TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[mumoffive]

Hi, im 42 and ttc my 6th. I have 5 children..3 older sons and two toddlers and this will be my last. Sadly i managed to conceive and got my bfp a few wks ago only to miscarry. Some days im ok, other days i miss being pregnant and feel really sad about it. Please post if you are in your forties and ttc and tell us all a little bit about yourself. TTC at this age brings so many ups and downs and frustrations...and of course happy endings too!!!!! So looking forward to chatting to you all. xxxxx

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Mumoffive
Lyns
Mogsanddogs
Omi
glitterqueen
Nise
Tigerstoo
Minno
Bdwell1904
Justjack
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WannaB
Maggysy11
Sparky67
Articbaby
Pinktriffle
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Inkdchick
Patboy
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[mogsanddogs]

hi ,im an older mum have a son of 10 and recently had a mmc 3 weeks ago after 8 years of trying it was quite a blow but will keep going a bit longer at least till im 45 .

Doesnt getting older just suck big time

 

[Omi]

Well, let's see.. I turned 40 in March and DH turns 37 in Sept. We have been together for over 7 years and married last Nov. Ive had 2 mc's had testing done that revealed i have an underactive thyroid. Im now on medication and the NHS have kindly agreed to do do more testing to see if there's anything else they can find although we don't qualify for ivf.

I have a cbfm Ive used for nearly 3 years (lost most of last year to testing (not allowed to ttc) and wedding plans). Found out i was pg in Jan and Oct 2008. Miscarried both 2 months later - had d&c with both.

I take a generic pre natal and also have epo and baby aspirin. Last month i went a bit crazy and bought both preseed and zestica fertility lubes, just for the extra help for the spermies, not for me...although i have no complaints, lol!

Phew, thats me...

Where in Scotland are you, hun? Im in Glasgow! Oh, and i forgot, we have 2 furbabies Mango and Myszka. Love your kitty, lovely colour

Omi xxx

 

[mumoffive]

We are all from Scotland lol!!! How strange is that. I live just outside Glasgow - East Dunbartonshire area. what about you both? I think thats really funny how the first two posts are from the same area!!!
Yes, being older does suck! All it seems to be about is miscarriages Please tell me it will all be worth it? I have never m/c I fell pregnant with my dd at 38 and my ds at 39 and now i think ive turned a rotten corner and its all down hill.........

 

[Omi]

Don't be silly, its not all downhill from here, lol!

The main reason older women have a hard time is not cause we have 'bad eggs' (made the fertility specialist at the Western laugh so hard she almost fell of her chair, lol) but less eggs. Apparently you lose eggs even in the womb before you are born, did you know that? Ok, yes, we;re playing with a smaller deck but that's all! You also seem to have a pretty good track record if you don't mind me saying so

As long as you live a relatively healthy life ( see: Susan Sarandon. Had 2nd at 41 and 3rd at 43 - my hero! ) it STILL only takes one egg and one sperm. Here, here!!

Im in the west end btw, work for social services in East End. Im in preggy women knee deep... 6 at last counting. 4 in my office, 2 due July, one due August and another due sept. Wasnt easy at first but im over it now. PMT all the way!!

All the best, hun!

Omi xxx

 

[mogsanddogs]

hi, im from aberdeenshire ,we all have cats as well i have three,and 2 dogs completely over-run

 

[glitterqueen]

HI
I am 41 oh 31 been ttc for 5 years had 1 m/c in feb doing tcm and taking pre natal , epo, kelp. fish oils and considering maca and asprin this month.
did you know arlene phillips( the one of strictly come dancing and now a loose women) was 43 and 47 respectively when she had hers naturally!! sort of gives us hope. I am currently trying to loose about 1 stone but eating healthy is hard!! I am having ivf in sept but hope not to need it x

 

[mumoffive]

Naturally at 47 OMG i am inspired lol!!!
The west end OMI, thats just down the road!! [ well not literally] Infact i down that way not that long ago on my way to Yorkhill with my ds who had some hiddeous eye infection. You must be a regular then of Ashton Lane!!!!I Used to love going there but havent been for a long time now..kids and everything!

