Too much sex bad when trying to conceive???

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  1. jessica2509

    jessica2509 Well-Known Member

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    Was just wondering.

    I've read so many different answers on the internet and i'm now very confused!

    I'm coming up to ovulation at the end of the week. How many times a week should i be having sex to optimise my chances of getting pregnant? Some say once every other day as the sperm count goes down and others say that yes the sperm count does go down, but not any amount that would harm chances of getting pregnant.

    Would really appreciate any answers.

    Thanks.

    x
     
  2. Annaspanna

    Annaspanna Mummy2Lyla x

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    Well, I go by what i read in my fertility book and it suggests you do it as much as possible in the 3-5 days running up to ovulation day, so every day and once after ov, and no it doesn't effect the sperm count (apparently). I heard Zita West (fertility specialist) on TV saying exactly that the other day aswell. Hope that helps xx
     
  3. DaisyDuke

    DaisyDuke Matilda Tasya's mum :)

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    This is so difficult we have tried all options. The FS told us every other day is best, i think it's just luck. XXX
     
  4. susan_1981

    susan_1981 Mummy to 2 boys :)

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    I read on one website that if you have sex everyday then you are twice as likely to get pregnant than if you do it every other day. I'm not convinced though as they healthy sperm can live for up to 5 days so surely eveyday isn't necessary? And I notice that if me and DH do BD every day, then he releases less :spermy: than if we do every other day. We BD'd every day over my fertile period this month and every other day before that. This is my second proper month of trying and I didn't record anything last month so I can't remember what we did then but it didn't work that month anyway.
     
  5. scrubgrub

    scrubgrub Guest

    DH says it takes 24 hours for sperm to repopulate, so daily can't hurt.
    He loves this, and wouldn't have it any other way. If you're stressing to do it tho, I think that makes it less effective. BD should be an enjoyable experience, and if EoD is better for your expeience, than I think that's the best. Everyone is different.
     
  6. princessttc

    princessttc Well-Known Member

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    We had sex every day during the fertile window sometimes twice a day and conceived on cycle 2! But I have heard of people having sex every second day and still conceiving really fast. I just couldnt do it every second day just in case today was the day lol :happydance: Lots of baby dust for u!
     
  7. krazykat

    krazykat Well-Known Member

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    As long as his sperm is healthy and he doesn't have a problem with having a low count, it should be ok to BD daily. However, we do it every other day.
     
  8. Nicci

    Nicci Active Member

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    i was same read so many things, but my doc told me that they use to say every other day but now they say as much as poss, we do it every day through my cycle, that way i feel i cant miss my fertile time lol hasnt worked up to yet though!
     
  9. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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    well i know when i did get pg (sadley mc in mar08) the mth we conceived(dec) i know we wud of only had sex twice that mth!! maybe even once!! so who knows,now we try n do it on my fertilte days but with O later sometimes,its confusing,however im gettin use to it and good at timing bd :) (fertilitymonitor has helped a lot tho!)
     
  10. Tracy B

    Tracy B Well-Known Member

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    When I concieved my second child I :sex: once that months on cd10
    But practicing is fun isnt it xxx
    :hug::hug:
     
  11. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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    wow tracey b !! when did u O that mth dyknow !?!?
     
  12. Tracy B

    Tracy B Well-Known Member

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    Well we were not using any tools, and I didnt even know about ewcm at that point we just said that if it happened it was meant to be.
    I always remember it was the 17th of April 2004 , but I had made a mental note of what cycle day I was on and new it was cd10.

    Maybe they were just hanging round inside for a bit until my little egg showed her face, OH reckons its his super sperm, like men do!!!
     
  13. TerriLou

    TerriLou Well-Known Member

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    I'm sure as often as possible is the best, but how come people who don't want to get pregnant are the ones that get caught??

    I've been very active around my fertile times in January and February, but haven't been lucky yet. Its fun trying though!!

    TerriLou
    xx
     
  14. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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    wow this is an old post :haha: ive now had morgan and ttc again , sex 2-1 and day of O i try to go for x
     
  15. LaRockera

    LaRockera Well-Known Member

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    Honestly, just do whatever works for you and your partner. Don't turn you lovemaking into babymaking, because it will have an impact on both the actual act and your emotions. Sperm can survive for up to five days inside you. The every other day option is recommended for the couples where the make partner has low sperm count, but I've read it doesn't make too much of a difference for men with normal counts.

    For an SA, the man should abstain for at least two days, but not more than seven, for optimum results.
     
  16. Jellyx

    Jellyx Well-Known Member

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    I got pregnant on my 2nd cycle having sex once everyday after my period ended..
    I didnt want to miss a day !
     
  17. When we ttc our dd we dtd every other day from the day my af finished. We conceived first cycle but that could simply be down to luck. The main reason for us choosing to try that way was mainly as I really didn't want all the stress and hassle of temping, charting and checking cm etc.
    I've also heard contradicting advice, some say every other day is best as your oh's sperm get a chance to replenish, some say as much as possible.
    We'll shortly be ttc again (once af has finished) and we'll be going with every other day again.

    X
     
  18. Camlet

    Camlet Mummy of 3 :)

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    We have always dtd every 2-3 days as aparently the sperm amount & quality goes down if you dtd everyday not 100% sure if this is true I'm just going from what I've read & seen on shows about ttc apparently that gives you a realy good chance of catching ovulation as sperm can live for up to I think it was 2 days inside if it's to early as I said I have no idea if this is true or not I guess we will just have to wait & see xx
     
  19. lotsakellz

    lotsakellz Mum to Sam + a bit preggo

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    As soon as AF has disappeared we're going to dtd every day. Dh can't wait!!! Not going to risk missing a day. When we conceived ds we werent actively trying but only did the dance a few days before and after my possible ov date. I was temping in preparation for beginning to try. Evidently I was rubbish at using temps to avoid pregnancy so let's hope I'm good at using then for actually intentionally getting pregnant this time!!
     
  20. MoonMelody

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    Once or twice a day worked for us!
     

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