Trying to conceive! Month 18!

Hey goonergirl, I'm going to the docs this coming Thursday to find out what's going on. This ttc buisness has been going on long enough now and I'm getting concerned that either me or oh have a problem. Plus I'm 32 now so if there are problems that take ages to sort out then I'll be older than I'd like to be having my first child. I'm really nervous about going but hopefully the doc will be sympathetic! How about you, have you been to the doc or had any tests done?:flower:
 
Hi jurney, how's you?:hugs:

Hey

I am losing hope slowly, my AF is due today but hasn't shown up yet. Pretty sure she's coming though as I've woken up with a headache and have cramps which is what usually happens right before she comes.
On a positive note I went to a gyno yesterday for something else and ended up talking about TTC. I told her all my details from when we started trying until now and all the tests we've done and she agreed that 14/15 months is a long time and it should have happened by now going by all that we've been doing. She has referred me to a specialist for another test which I hads still not done. They are going to see if there are any blockages in my fallopian tubes by inserting a dye. I felt like giving the doctor a big hug for telling me that over a year is too long as every other doctor kept telling me to wait at least until a year and a half before they start looking. Itr will probably be a few months before i get my appointment for that.

Wish you luck with your doctor's appointment tommorow! Don't take no for an answer, you have to insist as doctors are quick to say go away and try for a while longer. Let me know how you get on.
 
Hi jurney, that sounds promising. It was lucky you started talking to the doc about ttc. I've read online that docs don't really want to know until you've been trying for 2 years but I think that's wrong cos us ladies can find this all very stressful and should be offered tests much earlier than that. It's interesting that she thinks 14/15 months is a long time so hopefully I'll get somewhere with my doc tomorrow. I'm gutted that it hasn't just happened and I'm definately not looking forward to having tests done but needs must. I've put my oh on ginseng vits now cos I read that was beneficial to sperm and I've started taking agnus cactus tablets as that's supposed to be good for lp. The docs can't say we aren't trying! Oh is working longer hours now and he's really tired but bless him he's still putting the work in :)sex:)! I hope you're still getting your few days away with oh cos it'll do you both good. I'll let you know how I get on at the docs.
Hopefully af won't rear her ugly head and you won't have to have those tests done after all. :hugs:
 
Hi jurney, that sounds promising. It was lucky you started talking to the doc about ttc. I've read online that docs don't really want to know until you've been trying for 2 years but I think that's wrong cos us ladies can find this all very stressful and should be offered tests much earlier than that. It's interesting that she thinks 14/15 months is a long time so hopefully I'll get somewhere with my doc tomorrow. I'm gutted that it hasn't just happened and I'm definately not looking forward to having tests done but needs must. I've put my oh on ginseng vits now cos I read that was beneficial to sperm and I've started taking agnus cactus tablets as that's supposed to be good for lp. The docs can't say we aren't trying! Oh is working longer hours now and he's really tired but bless him he's still putting the work in :)sex:)! I hope you're still getting your few days away with oh cos it'll do you both good. I'll let you know how I get on at the docs.
Hopefully af won't rear her ugly head and you won't have to have those tests done after all. :hugs:

AF has not arrived yet, I am a bit puzzled at the moment I really want to hang onto that little but of hope that she may not come at all but I think its best for me to thing negatively just in case she does show up later or tommorow. I am leaving for my break with my OH tommorow morning and will be back on Monday so I'll log on then to see what the doc tells you and to let you know if AF arrived.
 
:grr::witch::grr: let's hope she stays away! Do you think you'll test during your break away? It's strange that af hasn't turned up, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
I'll let you know how I get on. Hope you have a lovely time. :hugs:
 
:grr::witch::grr: let's hope she stays away! Do you think you'll test during your break away? It's strange that af hasn't turned up, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
I'll let you know how I get on. Hope you have a lovely time. :hugs:

Thanks.
Sometimes AF takes a bit longer as in a day or a few hours. Usually get it in the morning when I get out of bed so might get it tommorow morning. I was going to take a test with me just in case but I think I probably won't be able to resist any longer and end up using it tommorow morning before I leave if AF has not arrived yet. At least it would put my mind at ease as I cannot stop wondering, hoping, then feeling negative and then all these all over again :wacko:
I just feel that if AF is coming it shpuld come already so I can just get on with it, it feels like she's teasing me :growlmad:
 
Hey jurney, did you have a nice break? Where did you go? I hope the weather was kind to you. Did af turn up or are you going to give me some exciting news?!
I went to the docs and she was really nice. Said that oh and I are doing all the right things. She reckons that it's best to :sex: every other day or every 2-3 days cos then it gives the :spermy: a chance to replenish. I was pleased to hear that as we've been trying the every other day method but I always worry it's not enough! She decided to refer me straight to the fertility doc at the hospital so I can get all the blood tests etc done there. I'm hoping that the waiting list isn't to long but at least it's got the ball rolling. Oh will have to come along to the appointment aswell to give a sample. :hugs:
 
