Im glad I came across this forum because it has helped. Unlike some of you, I am a dad who is trying to cope with losing my little angel at 12 weeks. My wife is also devasted of course. It's tough sometimes because I want to comfort her but I feel very hurt and upset as well. I'm 29 and have only previously cried a couple of times in my life. Since the loss, I've cried hundreds of times and it usually comes when I'm least expecting it. We already have one healthy little boy for which I am so grateful and I'm surprised to think that I love my second lost child who I never got to meet just as much. I never thought I would be this sad about it. When my wife went in for her d&c, she told me she had a dream that the baby (a boy in her dream) said "mommy I just can't stay here". For whatever reason I completely believe my baby said this to us. It brings me to tears every time I think of that. Anyways I know this is all random thoughts but it helps to get it out, thank you for reading.