scheherazade
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Wow, that title sounds a little angstier than I meant it to be.
Hi, I'm new here. Hubby and I started TTC #1 after our wedding at the beginning of October. I had a slightly frustrating long cycle right after that, probably due to going off bc a few months prior. Things seem to have settled down since then, and cycles have been regular-ish the last couple of months. I'm pretty gung-ho about tracking and charting--I analyze data for my job, graphs and charts are kind of my thing. I haven't quite figured out all the acronyms and exactly how to categorize CM, but practice makes perfect, right?
Hubby, on the other hand, thinks that TTC is synonymous with NTNP. I gave up on my first attempt at charting back in November (right after the end of that very long cycle) before I even really got started because he got irritated with me over "stressing out" about it and said that it made it "not fun anymore". His family has never had any fertility problems, and he just assumes it'll happen easily. My family, on the other hand, tends toward problems; my parents were TTC for 3+ years before they had me, and my aunt never made it past the first trimester with any pregnancies. I feel like I could probably use all the edge I can get. I decided that I'm going to start charting again with my next cycle, using Fertility Friend so that I can keep it all digitally and he doesn't grumble at me every time I write it down. He has begrudgingly accepted this, but said that he doesn't want me to share any of it with him if I'm insisting on doing it. (Guess this means I'm just supposed to jump him with no explanation on fertile days...)
My mom, on the other hand, actually does stress me out about it. She has been bugging me about grandkids since we set a date for the wedding, and every time I mention anything about not feeling well to her, she immediately jumps to "IS IT MORNING SICKNESS???" as her first response. I have stopped mentioning anything about TTC to her, since it usually ends with me frustrated and in tears and her having no idea why I'm upset. We moved to a new town for my new job over the summer, and I haven't really made any friends here yet that I feel comfortable talking to... or any female friends at all, actually. Both of my closest female friends live pretty far away now, and both had "oopsie" babies about five years ago and do not plan to ever have another, so they aren't at all interested in the process... one of them even told me "I'm so glad you aren't all crazy about this stuff like [her other friend] is, she's so boring to talk to now." Basically, there's no one in my life that I feel I can talk to about TTC and the frustrations it brings without irritating them, boring them, or bringing down well-meaning maternal smothering.
...so, long story short, I did a search for trying to conceive forums, and out of the ones I browsed this is the one that I liked best. Looking forward to meeting you all, and sharing in your journeys!
Hi, I'm new here. Hubby and I started TTC #1 after our wedding at the beginning of October. I had a slightly frustrating long cycle right after that, probably due to going off bc a few months prior. Things seem to have settled down since then, and cycles have been regular-ish the last couple of months. I'm pretty gung-ho about tracking and charting--I analyze data for my job, graphs and charts are kind of my thing. I haven't quite figured out all the acronyms and exactly how to categorize CM, but practice makes perfect, right?
Hubby, on the other hand, thinks that TTC is synonymous with NTNP. I gave up on my first attempt at charting back in November (right after the end of that very long cycle) before I even really got started because he got irritated with me over "stressing out" about it and said that it made it "not fun anymore". His family has never had any fertility problems, and he just assumes it'll happen easily. My family, on the other hand, tends toward problems; my parents were TTC for 3+ years before they had me, and my aunt never made it past the first trimester with any pregnancies. I feel like I could probably use all the edge I can get. I decided that I'm going to start charting again with my next cycle, using Fertility Friend so that I can keep it all digitally and he doesn't grumble at me every time I write it down. He has begrudgingly accepted this, but said that he doesn't want me to share any of it with him if I'm insisting on doing it. (Guess this means I'm just supposed to jump him with no explanation on fertile days...)
My mom, on the other hand, actually does stress me out about it. She has been bugging me about grandkids since we set a date for the wedding, and every time I mention anything about not feeling well to her, she immediately jumps to "IS IT MORNING SICKNESS???" as her first response. I have stopped mentioning anything about TTC to her, since it usually ends with me frustrated and in tears and her having no idea why I'm upset. We moved to a new town for my new job over the summer, and I haven't really made any friends here yet that I feel comfortable talking to... or any female friends at all, actually. Both of my closest female friends live pretty far away now, and both had "oopsie" babies about five years ago and do not plan to ever have another, so they aren't at all interested in the process... one of them even told me "I'm so glad you aren't all crazy about this stuff like [her other friend] is, she's so boring to talk to now." Basically, there's no one in my life that I feel I can talk to about TTC and the frustrations it brings without irritating them, boring them, or bringing down well-meaning maternal smothering.
...so, long story short, I did a search for trying to conceive forums, and out of the ones I browsed this is the one that I liked best. Looking forward to meeting you all, and sharing in your journeys!