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Hi all, am after some advice pls ...
DH and I suffered a MMC at 8 weeks (baby stopped growing somewhere between 5 and 6 wks) and had an ERPC on 8 Feb.
Sadly the procedure wasn't a success, and I ended up being admitted to A&E with endometreitis. At this time they identified that there was some tissue left behind. The specialist couldn't decide whether this was a polyp or retained tissue from the pregnancy, but it was clear that it was one specific 'clump' of tissue attached to my womb and being fed with live blood. They decided to book me in for a hysteroscopy and to do a polypectomy/repeat D&C at the same time, depending on what the hysterscopy revealed. That op was booked in for last Thursday (18 March).
In between the 1st ERPC and the repeat procedure I had my 1st AF (started Friday 12th March).
The 2nd op went fine with much less post-op bleeding than the 1st time. I didn't see the surgeon after the op, but he spoke to DH and said that he believed it was retained tissue, not a polyp, but he had removed this during the 2nd procedure.
The nurses told me not to use tampons or have sex until the post-op bleeding had stopped. I'm now 4 days post-op and have just about stopped bleeding. They didn't offer any suggestions about waiting to ttc again, although the nurses after the 1st ERPC suggested I wait until after 1st AF for dating etc.
The conundrum I have is that I am now ovulating. On one hand I have waited for my 1st AF after the 1st ERPC so am keen to crack on with ttc. On the other hand I had another operation - likely a D&C - 5 days ago, so suspect the lining of my womb is probably very thin.
DH is easy either way, but takes the view that if the lining is too thin we simply won't conceive, so there's little harm in trying. I am inclined to agree, but just don't think I could cope with a 2nd MC.
Do you guys think it's too soon and that I should wait for another cycle??
The REALLY crazy thing is that, if I'm honest, part of the reason I'm desperate to ttc so quickly is that I'm conscious that this is the last chance for us to have a baby this year. Stupid huh? I know I shouldn't care about waiting another 4 weeks before trying, but it's a psychological milestone that carries such a lot of weight for reasons I don't even understand.
I'm not even 31 yet, so there's no need for the panic I am feeling. I wish I could be patient and take 2 or 3 months to recover, but am overwhelmed with this sense of urgency, panic and desperation to have a successful pregnancy.
Thanks in advance ...
xx
 
Wow, you have had it ROUGH... Well, if you feel like giving it a go, go for it is what I say! Thing is that life is too short to sit around waiting. There are countless women out there that have gone on to get pg shortly after D&C, ERCP, whatever, and had healthy pg! That said, most docs say to wait for first AF after EACH surgical procedure, mainly for dating purposes. My doc said to wait, dating purposes and emotional ones, but he said if we ended up pg anyway, not to worry, as my chances would be no higher to m/c again. So really in the end the decision to try or not is up to you and how you feel. I know how you feel, I had my last crack at it Mar 17th before saying goodbye to my hubby for at least the next year, due to deployment. So if we did not concieve, I am out for another year at least. Good luck to you for whatever you decide to do, and so sorry for your loss...
 

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