TTC After previous unsuccessful times.

Lisa2701

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Hi ladies I'm lisa. Hubby and I have decided to start TTC baby number 2 again. I'm 29 and my hubby is 30 and we have a son who will be 10 in October. We TTC#2 for 3 years previously but had no luck. I had a implanon bar put in just over a year ago due to having surgery and being told not to get pregnant for a year. In the last year I have lost 10 and a half stone and I am now at a healthy weight so I am praying this will make all the difference. I had my implant removed a week ago and my ovulation tests arrived this morning so I am excited to get started. I do a CBFM in the drawer but decided to try stay a bit more relaxed for a while. That said I want to know I am ovulating as this was a rare occurrence before my weight loss, it did happen but I had VERY long cycles. I'm so excited and terrified all at the same time. So frightened that my weight loss will have made no difference, but I keep telling myself that even if it hasn't I can now get medical help from the Nhs where as before the fertility specialist wouldn't help us.

Annnnyway, looking forward to getting to know you ladies and having fun TTC again :thumbup:
 
Hi lisa, good luck with #2!
It may take a little while to get hormones where they should be but not too long. Weight loss can make a huge difference when ttc so well done :thumbup:
 
Thanks, I am hopeful but equally trying to stay grounded and not get too hopeful if that makes sense. We had intended on waiting another year until I was finished university (doing a distance learning degree) but I just couldn't cope waiting any longer. It would only be an issue if I fell pregnant almost immediately which i highly doubt will happen and if it does then we will deal with it, thats the benefit of doing distance learning, it would be tough but do-able for a short while, not that its going to happen.

This morning I took an OPK and it was SO close to being positive which surprised me as yesterday it was as negative as you could get so I might take another later on when i'm home but if not i'll test tomorrow.

Is pre-seed still the best lubricant to use while TTC? I am having issues with dryness at the moment (sorry TMI) so having to use lube and got pre-seed there. Doctors are about to run bloods to check my hormones to make sure theres nothing obvious causing the dryness. Does pre-seed go off if left lying for a while (18 months ish?) or is there an even better product on the market these days?
 
Not sure about a use by date, most products say use within 12/24 months but if not then id assume its ok. Ive used preseed myself and find it a little messy. Conceive Plus is supposed to be quite good too.
If your opk was almost positive then id do another pretty soon, its possible you caught the beginning of your surge and you may miss tge peak if you leave testing until tomorrow.
 
Well done another OPK and it was very much negative. Not entirely sure if I've just picked up the tail end of my peak earlier or if it's come to nothing. I will continue testing and see what happens.

I might buy another tube of pre-seed. Previously I found the trick is to use 1/3-1/2 of what they recommend. If you used the whole amount of what they say it's FAR too messy!! Lol.
 
I only used a tiny bit, I don't really need it anyway but was just trying to give dh's swimmers more of a chance.
Sometimes I get nearly positives then negs then strong positive, sometimes I get a fade in/out pattern. As long as you're timing bd well then ur bases are covered.
My son is 10 also :)
 
I only used a tiny bit, I don't really need it anyway but was just trying to give dh's swimmers more of a chance.
Sometimes I get nearly positives then negs then strong positive, sometimes I get a fade in/out pattern. As long as you're timing bd well then ur bases are covered.
My son is 10 also :)

I never needed it before but bought it as at the time I was trying 'everything' you can imagine!! I even bought clomid in Egypt from a pharmacist because I couldn't get it on NHS here and you can just walk in and buy it in egypt. Only tried for one month on it though and then stopped TTC due to my surgery. I wouldn't risk it now, especially as I would now get help from the NHS if it was needed, but I was desperate back then.

Don't kow if I ever got strong positives previously, even the CBFM gave me days and days of highs but never a peak, I'm hoping my weight loss will help with my ovulation issues.

