Torn as to what is best

[xteepeex]

My daughter has got herself into a nap routine over the past week.(at 4 months!) She wakes around 8am, then has naps at 13:00, 15:30 and 18:00. I have tried getting her to take a 10ish nap but she will sleep for 2-5mins only. I don't know how she's going 5 hours without a proper nap, but as we all know, you can't force a baby to sleep if they don't think they need to!!

So my next step I think is to get bedtime sorted. But at what time? She only naps 20mins @ 6pm and she tends to fall asleep around 8.30 after a feed. So should I aim for 8.30?

I'm torn because she currently stays with us until our bedtime at 9.30 & by not forcing her into any routine she seems to be settling into her own routine. I'm wondering if I should just leave it as it is....but then I would love to have the odd Dh cuddle of an evening

 

[PoppyPainting]

I can't help you myself, but I'd love to see some ideas around bedtimes. How on earth do you get a baby to accept a bedtime without going for pickup putdown or cio??? Currently lo goes to bed when she falls asleep, which can be as late as 10.30...

 

[Beccaboop]

Id say leave it at 8.30 or maybe try for 8pm as thats 12 hours after she gets up. Sounds like a good sleep routine if shes happy and not grumpy then i wouldnt worry that she stays awake for 5 hours in the morning!
My lo cant manage to be awake more than 3 hours without becoming very grumpy and has to nap an 1.5 hours after getting up which just happens to be after his bottle so it works out well! Then i try to get him to nap at about 1 and then at 4/4.30 then he goes to bed at 7.30.

 

[Lissidoll123]

Id leave lo if she seems happy enough playing, just my lo gets really grumpy without her sleep lol!

My LO at 4 months routine was and still is:
7am- wake up
8.30am-nap (one hour)
12pm- nap (40mins- one hour)
3pm- nap(one to two hours)
7pm- bedtime

at around 4 months my LO started rubbing her eyes when she was tired so I knew she was ready for a nap, I'd either put her in her cot if at home or if out and about put her hood on her pram up and a blanket over it so it was dark for her. She seems to know now that this is nap time and drops off quite easily x