TTC for 7 months..feeling like I'm on my own...

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So, it's been 7 months now and each month that comes I build my hopes up and each time the month goes I get really disappointed and discouraged. I only told a few of my friends about TTC, but I know that more people know about it at this point and I am finding that I am really sensitive to peoples unwarranted comments. When I try to talk to my husband about it all he really says is to relax. Is it normal to be so sensitive about this, or am I just overreacting?
 
it is VERY normal, and you came to the right place, i know this site has helped me and a lottt of other women through this hard TTC journey! my hubby is the same, he doesnt really get it. so dont feel bad, :hugs:
 
You have come to right place :hugs: Many women here go through struggles. And I agree that men simply just don't get it and it's almost a waste of our time to try to make them understand.

Wishing you luck sweetie and we're all here if you need us :hugs:
 
Thanks:) That really means a lot. All of my friends either have kids and didn't even try, or don't have kids and don't want them, so I don't really have anyone to talk to about it.
 
Hi MissAnnabelle,

I am totally hearing you. We are 7months in to trying too. This month just gone I really thought I was getting symptoms and even stared so hard at a test I thought I saw a faint line, the next day...AF. I was gutted.

I really understand how you feel. Rant at me anytime :) I am on here quite a lot lol, I have found it really helpful to just talk about how I am feeling.

Fingers crossed for both of us
 
You are not on your own at all! DH and I also started in January 2011 and no luck yet. We are both 35 so I am starting to panic slightly as we have been really focussed about TTC since the beginning and I didn't imagine it was going to be this hard. Most of my friends have 1, 2 or 3 children (as does my little sister) and most of our social life revolves around them (especially, it seems, just after I've had a BFN in the morning!). I've had to be quite open about TTC with friends and family recently because, upsettingly, people started to think that I was pregnant. For some weird hormonal imbalance reason, a few months ago I developed chloasma ("the mask of pregnancy") which is this patchy pigmentation on my face, so people who know about chloasma think I am pregnant. The cruel tricks nature plays! I also have a little pot belly (though I'm not overweight) which I catch colleagues studying. All this, coupled with the fact we got married at the start of the year (at which point I stopped drinking to start TTC) makes people jump to the wrong conclusion. DH's family is mediterranean and are desperate for us to reproduce. They mean well, I know, but my MIL and others keep making really insensitive comments! I've just come home from having spent 2 weeks on holiday with her so am congratulating myself on having remained calm and rational throughout (although it wasn't easy when she was reminding me that DH and I not getting any younger, and that she got pregnant on her honeymoon). Some days I'm ok and able to get on with life. Other days I am unable to enjoy or concentrate on anything. DH really wants to start a family too (we just met late in life, that's all) and has been cooperative with TTC but doesn't get disappointed or frustrated in the same way. That's why I come on BnB to remind myself that the way I'm feeling is normal. Please don't feel alone. x:hugs:
 
Hi MissAnnabelle- You are not overreacting. I'm on 5th cycle ttc but I am feeling the same way each month I get my hopes up and nothing :( My husband says the same exact thing it makes me so mad. Then he will spout off saying we just started trying bla bla, that I am just making it worst by worrying -like he knows anything!!
 
Hi MissAnnabelle! I completely understand. This website has helped me a lot and on days that I am REALLY down I log on and am able to express my feelings with the women on here and they understand, where as like yours, my husband just does not. My OH and I have been trying for 10 months now :-/ and each month gets harder to handle.

Stay Positive! Believing you & I will both get our BFP SOON!!
Baby Dust to us all!!
 
So, it's been 7 months now and each month that comes I build my hopes up and each time the month goes I get really disappointed and discouraged. I only told a few of my friends about TTC, but I know that more people know about it at this point and I am finding that I am really sensitive to peoples unwarranted comments. When I try to talk to my husband about it all he really says is to relax. Is it normal to be so sensitive about this, or am I just overreacting?

missannabelle you are not alone I have been ttc since april of this year it has also been 7 months for me, its hard but we need to hang in there, dont give up:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: It will happen for us.:baby::baby::baby:
 
So, it's been 7 months now and each month that comes I build my hopes up and each time the month goes I get really disappointed and discouraged. I only told a few of my friends about TTC, but I know that more people know about it at this point and I am finding that I am really sensitive to peoples unwarranted comments. When I try to talk to my husband about it all he really says is to relax. Is it normal to be so sensitive about this, or am I just overreacting?

HI, Annabelle

I know what you mean regarding talking to people and ur bf about ttc and it can make you pretty damn angry lol When I talk to my partner he kinda changes subject fast tho i do think thats so i dont get my hopes up so much each month. I think when ur ttc for the female its all you can kinda think about.
:hugs:
 
So, it's been 7 months now and each month that comes I build my hopes up and each time the month goes I get really disappointed and discouraged. I only told a few of my friends about TTC, but I know that more people know about it at this point and I am finding that I am really sensitive to peoples unwarranted comments. When I try to talk to my husband about it all he really says is to relax. Is it normal to be so sensitive about this, or am I just overreacting?

