night and leads us upstairs. Then it's bath time, PJ's/brushing teeth/bedtime story and in to bed...
Within the past 2 weeks bedtime has suddenly become a huge fight every night. She'll still go upstairs with no problem, and bath time and brushing teeth usually go pretty well. But then it's varying degrees of her absolutely FLIPPING OUT and screaming/kicking/crying for no apparent reason at all. For DH sometimes this starts when he's trying to get her PJ's on and continues until after he's gotten her in bed and then for another 15 - 30 minutes afterwards.
Tonight I brought her to bed and was absolutely determined to remain 100% calm and sweetly talk her through the whole routine to try and avoid a meltdown before it started...everything went perfectly fine until the moment I put her in bed and said goodnight. She started crying so I picked her up to cuddle her a bit. She said she wanted to get down so I put her on the ground and ask her what she wanted... she walked outside of her door and started giggling and running around. I explained that it was bedtime, picked her up and put her in bed. She lost it and was SCREAMING. I asked her if she wanted some water, or to have some music (from the baby monitor) turned on, and she was just incoherent and screaming/crying. But if she gets out of bed/her room then she stops almost immediately and giggles and runs away like it's a game. I put her in her bed and told her I was going to put the other two children in bed and then I would come back to her, but she screamed hysterically for the entire time...
DH has almost the same routine with her every night, where she's having a tantrum for no apparent reason and nothing seems to calm her at all. This is very unusual for her. Nothing has changed in her room or in her daily habits (she's not napping as much as she used to, but we haven't seen a difference in behaviour on days she does or does not nap) and she's fine up to a certain point every night. We're not sure what's causing it and DH is having trouble staying patient every night when it seems like DD is having a fit for no reason...
Any similar experiences or suggestions how we could approach this?
My DD can be stubborn and temperamental in general, but things like nap- and bedtimes have never been an issue in the past. She usually indicates fully on her own that she's ready to go to bed and comes and kisses us goodnight and takes the hand of whichever parent is bringing her to bed that night and leads us upstairs. Then it's bath time, PJ's/brushing teeth/bedtime story and in to bed...
Within the past 2 weeks bedtime has suddenly become a huge fight every night. She'll still go upstairs with no problem, and bath time and brushing teeth usually go pretty well. But then it's varying degrees of her absolutely FLIPPING OUT and screaming/kicking/crying for no apparent reason at all. For DH sometimes this starts when he's trying to get her PJ's on and continues until after he's gotten her in bed and then for another 15 - 30 minutes afterwards.
Tonight I brought her to bed and was absolutely determined to remain 100% calm and sweetly talk her through the whole routine to try and avoid a meltdown before it started...everything went perfectly fine until the moment I put her in bed and said goodnight. She started crying so I picked her up to cuddle her a bit. She said she wanted to get down so I put her on the ground and ask her what she wanted... she walked outside of her door and started giggling and running around. I explained that it was bedtime, picked her up and put her in bed. She lost it and was SCREAMING. I asked her if she wanted some water, or to have some music (from the baby monitor) turned on, and she was just incoherent and screaming/crying. But if she gets out of bed/her room then she stops almost immediately and giggles and runs away like it's a game. I put her in her bed and told her I was going to put the other two children in bed and then I would come back to her, but she screamed hysterically for the entire time...
DH has almost the same routine with her every night, where she's having a tantrum for no apparent reason and nothing seems to calm her at all. This is very unusual for her. Nothing has changed in her room or in her daily habits (she's not napping as much as she used to, but we haven't seen a difference in behaviour on days she does or does not nap) and she's fine up to a certain point every night. We're not sure what's causing it and DH is having trouble staying patient every night when it seems like DD is having a fit for no reason...
Any similar experiences or suggestions how we could approach this?