Hi ladies! Just a brief intro: I'm 25, been married almost 3 years and just started TTC (on cycle 2 now.) I've been ready to TTC for a long time and was so excited that DH was finally ready to start trying. But now he is having second thoughts as his father is on his death bed, about to lose his battle with cancer. I totally understand that he does not want to go through two major life events at once and I support that. But he said that he wants to continue not using protection, but also not actually TRY to conceive, meaning no schedule sex! The main thing is, he knows he will be a wreck once my FIL passes, and he knows the stress will come down on me also, and he does not want to deal with a m/c. I'm a bit torn. I obviously still want a baby badly. I don't know how much a life event like that would effect the health of my future baby if I were to conceive. I'm wondering if I should let fate take over our TTC or if we should not even risk it and use protection, until who knows how long during his grieving. Has anyone gone through a loss while pg? And advice? Sometimes, I also think a child would be good for his grieving heart, but I don't know.