ttc straight after miscarriage... any buddies?

[silverlizard]

Well, today I finally had my ERPC - I should have been ten weeks on Friday, but it appears my baby died between six and seven weeks gestation. My partner and I have talked it through a lot over the past week since we heard the bad news, and decided we want to try again as soon as I'm physically ready - I've been told by two doctors and a nurse that there is no reason we can't start even before my next period, so essentially that's what we'll be doing. My partner really, really strongly wants to just try again right away, and honestly, I think it would help me to feel less terrible too if I could get pregnant again.

I guess... just wondered if there's anyone else around who's at a similar stage/in a similar situation and wanted to chat? All the other "trying straight away" threads seem to have been going for ages and I don't feel right about just jumping in!

(I suppose technically I'm actually 'waiting to try' right now as we're waiting for me to heal and stop bleeding, but this seemed the best forum to put this in.)

 

[Bentlee]

hey sweetheart, I'm so sorry for your loss! I lost my little angle at 9 weeks two days before christmas, had to have surgery as well The doctors told us to wait 1-3 cycles, but we went back on the ttc track right away and I was cd28 yesterday (Wednesday, since I'm in Germany and it's past midnight now) and I'm officially late now. Don't know if my cycle just changed because of the mc or if I'm already pregnant again.. I do feel quite preggo though
Just want to let you know there's hope and I know exactly in how much pain you are in right now Lots of baby to you!

Warm regards
Bentlee

 

[silverlizard]

Hi Bentlee - thankyou for your post, and I will keep my fingers crossed for you, let's hope you've been lucky straight away this month! It is horrible... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially right before Christmas. I found out that I had lost my first pregnancy on Christmas Eve last year (and this one has had some horrible timing actually, too), so I have every sympathy with you on that. *hugs*

 

[Bentlee]

Thank you. For some reasons Nov/Dec do not seem to be my lucky months at all though.. lost my Grandpa Dec'10, had to put my dog to sleep Nov'09... hope for a better winter this year!!

If you don't mind me being a little further ahead of you, I would love to be buddies?!

 

[silverlizard]

That would be nice - don't mind at all.

 

[lilblossom]

We lost ours just after new years and are not waiting...just living life and hoping we are blessed with a BFP straight away.

 

[Bentlee]

That would be nice - don't mind at all.

i added you to my signature hope we get our s soon!

We lost ours just after new years and are not waiting...just living life and hoping we are blessed with a BFP straight away.

a sad, but warm Welcome!

 

[lilblossom]

Thank you. The pregnancy was actually a huge surprise for us as we were not trying then...our youngest just graduated high school so, yeah, we were shocked. Then to finally get excited and look forward to starting over we learned the term Blighted ovum and were devastated.

Although it breaks my heart how many people are in the same boat as us it also give me comfort that we are not alone in our pain and in our hope to try again. Good luck everyone.

 

[silverlizard]

Hello lilblossom... so sad to hear you're going through this too. Like you said, it's some comfort to know that we aren't alone, though. Fingers crossed for a BFP soon for you too. *hugs*

 

[Katia-xO]

Hi all, sorry for your losses!

I had a natural mc on christmas day and we (mainly me) decided to try again straight away.. However I was poorly roughly around my ov time so i'm just hoping we caught it beforehand!! I'm due AF on the 23rd of this month if all goes to plan (which probably won't after mc but we shall see!)

Good luck to you all ladies xxx

 

[Vesper_]

Hi, I'm not sure if I belong here as had a m/c at only 5 weeks - nothing really compared to what u must all be going through, but I only found out yesterday. Have been TTC since July last year and got my first BFP 2 days ago, only to lose it today. Am not sure time wise when I will ovulate again but I'd happily like to see how u all get on

 

[Katia-xO]

Hi, I'm not sure if I belong here as had a m/c at only 5 weeks - nothing really compared to what u must all be going through, but I only found out yesterday. Have been TTC since July last year and got my first BFP 2 days ago, only to lose it today. Am not sure time wise when I will ovulate again but I'd happily like to see how u all get on

Course you do! No matter which stage, you're in the same boat.. Sorry for your loss good luck! x

 

[Bentlee]

Hi, I'm not sure if I belong here as had a m/c at only 5 weeks - nothing really compared to what u must all be going through, but I only found out yesterday. Have been TTC since July last year and got my first BFP 2 days ago, only to lose it today. Am not sure time wise when I will ovulate again but I'd happily like to see how u all get on

Course you do! No matter which stage, you're in the same boat.. Sorry for your loss good luck! x

I totally agree!

