TTC #1 for many months but it seems impossible

[GreenOrchid]

DH and I have been actively TTC #1 for three months (using OPK and charting temps) and were NTNP for a year before that. I am 33 years old, and unfortunately we only have 3 more months to try before we will have to wait a year due to his work situation. If we don't get pregnant in the next 3 months, I will be just short of 35 when we can start trying again.

I've always had a feeling that it be difficult for me to get pregnant - not sure why, since I seem to have textbook 28-29 day cycles.

Getting pregnant seems like such a miraculous and magical thing to me. Even though I know it happens everyday to millions of women, it still seems impossible that it could happen to me.

Does anyone else have similar thoughts? Do you think having such thoughts prevents my body from getting pregnant? I try to keep a PMA but it's hard.

 

[scarter1025]

I'm sorry to hear you're having problems TTC. I know how frustrating and upsetting it can be to see that time and time again. Have you and your DH gone to the doc to be tested to be sure you're fertile and his sperm count is okay? Maybe you should be on clomid to help you ovulate. Good luck and

 

[Nat0619]

GreenOrchid

I'm completely with you. We've been ttc for 8 months now 'actively', but like you had about a year of NTNP before that. I'm 36 and right from the start I just knew this wouldn't be easy, probably because of thinking of my age more than anything. Like you, I just can't imagine any month being any different to the others now and worry this is never going to happen

I have put off visiting docs so far because I am so scared of what any results may be I'm terrified something is very wrong with either me or OH and either we'll be told we'll never be able to have a child or will have to go through some horrid invasive procedure like IVF or something. But OH and I have agreed to visit docs in new year (I don't want to before christmas now as this is my favourite time of year and I don't want to know anything bad until after it now) x

 

[GreenOrchid]

I'm sorry to hear you're having problems TTC. I know how frustrating and upsetting it can be to see that time and time again. Have you and your DH gone to the doc to be tested to be sure you're fertile and his sperm count is okay? Maybe you should be on clomid to help you ovulate. Good luck and

Thanks for the good luck My hormone levels are all normal, and according to my the post-ov temp jump on my bbt chart I am definitely ovulating. We haven't had sperm count done yet but that will be the next step I'm not preggo within the next 3 months so we're all ready to go the following year.

Good luck and to you too!

 

[GreenOrchid]

GreenOrchid

I'm completely with you. We've been ttc for 8 months now 'actively', but like you had about a year of NTNP before that. I'm 36 and right from the start I just knew this wouldn't be easy, probably because of thinking of my age more than anything. Like you, I just can't imagine any month being any different to the others now and worry this is never going to happen

I have put off visiting docs so far because I am so scared of what any results may be I'm terrified something is very wrong with either me or OH and either we'll be told we'll never be able to have a child or will have to go through some horrid invasive procedure like IVF or something. But OH and I have agreed to visit docs in new year (I don't want to before christmas now as this is my favourite time of year and I don't want to know anything bad until after it now) x

Nat, I think it's a good plan to wait after christmas to visit the doctors. The holidays are busy and stressful enough and you should enjoy it. We also agreed not to go to the doctor until after three more months of trying. I hope you and I both get before then.

I also dread the expense, stress, and invasiveness of fertility procedures, but I know that if DH and I have to go through them, it will all be worth it to hold our baby (or babies!) in our arms.

There's a great thread in the TTC over 35 section with many women sharing their success stories and it really picked up my spirits.

Even though it seems like it will never happen, it has to one of these months. I remember before I met my DH a bunch of my friends got engaged at the same time and I thought I would never meet "the one", and then one day he came into my life. I guess getting pregnant will be the same way. Even though sometimes it seems impossible, on day we will get our

 

[Caroline:-)]

Hi hun,
I'm 31 and on my 4th month properly TTC (also 1 month ntnp)... I know exactly how you feel... I've said on here before that I really can't believe that somehting that amazing could ever happen to me... (even though as you say it happens to millions of peopel all the time!!!!) Yet I just couldn't bare it if it didn't happen!!!! I have such a fear that it might not...
GL to all xxx

 

[GreenOrchid]

Hi hun,
I'm 31 and on my 4th month properly TTC (also 1 month ntnp)... I know exactly how you feel... I've said on here before that I really can't believe that somehting that amazing could ever happen to me... (even though as you say it happens to millions of peopel all the time!!!!) Yet I just couldn't bare it if it didn't happen!!!! I have such a fear that it might not...
GL to all xxx

I keep telling myself that my day will come (hopefully sooner than later), and then I will wonder what I was so worried about.

and lots of

 

[slb80]

Hi, I am 30 and we are ttc our first, we have been ntnp for over a year and are now just entering my 6th cycle of actively ttc, I have always had it in my head it could take a while but I am now starting to think it will never happen for me and I will never see that bfp and get to enjoy all the ups, downs and magical moments of being a mummy and seeing my df be a fantasitc daddy. I have got a gp appointment next week over my bad periods and I am also going to discuss our ttc.

 

[Nat0619]

Good luck with your appointment SLB80 and wishing you lots of x