I feel ur pain, and no, u r not overreacting....my hubby is the same way...he actually got offended when i told him he may have to have his sperm checked...then his reaction threw me into a funk...ontop of getting AF that day....we havent really talked about it since...that was about 2 mths ago...7 mths is a looooong time for us...thats 7 periods...7 upsets..7 times we have had to sit down and ask when is it gna happen?...they dont get it like we do..i think talking to him a little more..telling him more about how your feeling may help..my hubby understands to a point but i admit i needed a little more support and reached out here...and honestly i feel relief...its comforting to me to have ppl to talk to...

well good luck and let us know how u are holding up...:hugs:
 
I'm right there with you all. We're now on our 8th month of trying. It's such an emotional roller coaster and it's SOO frustrating that hubby doesn't understand :growlmad: I have nobody in my life to talk to about this that understands. My mom had 6 kids, none of which she actively tried for. My older sister had a kid that was an accident, a friend of mine that has a newborn stopped taking her pill and was pregnant the same month. And I feel like when I try to talk about this with any of them it just makes it worse because when you never have to try, apparently people start thinking something is wrong. And I already feel like something is wrong, I don't want other people thinking that too! I've very briefly tried talking about it with my mother in law (I had a miscarriage a year ago so she knows we're trying) but she just changed the subject. So damn frustrating. :(
 
I'm right there with you all. We're now on our 8th month of trying. It's such an emotional roller coaster and it's SOO frustrating that hubby doesn't understand :growlmad: I have nobody in my life to talk to about this that understands. My mom had 6 kids, none of which she actively tried for. My older sister had a kid that was an accident, a friend of mine that has a newborn stopped taking her pill and was pregnant the same month. And I feel like when I try to talk about this with any of them it just makes it worse because when you never have to try, apparently people start thinking something is wrong. And I already feel like something is wrong, I don't want other people thinking that too! I've very briefly tried talking about it with my mother in law (I had a miscarriage a year ago so she knows we're trying) but she just changed the subject. So damn frustrating. :(

I'm typically a very happy and selfless person...lately when ppl announce their pregnany I'm initially happy..yet gutted inside...ugh as I sit here and watch the Duggars...20 kids AND COUNTING...really??...and I can't even have 1??..wth..its all very frustrating..as if we dnt have enuff stress of our everyday lives..

Anywho..this is a great place to talk...sorry ur frustrated..:hugs:
 
I have many of the same feelings and I've been trying for 5 months. It makes me sad that my initial reactions when people tell me they are pregnant are selfish. I am happy for them but it makes me sad I'm not pregnant.... Booo

Anyway, we are in this together:thumbup:
 
I have many of the same feelings and I've been trying for 5 months. It makes me sad that my initial reactions when people tell me they are pregnant are selfish. I am happy for them but it makes me sad I'm not pregnant.... Booo

Anyway, we are in this together:thumbup:

Yes we are...can't wait to be happy for your BFP!!..:flower:
 
I'm right there with you all. We're now on our 8th month of trying. It's such an emotional roller coaster and it's SOO frustrating that hubby doesn't understand :growlmad: I have nobody in my life to talk to about this that understands. My mom had 6 kids, none of which she actively tried for. My older sister had a kid that was an accident, a friend of mine that has a newborn stopped taking her pill and was pregnant the same month. And I feel like when I try to talk about this with any of them it just makes it worse because when you never have to try, apparently people start thinking something is wrong. And I already feel like something is wrong, I don't want other people thinking that too! I've very briefly tried talking about it with my mother in law (I had a miscarriage a year ago so she knows we're trying) but she just changed the subject. So damn frustrating. :(

Hi MrsMcD123, I know exactly how you feel and it is now 8 months of trying for me:cry::cry: I believe I have tried everything in the book and still nothing it does hurt and frustrate you with each passing month with neg., neg., and neg.,I really do feel what you feel, and when you want to talk about it ,its not important to others to even give a listening ear.:cry: well I can say talking tio many speacial women here on the different posts has really gave me alot of hope and has given me alot of strength to hold on and not give up:hugs::hugs::hugs: I keep hanging on that my turn is coming:thumbup: and yours will do dont loose faith sweetheart we all will make it, I quess it just takes longer for others.Sending you lots of:dust::dust::dust: sweetie:hugs:
 
Oh my dont feel alone. I am 21 DH is 24. And we have been at this for 1yr 2months. Stay positive. Research all you can and use opk's. I saw a obgyn on my 9 month of trying. This site is wonderful ive learned alot and my hubby and I argue less about baby work because all these women are supportive and men dont really know what.were going through.
Im so ready for my BFP. But were startinf fresh in the new year.
Research.vitamins for ttc at google. Take notes. And put him on.vitamins too
 
thats was encouragin to read... I am 26 TTC for 8months... did my first cycle of clomid cd3-7 and goin to doc friday to test to see if i ovulated... PRETTY sure i did... and then wait to see if AF shows up
 
thats was encouragin to read... I am 26 TTC for 8months... did my first cycle of clomid cd3-7 and goin to doc friday to test to see if i ovulated... PRETTY sure i did... and then wait to see if AF shows up

Good Luck darlin!
I got pregnant on my 2nd round then miscarried. It will happen. Just baby dance all you can! And my problem was I always get up right after and I never lay there so were doin that now. I feel like at my age this shouldnt be taking as.long as it has. I hit rock bottom in september I was depressed but I got out of the funk and got right back to trying. I always tell my best friends (im like the only girl out of my graduating class to not have a.baby yet) but I always tell them they are so blessed. And I get back is reallly? would you like one I can ship them to you. Lol I cant wait for that.
 
Oh hun, your not on your own at all you have come to the right place :)

TTC is a heartbreaker and only us women truly know how much heart ache it causes each and every month when the witch arrives. Me and my OH have been TTC now for a year and it's getting to the point of me thinking "will it ever happen?" however I'm not giving up, I will have a baby in my arms and I'm so determind!
I've started to relax alot now, I use to be very uptight about the whole business but it was just causing me so much upset every month when I got that negative. I'm going to be stepping up the game again when my next AF arrives (currently CD90) and will be using some things I've never used before ... This is just my approach to TTC, trying to relax but do the best I can and try and not get my hopes up so much (it's hard not to!) :(

It's funny, we spend all our young years preventing pregnancy but then spend all our time doing everything we possibly can to get pregnant.
 

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