I really want to stay relaxed this time round, at least until xmas time ish, give my body time to adjust and me time to get to know my cycles (if there are any). I have never ever been regular, even when I fell pregnant with my DS my periods had been missing in action for 3-4 months, then I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant, however, i've never been this weight in my adult life so for once I am hoping the doctors were right and that my weight was indeed the issue back then and that now I stand a chance of more normal cycles.

awww how do you feel about going back to a newborn, sleepless nights, nappies etc? Everyone keeps commenting to me things like 'aw with your son being almost 10 you'll not want to go back to sleepless nights, nappies etc now will you?', and my response is always ' in a heartbeat' I can't wait, well, the sleep nights don't fill me with joy but the rest I can cope with lol. My DS has autism and didn't sleep a full night regularly until he was 8.5-9 yrs ish so full nights of sleep are still a novelty to me I will miss them :sleep: :haha:

My DH really surprised me yesterday. he has always given me the speech about how our DS was enough for him and if we never had another then thats not an issue for him blah blah blah, always kinda made me feel like i was the one pushing for a second, although he always said that if I wanted another he didn't object in anyway but that it just wasn't such a big deal for him. Well yesterday he comes out with " so... maybe we should have another 2, close together". At first I thought he was joking but then I wasn't so sure so I asked him today if he was being serious or not... and he was being deadly serious... I almost choked on my coffee! Makes me wonder if his attitude to a second child was a pravado to protect him from the heartache of nothing being able to have a second. I think spending some time with my friends little one has made him broody :happydance: LOL
 
Men eh! Sometimes I think its the heartache of trying and failing to conceive over and over, it may be because of disability but whatever it was obviously doesn't faze him anymore. Thats good right!

Like you ive tried everything, clomid, preseed, waving my legs in the air etc etc, our issue isnt me.
Anyway, I have a genetic condition called hypertrophic cardiomyopathy and both of my children have inherited it, my dd is particularly poorly so if natural pregnancy were to occur id have to do the cvs test then terminate if its affected. I would love a natural pregnancy but I cant face termination so we've opted for preimplantation genetic diagnosis with icsi. Surprisingly, despite having 2 children we are entitled to 3 cycles on the nhs so we're just embarking on that journey now. Pgd means they test my eggs for my condition and only transfer unaffected embryos, it means we can have a healthy child.
My friends are being very supportive and I think im still young enough to have another baby.

You never know, ur baby may do nothing but sleep and I think sleepless nights are worth it :thumbup:
 
I'm so sorry to hear your having a tough time but I am delighted to hear the NHS can help. I had no idea they could do that, must be very exciting! Its amazing what they can do these days when you think about it. Do you start that soon?

And I agree, the sleepless nights are welllll worth it all!
 
They're making the probes for the genetic side of things, that takes approximately 9 months for us as its a condition they haven't done before. Once they're ready then we can start so probably around january. Im pleased we have the option as despite dh's sub fertility, pgd is awarded regardless of fertility status, we're happy to fund icsi privately but we couldn't test the embryos. It's £10k a cycle of pgd. I can't wait to start but im very impatient :)
 
Awww i'm sure itll all be worth the wait. I hope it all goes well for you!

10K a cycle :wacko:, thats just crazy isn't it.

I assume if you had to repeat the treatment it wouldn't be 9 months between treatments? Sorry if I am being too nosy, tell me to butt out if you like. :blush:
 
No, embryos are frozen then transferred about 8 weeks after egg collection. If there is another frozen embryo that will be transferred another 8 weeks later if the first failed. A fresh cycle (egg collection) will be about 8-12 weeks after frozen embryos from previous cycle have been utilised.
I actually know someone on another group who had pgd because both of her sons had autism, she's only having girls transferred as there's less chance of them having it
 
No, embryos are frozen then transferred about 8 weeks after egg collection. If there is another frozen embryo that will be transferred another 8 weeks later if the first failed. A fresh cycle (egg collection) will be about 8-12 weeks after frozen embryos from previous cycle have been utilised.
I actually know someone on another group who had pgd because both of her sons had autism, she's only having girls transferred as there's less chance of them having it

Wow I had no idea they would do something like that for autism. I guess if there is severe autism in your family then it would be worth doing for sure. Autism appears to be genetic for us as my DH has aspergers, my son autism and other family members on DHs side have aspergers and ADHD/ADD etc but we still want to go ahead and have another despite this.

Its good news that there wouldn't be a huge wait between attempts, but I hope you don't need more than one :winkwink:
 

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