bunnyblonde
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my whole situation is really strange and not necessarily ideal at all, i told the father yesterday that i was pregnant and he took it very well considering everything. he told me i wasn't alone in this. i just got off the phone with him today, and one of the first things i asked was how involved he wants to be and he told me after thinking about it he decided he can't be 50% in, its either all or nothing, and he can't give up the life he's worked so hard for, this that and the other thing. I actually had a list of things in front of me to ask him, and him saying that made most of the list obsolete, he said he doesn't even want updates. after he said all of that i said ok well around month 3 or 4 we should come up with an agreement as far as money goes, and he freaked out, he actually said i was "shaking him down". trust me i was far from shaking him down, if i were shaking him down theres a lot of things i could've threatened. he told me i wasn't thinking to the future. i feel like thats exactly what I'm thinking about, if we came up with an agreement now it would actually protect him, and its not like he doesn't know I'm pregnant. i would have every right to get child support if i wanted to, but thats not what I'm going to do, its not what i want to do anyway. it was actually pretty disgusting, he mentioned that he has advisors and he's not the one to mess with. I'm just so frustrated, he decided he wants no part in his childs life, but he's also saying he basically doesn't care wether or not his childs needs are cared for. he's calling me again tomorrow so who knows he could change how he feels, but he went from telling me I'm not alone to telling me he doesn't even care if i can buy diapers. he keeps telling me its my choice, but he's the one that made the choice