Tough Spot.

[Srrme]

I have not told my family yet, and there's honestly no way they can find out on their own since they live over 3000 miles away, and they don't visit.

I'm not sure whether or not I should tell them.

OH does not like my parents at all (and vice versa), and I don't think they're really going to care anyway. We all had a huge blowout before they moved, and they're still doing things that continue to hurt our relationship with them.

Is it wrong of me to keep it from them this long? Should I just go ahead and tell them already, even if it's not going to affect them in anyway? OH would rather I not tell them at all (I know that's impossible), but I'd kind of like my sisters and brothers to know, and if I don't tell my parents, I can't tell them. I don't like having to keep my baby a secret to be honest.

 

[sar35]

tricky one, my mother doesnt know im pregnant and thats the way i want it to stay, i wasnt gonna tell my nan either as she would of told my mum, im not bothered as i dont see them at all

 

[Srrme]

Gah. I'm so torn. OH doesn't want them apart of our baby's life, but telling them isn't going to technically make them "apart" of his life, will it?

 

[sar35]

you got to do what feels right lovvie, even if it gets thrown back in your face, at least you tried

 

[SIEGAL]

I don't know what happened in your situation but my mother really disliked my father's mother, she just wasnt very nice, both my father and mother would start shaking when they had to visit. One day when my mom was 7 months pregnant, my grandmother's husband came over and said "she wants to be friends, she wants to be a grandmother, and she is turning over a new leaf." And she meant it, to this day I have a wonderful grandma and my mother loves her like her own mother.
You never know, perhaps knowing they have a grandchild coming will soften them up!!! Keep an open mind and an open heart

 

[mummybear2011]

i agree, youve gotta do what u feel is right... only you know the reasons why you no longer speak with your parents and are you going to punish your siblings for what has happened? would you want to know if you were about to become an auntie from your brother/sister?
it sounds like a difficult situation youre in, but only you can make the decision as to whether you tell them or not.
xx