 

[mumoffive]

Oh and OMI i am also in with pregnant women Knee deep. 2 of my work colleagues [ im a teacher] are pregnant but im ok with it as i am lucky and i just try and focus on the kids i have. x

 

[mumoffive]

HI
I am 41 oh 31 been ttc for 5 years had 1 m/c in feb doing tcm and taking pre natal , epo, kelp. fish oils and considering maca and asprin this month.
did you know arlene phillips( the one of strictly come dancing and now a loose women) was 43 and 47 respectively when she had hers naturally!! sort of gives us hope. I am currently trying to loose about 1 stone but eating healthy is hard!! I am having ivf in sept but hope not to need it x

Hi Glitterqueen. goodluck with the IVF and i so hope you dont need it. x

 

[Omi]

Im embarrassed to say i don't much hang out in Ashton Lane anymore since i became a secret closet drinker - ok, joke, but have turned into a bit of a home bunny in my old age, lol! Don't get me wrong, do go out for the odd drink out but closer to home, Oran Mor and Landsdowne. Walking distance - oh, the shame, lol!

Maybe we should make a TTC Over 35 hall of Fame - both famous and family qualify - just for a boost?

Am off to do it now, lol!

xxxx

 

[Nise]

Ha I just put Arlene Phillips on the hall of fame - saw an article about her recently and was very much inspired - Hope I look that good when I'm 62.

I'm Nise, I've been ttc No1 for a long time now. I am a late comer to all this, spent most of my life thinking I didn't want children until getting accidentally pg at 42, which is when my body clock suddenly clicked on. Sadly it was a mmc which I found out about at my 12 wk scan. We've been trying again ever since - I'm 44 now, I've had all the tests and so has DP and everything is in working order except it was found I had an unusually low thyroid level 0.02 - It's several months later now and I've just had a re-test for it and am awaiting the results next FS appointment in July. It pisses me off that everything seems to involve a 2 month wait but hey what can you do.

So that about sums me up. Hope it's okay but I'm not from Scotland, but I've worked up in Edinburgh and it's a lovely place.

 

[Omi]

Oh, Nise, when they did testing for my 2 mmc they found i had an underactive thyroid!

Don't worry about not being from Scotland - neither am i, lol! But my husband is!

 

[tiggerstoo]

Hi all, I am 42 and have children from a previous marriage now trying to conceive first child with OH (who is 34) my youngest child is 8 and the oldest is 18..like yourself mumoffive I have a big family of 6 kiddo's.I am hearing lots of positive stories about older mum's so lets hope we all get to be one too Was great to hear about Arlene really has given me confidence as ive been feeling doubtful last few days, this new thread has helped me a lot already x

 

[Nise]

Oh, Nise, when they did testing for my 2 mmc they found i had an underactive thyroid!

Don't worry about not being from Scotland - neither am i, lol! But my husband is!

That's interesting. I went for my retest about a month back, I didn't see my usual bloke but the person I saw said that if it was a thyroid issue then it was easily dealt with - making me wonder why the hell they didn't deal with it back when it was first discovered. Are you taking treatment for it?

 

[glitterqueen]

HI Nise
seen you on other threads! note about thyroid- i was convinced i had underactive thyroiud- my mum has the condition and i have all the symptoms. been checked tqoce now and they say its normal but i have read that it doesn't always show up in tests so i am taking kelp to help balance things. aparently you should get the t3 and t4 tested not just the thyroid function as it can be borderline for years and not show- it still worries me but dc now thinks i am a nut!!

 

[Minno]

HI girls. I am 40 (last October), and DH is 42. Been ttc no 2 for 17 months. My son is 8. Never thought it would take this long and am really losing hope. Been for all the routine tests and all seems fine except my iron levels were low and I've been on tablets to improve it for the last 3 months - seems to be picking up a bit now.

