Toddlers on reigns...

[firerabbit666]

When I take my 17 month old out on the reigns he doesn't ever go where we go, he wants to do his own thing.

For example when we are in town he will try and go into a shop and if I say "come on, we aren't going in there we are going this way" and try and grab his hand to lead him the way we want to go he will tug it away and have a tantrum, which usually involves him flinging himself on his back and screaming.
It can be quite embarrassing, especially as people stare.

He just never seems to want to follow or do anything or ever hold my hand. He's really independent. Maybe I shouldn't let him get his own way so much..

What are your LO's like when out and about walking?

 

[HGLyman]

my 18th month old USED to do that, and i agree it is quite embarrassing but really, who cares?! you have to teach them at some point. I let my LO walk around, and tell her to follow, and once she doesnt listen to me, i just pick her up and carry her for a bit. Once she began realize that if she didnt listen to us -then she couldnt walk. the tantrums began to stop and she just follows us now.

 

[Blah11]

Amelie sometimes does this but just be persistant and dont let them push their luck!

 

[HannahsMummy]

Hannah has suddenly really improved.

At 17 - 18 months she was a nightmare and would just run off all the time, She refused to hold my hand and would throw herself on the floor if I tried to grab hold of her.

I used to have to take her out on the reigns, but the other week she refused to put them on so I thought 'ok, we'll see how you get on without them'. She was a little angel, she followed me without me having to hold her hand and she came running to me everytime I called her.

Its just a phase they go through of being independant and thinking that they don't need Mummy. Hannah has just grown out of that and is now happier to walk along with me and chat to me.

 

[Racheldigger]

At the moment Rowan's really good on her reins, but they're still a novelty to her as we've only been using them for a couple of weeks (she was a very late walker). We've only had one tiff so far, when I meant to go to the shop and she wanted to go to the playground, whereupon she staged a sit-down strike on the pavement!

 

[Arcanegirl]

Alex does this at 17 months aswell but hes getting better! I jsut figured its a new learning experience!

 

[lynnikins]

nate was a late walker and we used the reins yesterday and on the whole he did pretty well on the way through the park he was occupied by holding the buggies mainly so the reins werent really nessacary except when we got to the roads. on the way back he was in a grump so went in the buggy lol he is normally pretty good but i prefer to use them as we live on a small high street and our door opens right onto the sidewalk right at a busy part of the road and if he runs off then ive got EJ in my arms trying to catch up with him

 

[PeanutBean]

We have reins but don't often use them. We don't take Byron shopping often but I'd we do he's usually in the pram as it's always a flying visit. We go on lots of day trips and to the park and things are usually let him walk free unless there is an danger, cars or whatever, then we hold his hand. We often have fights about this and the final word will be him going in his pram, most times he will let us hold his hand in the end though. I've used reins on odd occasions, he gets cross because he feels free but can't get where he wants to. He usually ends up hanging from then after trying to throw himself about!

 

[winegums]

my son is 17 months and does this.. he will NOT use reigns he sits on the floor crying so i try to hold his hand and walk and he sits on the floor and cries so i let him loose to see what happens and he looks at me cheekily and runs off full speed grrrrrrrrr

so for now we take the pushchair EVERYWHERE and just give him short times walking alone otherwise it ends up such a hassle

when he was about 14 months he used to follow us around the shops etc never a problem didnt even need reigns but i guess hes just too independant now lol

 

[Sophie1205]

Leo does this on the reigns too which is why I dont take him out with his reigns very often because it is embarressing. We stick with the pushchair most of the time x

 

[dannyboygirl]

still in the process of breaking her of that.80% percent of the way through..My trick is taking her for daily walks holding hands in the neighborhood and when she tugs I say we are going to go home..When she does it a 2nd time we go home..Then we try again in the evening.At 1st in was 2 min walks.Now we are at 30mins..I guess it helps her to act better in public when we walk..

 

[firerabbit666]

Thanks everyone! I don't really know anyone with children my sons age, only the ones we see in town and at the park, and they all seemed to be well behaved. X

 

[dreams]

Ffion's 15 months and she's terrible on the reigns. She refuses to hold my hand and runs away at every opportunity. She doesn't like her pram since she's been able to walk either so its pretty hard taking her to town if i want to look at something but thankfully she loves going in the trolley, hope that doesn't change!

I take her for daily walks to get used to being on the reigns but she still screams and sits on the floor or just keeps pulling the other way.

I put it all down to Ffion being an early walker, i see other children her age still wobbly on their feet and their parents can catch them easily lol.

I don't have any advice i'm just hoping that she'll get better with age! Just wanted to say that i can relate.

 

[mamalove]

I always think everyone elses children are better behaved then mine my two are like wild animals when they're not in their pushchair! I bought them little ldybird rucksacks/reigns and they do their own thing,go their own way and then the reigns muddle up and they fall on the ground laughing and i want to cry lol
I think they're still too young,especially as there is two of them and for me it's easier to keep them in their buggy BUT with their sister starting nursery it will only be the three of us going to town and park now,so i might take it more seriously from now on and let them have their independence but with ME being in control.