TTC date canceled

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  1. Augie

    Augie Well-Known Member

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    Good news and bad news:
    The bad news is after a very serious a long conversation with OH, we have decided to cancel May for our TTC date because of the fact that I'm under so much stress with work/school and now my mom is battling breast cancer. I wasn't letting myself come to terms with the fact that it would be a bad time right now to try for a baby with everything with mom. But after thinking about it and talking to some loved ones, everyone agrees it would be best to wait. I know it's the right choice, I need to be there 100% for mom right now.

    Good news is that OH said that our appointment with the specialist last week made him realize that he is 100% ready to be a dad. Is he still scared? Hell yeah, but he's ready to make the leap as soon as mom is better. He even told me that he feels really sad and disapointed that we had to cancel May as our date. He told me that he's ready to be a daddy. :sad1:

    So...I actually think in my heart I knew that we needed to do this, but the selfish part of me didn't want to say it outloud because OH actually gave me a date, I didn't want to let it go, as stupid as that sounds. And I was still in shock about what mom is going through I think. I feel relieved and crushed all at the same time...it's weird. In the mean time we're going to work really hard at saving money and getting our credit cards paid off, so that's good. Making sure mom has a full recovery is all that matters right now.

    Sorry for rambling...I needed to let it out! :cry:
     
  2. Star7890

    Star7890 New mummy

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    I really hope your mum recovers and all goes well in the end for you! It will be hard waiting but it sounds like you already know that its right for you, your oh and your family. Good luck xx
     
  3. Augie

    Augie Well-Known Member

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    Thanks. :)
     
  4. odd_socks

    odd_socks Long Term WTT

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    :hugs: sorry to hear about ur mum i hope she makes a full recovery :D so love and best wishes to her and ur family :) I think u are wise to but off ur TTC date, but that is great news that he feels ready now :D it means when u do move to TTC it will be even more special and share it with ur mum too :D lots of love x
     
  5. chickenchaser

    chickenchaser trying to hatch her egg!!

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    Augie, Bless you and your mum. Life is so hard at times. I posted a very similar story to yours only the other day but I'm afraid I was being a bit more selfish. Good luck to you and I hope your mum has a very quick recovery, so you can get back on your TTC journey. Take Care and YAY that OH is now fully ready.
     
  6. wtt :)

    wtt :) Mama of two <3

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    :hugs: to you and your mom! i know what it feels like... been there done that and unfortunately not only once. However, as much as you want to be there for your mom right now, you need to live your life too. So unless putting TTC on hold is mainly because of school and work, i wouldn't do it. You see, my mom told me to live my life, she is happy i'm in good hands should she leave this earth earlier than planned. Basically, what DH and i want now is to try for a baby and at the same time hope my mom will still be able to meet her first grandchild. I don't know, maybe that's just us or even just me but that's what i feel. My mom has had cancer for many years now though so maybe that makes my situation the opposite of yours?
    Whatever you decide if you haven't already, i wish you all the best and a quick BFP when the time is right! :hugs:
     
  7. Augie

    Augie Well-Known Member

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    Thanks girl! :hugs: I really appreciate that! You know, my mom was just diagnosed in December, so it's a new thing. She only has 3 treatments left but then she may have to get radiation later, which if I was pregnant I couldn't be around her for fear of birth defects, so that's another reason. Work and school is already stressful, add mom to it, it's crazy, so I'm good with waiting for a few extra months and seeing how things go...

    Good luck with you and your mom and family! :hugs:
     
  8. Augie

    Augie Well-Known Member

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    Thanks girl! :hugs::flower:
     
  9. wtt :)

    wtt :) Mama of two <3

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    Thanks :hugs:

    It's tough at first, then you get "used to it" (there are always up and down days) It depends on how strong your mom is emotionally. According to doctors and statistics and all that, my mom would have died years ago but because she has such a strong will to live, she is still here :D
    When i first found out my mom had cancer, i had just graduated from high school and had just met my now husband so i had no kids on my mind yet.
    If you are ok with waiting so you can adjust to the situation emotionally and physically, then that sounds good to me! Like i said though, i really wish you all the best and for everyone in your family to be strong and positive :hugs:
     
  10. Sany

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    bless you and your mom! best wishes! <3
     
  11. lu-is

    lu-is Mom of 1 bouncing boy!

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    sorry to hear about all the bad stuff. :( :hugs: I'll send good thoughts your way, hopefully your mom will get better fast.

    It's great that your OH has come to the realization that he is ready to be a dad. That's a big step forward.
     

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