I have tried OPKs, CBFm, charting, the lot...nothing seems to help, except I seem to be ov every month and my cycles are regular. This month I am in a weird situ as am currently 3/4 days late (am NEVER late) but I tested on Friday (day of expected AF) and again this morning and both BFN's Dunno what's going on. Having catastrophic thoughts that I am perimenopausal - but no other signs and had hormone levels tested not long ago and all was fine. Did have some spotting around days 12-14 - normal for me around ov except a bit longer this month - and also a breakthough light bleed for a couple of hours on CD22. Nothing since.

Oh, and BTW, I am also from Scotland!! Must be something in the drinking water up here. Maybe it's a sinister attempt at population control or something lol !!!

Anyway, really looking forward to chatting with you lovely ladies over the coming weeks and sharing all our ups and downs.
Baby dust to us all xxx

 

[mumoffive]

Oh, and BTW, I am also from Scotland!! Must be something in the drinking water up here. Maybe it's a sinister attempt at population control or something lol !!!

Anyway, really looking forward to chatting with you lovely ladies over the coming weeks and sharing all our ups and downs.
Baby dust to us all xxx

Now this is quite funny!!..but everyone is welcome on this thread.
My older ds are 23 [twins] and another ds at nearly 21. Thought id finished my family..until i had a near miss after coming off the pill and then i thought, wouldnt it be nice! and then my sweet baby girl came along and it was like all my Christmas's had come all at once. Not only at the age of 38 had i managed to fall pregnant after 18years i might add on the pill [ first month] but i never thought a girl was possible, indeed never entertained it. After only 5 months my dh and myself thought it would be nice to have another and right away again..after just the second month i fell pregnant with my gorgeous sweet little treasure. My dd is now 3 and my ds is now 2. I think its the 2year itch. Just felt a little pang for another baby before my reproductive organs pack in completely and my attitude is, i hope it happens but if it doesnt i will count myself lucky for what i have. So, i wont be going down the road of any form of fertility treatment..and am just prepared to accept my lot and thats fine.
I had an Aunt that had always said she never wanted children. A bit like one of the other posts, once she had got near to 40, she felt her life was a bit empty and wanted to have a child. She went on and had two children with a 2 year age gap. They are the same age as my sons now. I was 19 when i had my twins and i think she was around 39 when she had her ds. Its just funny how i was such a young mum and now older like her and i can imagine that it must be so hard to be in your late 30's and know that a child is everything you have ever wanted but it seems so difficult to achieve.
I wish you all luck. Lets hope that we all get our BFP's
I think the hall of fame is a brilliant idea. x

 

[Nise]

HI Nise
seen you on other threads! note about thyroid- i was convinced i had underactive thyroiud- my mum has the condition and i have all the symptoms. been checked tqoce now and they say its normal but i have read that it doesn't always show up in tests so i am taking kelp to help balance things. aparently you should get the t3 and t4 tested not just the thyroid function as it can be borderline for years and not show- it still worries me but dc now thinks i am a nut!!

Hey GQ, lovely to see you still about. Everybody seems to have vanished from the older mums thread, so I don't bother going there anymore. Thanks for the advice - I will have to wait for my appointment with the FS to get my latest results but will be sure to question him re the t3 & t4 results - though these were fine in previous tests months ago.

 

[bdwell1904]

Hi all I am from Mississippi. I am 44. Have 3 beautiful children from previous marriage 24,22,20. I & DH married three and half yrs. ago 2mc@ 39 and 41, didn't know I could get prg didn't eat well(have had gastric bypass) ended up starving me and bby. Hadn't really thought about being prg until this little change recently. Actually thought it might be early menopause, but too many things led me to think i might be prg. So this time when my cycle went off i decided I better play it safe either way. Got a bfn sat. am @ 5 days late, thought I wasn't prg, then all of a sudden sunday all kinds of prg symptoms hit and keep getting to be more. Just trying to hurry up and wait without pulling all my hair out lol. Now that it might be a possability I really want it. DH and I have so much love in our little home, it would be such a blessing. IT is so nice to meet you lovely ladies. I work 7 on/7off so will chat again on the 29th when I return to work. Have a great week. Baby dust to everyone