Okay I'm one day late and I had period like cramps and pain all night, it even hurt on my lower back which I NEVER have with the , but no bleeding! not the tinest bit. I even took some pain killers, but it only helped a bit.. back pain is gone though. But I'm still having cramps and I really don't know what that means I'm afraid that I caught some infection in my uterus.. will test around 130 today, since a friend drops by with a preg test and if I'm not pregnant I might have to go to the doctor tmr.

 

[Katia-xO]

Bentlee, I keep getting twinges and aches too! And i'm on cd27 so quite close to your cycle really even though my af is due in 4 days. Keep us updated! x

 

[Bentlee]

Bentlee, I keep getting twinges and aches too! And i'm on cd27 so quite close to your cycle really even though my af is due in 4 days. Keep us updated! x

So fx that we both get our and happy healthy nine months soon!!

 

[silverlizard]

Hi, I'm not sure if I belong here as had a m/c at only 5 weeks - nothing really compared to what u must all be going through, but I only found out yesterday. Have been TTC since July last year and got my first BFP 2 days ago, only to lose it today. Am not sure time wise when I will ovulate again but I'd happily like to see how u all get on

Of course you belong here! I lost a pregnancy at around five weeks last year (though it took my body another six weeks afterwards to actually miscarry naturally) and I can tell you from experience that it still 'counts' and still hurts. Welcome, and fingers crossed for you. *hugs*

 

[silverlizard]

Hi, I'm not sure if I belong here as had a m/c at only 5 weeks - nothing really compared to what u must all be going through, but I only found out yesterday. Have been TTC since July last year and got my first BFP 2 days ago, only to lose it today. Am not sure time wise when I will ovulate again but I'd happily like to see how u all get on

Course you do! No matter which stage, you're in the same boat.. Sorry for your loss good luck! x

I totally agree!

Okay I'm one day late and I had period like cramps and pain all night, it even hurt on my lower back which I NEVER have with the , but no bleeding! not the tinest bit. I even took some pain killers, but it only helped a bit.. back pain is gone though. But I'm still having cramps and I really don't know what that means I'm afraid that I caught some infection in my uterus.. will test around 130 today, since a friend drops by with a preg test and if I'm not pregnant I might have to go to the doctor tmr.

Don't want to raise your hopes unnecessarily or anything... but with this last pregnancy, I had terrible period-like cramps starting from a week or so before I was due. I was absolutely sure I was about to start, but nope, I tested at 15dpo, and there I was, pregnant. Good luck for your test today... let's hope you're our first BFP and it's not an infection! *crosses fingers and hopes madly*

 

[lilblossom]

What is it with holidays. One of the big things i have noticed reading some of these thread is alot of these losses coincide with a holiday.

 

[PreshFest]

Hey everyone! I had a D&C this past friday at 12 weeks I have decided to wait until after my first period to ttc again, though, but still wanted to join this thread as we are all basically in the same boat.

It's been six days since my D&C and my bleeding is starting to dwidndle down to just spotting, so that has me very excited today! So I'm just waiting for AF and we'll hop on it!

 

[sunshinegirl3]

Hi Ladies!

I'm really saddened to hear about your losses, I too lost two babies last year, I had 2 mmc and therefore 2 d&c's one in May on honeymoon an one in November.

I have been told to wait three cycles before trying again (one more left to go!!!) but just can't wait! A few of my friends have told me they are expecting recently and two family members too - although I am sooo happy for them, I can't help but feel sad too for my loss - this makes me feel really down as I am truly happy for them, but am desperate for a baby of my own!!

I've decided to start trying now and not wait for one more cycle - I hope thats ok!!

Good luck to you all and here's hoping we have a baby bOom thus year

Sunshine Girl xoxo