Hey jurney, did you have a nice break? Where did you go? I hope the weather was kind to you. Did af turn up or are you going to give me some exciting news?!
I went to the docs and she was really nice. Said that oh and I are doing all the right things. She reckons that it's best to :sex: every other day or every 2-3 days cos then it gives the :spermy: a chance to replenish. I was pleased to hear that as we've been trying the every other day method but I always worry it's not enough! She decided to refer me straight to the fertility doc at the hospital so I can get all the blood tests etc done there. I'm hoping that the waiting list isn't to long but at least it's got the ball rolling. Oh will have to come along to the appointment aswell to give a sample. :hugs:

Yes we had a lovely break thanks, we went away to a cottage in the countryside to get away from everything and everyone! Sad to say AF arrived on the 7th Oct : ( really bad timing as I had it all the time we were away but well at least I managed to switch off the subject of TTC for a few days. PMA is on the floor right now.

I've also heard that it is best to :sex: every 2 to 3 days rather than every other day. Its great news that u are being referred to the fertility doctor like you said you can get the ball rolling now.
 
Oh jurney I'm sorry to hear that af arrived, what crappy timing that was! I bet it was lovely to just get away from it all. It's nice to have you back!:friends:
Are you going to be trying hard again this cycle to see if you can get the :bfp:
Do you use opt, temp or anything?
 
Oh jurney I'm sorry to hear that af arrived, what crappy timing that was! I bet it was lovely to just get away from it all. It's nice to have you back!:friends:
Are you going to be trying hard again this cycle to see if you can get the :bfp:
Do you use opt, temp or anything?

Don't know whether to just go with the flow for the nest 3 cycles until I go back to see my doctor because to be honest at the moment I am quite fed up of it all. I always say the same thing when AF arrives and for a few days later I start thinking of giving up but then when its time to start :sex: again I somehow get some strength from somewhere and do it all over again. I monitor CM & I use OPKs. I don't temp as I get too stressed about it and I am not a very good sleeper, I tend to get up loads during the night so the readings wouldn't be good.
 
That's the problem when you ttc for so long, you end up knowing roughly when you're ovulating etc, then of course if you don't :sex: at the right time it just feels like another wasted month. It's got me down loads in the past but I'm not sure I could ever switch off from it. I don't temp either, I found it a bit of a nightmare! Don't know if I've already said but I've recently got oh to start taking ginseng cos I read it's good for :spermy: how's your oh about taking vits and things to help?
 
That's the problem when you ttc for so long, you end up knowing roughly when you're ovulating etc, then of course if you don't :sex: at the right time it just feels like another wasted month. It's got me down loads in the past but I'm not sure I could ever switch off from it. I don't temp either, I found it a bit of a nightmare! Don't know if I've already said but I've recently got oh to start taking ginseng cos I read it's good for :spermy: how's your oh about taking vits and things to help?

He had a test done a few months back. Count came back average and motility slightly below average and doc said those results were fine so he is not taking anything as doc said there is nothing he can take to improve his stats. Doc also said that my womb and ovaries looked fine so that we should carry on trying for 6 more months (basically untill we've been TTC'ing for 18 months) and then to go back for more tests and possibly Artificial Insemmination or IVF if its needed.
 
It might be worth him trying the ginseng. It supposedly helps motility and sperm health. I know some people don't really believe in alternative remedies but it might be worth a try as it wont do any harm. I've also read that zinc is good for male fertility. In the daily mail today there was a story about a woman who ttc for 3 years and was about to embark on ivf. A friend suggested she try acupuncture, she did and after 3 half hour treatments she conceived! It's supposed to improve blood flow to the uterus and ovaries. Don't give up hope yet cos there's other things to try. :hugs:
 
It might be worth him trying the ginseng. It supposedly helps motility and sperm health. I know some people don't really believe in alternative remedies but it might be worth a try as it wont do any harm. I've also read that zinc is good for male fertility. In the daily mail today there was a story about a woman who ttc for 3 years and was about to embark on ivf. A friend suggested she try acupuncture, she did and after 3 half hour treatments she conceived! It's supposed to improve blood flow to the uterus and ovaries. Don't give up hope yet cos there's other things to try. :hugs:

Thanks!
I'll try to get him to take some ginseng then. He already takes zinc. He is a bit reluctant to take stuff as he is in the mindset that he is fine as the doctor said his results were fine so its an ongoing debate with us as I tell him to try stuff and he says the doctor said that nothing will help. Its a bit of a sensitive area at the moment. Will buy it though and try to ask him nicely and see what he says.
 

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