"too posh to push"

[missriddler]

was talking to my mum about pre-planned/booked cesarian sections...Im not sure if anyones heard the phrase "too posh to push" but Ive heard it a few times, should people be allowed to book these just so it "fits in" with their life/ plans without medical reasons?

 

[Rcx]

At the end of the day it's a personal choice. People have the right to choose if they want. I don't know why someone would choose to have major surgery, but it is a choice that people should be able to make without being judged.

 

[missriddler]

I suppose if you can afford it and want to - my mum had all of us by emergency c-section and hates how she never experienced childbirth, its something I dont understand so im sort of hoping to get opinions from those on the other side x

 

[mara16jade]

Doesn't bother me either way. So long as they're not asking to have a c-section before the baby is full term.

 

[eris]

I think that because it's something that so many women do nowadays that some people tend to forget it's major surgery. I would personally not choose to have an unmedically necessary c-section. Especially as I have already had an emergency c-section and then a Vbac. BUT, like Rcx said, it's a personal choice.

 

[LilFooshFoosh]

I'm probably having a scheduled c-section. I had an emergency section with my first as I wasn't progressing; after 16 hours of labour I was only 4 cms dilated and baby's heart rate was dropping from the stress of still trying to squeeze through.

This time, my doctor wanted to book me in a week in advance of my due date, but that is my son's birthday so I said no. Then he wanted to do it the week before that, but I felt that will be too early... so I say "probably" having a scheduled section because right now it is booked for the day after my due date. If I go into labour on my own and my body decides to do it properly then I will try for a v-bac. But I really don't want to go through an emergency section again.

My recovery from my first was awesome. I didn't have any problems, I was walking around that night (I had the op at 1:30 in the afternoon), was released after 2 days and when we got home I insisted on going to the store as I had felt too cooped up. I know some women have a hard time with recovery, but I would definitely do it again. TBH I am more afraid of vaginal birth and tearing then another c-section.

 

[emicakess]

I guess I don't have an opinion on it except I don't see why someone would want to choose to have surgery.
All I know is my OB let me know he does not do on medical c sections,and that was the first time I've heard of that.

 

[EarthMama]

My friend did it because she said she didn't want to ruin her vagina. (her words)

I would never do it. Honestly my vagina bounced back just fine and my husband would agree.

 

[Angelbaby_01]

With my DD I had very harsh comments because we decided on having a c-section. Turns out it was needed because not only did labour start the night before my scheduled c-section, but baby was in stress and had a few problems at birth that resulted her staying in there for a month and she had an op at 2 weeks old. I would definetely say it's up to everyone's personal choice. My other friend also went with mother's intuition and turns out the baby had to be born at 36 weeks due to her having too high blood pressure and running risk of pre-eclampsia.

 

[lovelylaura]

Honestly i don't care. It's not for me but im a wimp and i just couldn't choose to have that kind of surgery. I've had 2 'normal' births and every thing was back to normal after 2 weeks so i'm not worried about anything being 'ruined'. If anything i would be more worried about having a scar there.

 

[Gizzyy]

I'm not that bothered I didn't even realise you could demand a c section I thought it was only if baby is in stress of you've had a previous one and didn't want a vbac. I'm going to try natural birth but obviously if I need a cesarean i will do it

 

[missriddler]

Its really good to hear from people that have done it! I personally would feel cheated if I had to have a cesarian, because Im going through pregnancy and want to experience giving birth if that makes any sense! I suppose its each to their own really buthearing from the other side gives perspective, still I want a natural birth x

 

[daydreamerx]

I think its really weird to opt for a c-section, baby will come when it's ready (unless for medical reasons)...

 

[sandilion]

My friend did it because she said she didn't want to ruin her vagina. (her words)

I would never do it. Honestly my vagina bounced back just fine and my husband would agree.

My vagina has bounced back better than it was before! I seem to have shrunk more on the inside since having DS! So that 'ruining my vagina' is utter crap.

 

[lm3898]

That phrase is utterly ridiculous lol. I think the origin of it was said by Victoria Beckham - she had to have a c-section and [I hope jokingly] said she was "Too Posh to Push" as she was "posh spice"...my doctor would never allow me to have an elective c section, nor would I want one - honestly a C is my LAST resort!

 

[MichelleW]

I don't care about other people's choices its their body, however in my first pregnancy I was so set against having a C-section, I had low lying placenta and was told I would have to have a C-section however at 37 weeks the said it had moved enough which I was so glad about, I ended up 2 weeks overdue, had a 4 day failed induction which was horrendous and an emergency C-section at the end of it, the recovery from the C-section was great had no issues at all, the only reason I am having number 2 is I know I can have an elective C-section now as I never want to go through what I did the first time again so if very much changed my opinion, even though I don't have medical reasons this time this is my choice xx

 

[addy1]

Its really good to hear from people that have done it! I personally would feel cheated if I had to have a cesarian, because Im going through pregnancy and want to experience giving birth if that makes any sense! I suppose its each to their own really buthearing from the other side gives perspective, still I want a natural birth x

I don't think the term "cheated" is a great way to phrase it. A lot of us did not have a choice in the matter.

 

[Tigerlilyb]

My friend did it because she said she didn't want to ruin her vagina. (her words)

I would never do it. Honestly my vagina bounced back just fine and my husband would agree.

Makes me shake my head every time. Same as not wanting to breastfeed for fear of saggy boobs. It's pregnancy that makes your boobs sag ladies, not feeding.

I completely understand ladies who want a section because of previous traumatic births or various conditions but it's the people who say "I can't be bothered" who make me sigh. I understand a right to choose but sections can be so, so much more risky for an otherwise healthy woman.

 

[missriddler]

[/QUOTE]

I don't think the term "cheated" is a great way to phrase it. A lot of us did not have a choice in the matter.[/QUOTE]
No no i didnt mean id feel like I cheated! Sorry that it came across that way x
I meant i would feel like circumstances cheated me out of having that experience x

 

[amy_lou]

I personally would not elect to have a c-section unless it is medically necessary (which it may be for me- my last ultrasound showed I have placenta previa. I go in Wednesday to see if the placenta has moved out of the way and I'm hoping it has.) I don't really care what people choose to do, but I would not choose to go through a riskier procedure with a recovery that is typically more difficult.