UGH MOTHER IN LAWS and TTC

[Dylan]

Ugh! People sometimes just don't know when to shut up. I think that's a nice gap and unless you're struggling with what you have why wouldn't you?!IF it's what you want go for it!

 

[bassdesire]

Thanks everyone. DarkNLovely you crack me up!

I wonder why women can't let go sometimes as well-that is a really good point to think about.

 

[MrS. MaBrEy]

seriously MILs and parents for that matter should just keep their mouths shut and not mention anything about having kids...they should just be thankful to be getting grandbabies to spoil! my mom is finally happy about our ttc, now that we are in with the fertility specialist

 

[knitbit]

Oh, I'm sorry. I think it's a generational thing, you know? Just because 4 years was considered ideal back in the day doesn't mean it is now.

 

[bassdesire]

knitbit that is true. even my mom thinks 4 years is the best gap. she thinks that one should be out of diapers for awhile first.

 

[AP]

my MIL had a disgusting attitude when i told her i was pregnant when LO just turned 1. she said "How can you be so stupid?"



Yeah, since when did it become any of her business?

You carry on hun, its your family!! hope you have triplets and piss her off royally

 

[Broody1976]

It's a second marriage for my OH & me.

I didn't even know my OH when he was married to his ex - MIL loves ex wife.

We haven't told anyone other than my sister & best mate that we are ttc.

However, we were at a family occasion last year and MIL was discussing her grandchild (there is only 1 by OH's Brother) and said whilst staring directly at me - "Oh I don't think I'll be having anymore grandchildren" - Nasty, nasty woman!

Makes me so mad - I had nothing to do with the OH and his ex splitting up (actually no one else was involved) but for some reason MIL dislikes me.

 

[inertia63]

It's a second marriage for my OH & me.

I didn't even know my OH when he was married to his ex - MIL loves ex wife.

We haven't told anyone other than my sister & best mate that we are ttc.

However, we were at a family occasion last year and MIL was discussing her grandchild (there is only 1 by OH's Brother) and said whilst staring directly at me - "Oh I don't think I'll be having anymore grandchildren" - Nasty, nasty woman!

Makes me so mad - I had nothing to do with the OH and his ex splitting up (actually no one else was involved) but for some reason MIL dislikes me.

Wow, has your OH ever said anything? That's overstepping the mark!

 

[lucy_lu10]

Ugh, I have the opposite problem and it's with my father-in-law!!
There's 17 months between my sister and I and then again between her and my younger sister. My husband and his sister are 18 months apart. My son is coming up 12 months and DH and I just just started TTC #2 but my FIL is all like "are you pregnant yet?!" "You know your kids are going to be too far apart!" "Anything more than 2 years and they won't have a great relationship" Grrr.....just shut up!! lol

We weren't successful on our first month and are into our second month now.....it just sucks having him breathing down our neck all the time!! It'll happen when it happens and whenever that is will be just perfect.

 

[Broody1976]

Wow, has your OH ever said anything? That's overstepping the mark!

Not at that point - I was furious but it wasn't really appropriate for him to say something right then.

Don't worry, I plan to get my retort.... it might take time, but I'll do it.

 

[bassdesire]

You girls are so funny! You make this easier LOL

Now if only I could get a BFP so my kids will be what we want-2 years apart. As of now, they will be 24 months. We wanted a little earlier, but it hasn't worked out. Plus I am nursing still so that is always a challenge

 

[lucy_lu10]

You girls are so funny! You make this easier LOL

Now if only I could get a BFP so my kids will be what we want-2 years apart. As of now, they will be 24 months. We wanted a little earlier, but it hasn't worked out. Plus I am nursing still so that is always a challenge

I'm in a pretty similar situation. Still nursing my nearly 12 month old so right now if I get that BFP, they'll be 21 months apart. I'm hoping to conceive in order to make a 24 month age gap (or sooner) and I hope nursing doesn't slow the process down.

 

[knitbit]

My boys are 18 months apart and I conceived #2 while nursing. Be prepared for your milk to dry up... I was fully prepared to tandem nurse, but my body wasn't having any of it. Not only did I dry up, but nursing actually brought on nausea. My oldest lost interest. I was sad, but had to go along. He weaned at 11.5 months.

 

[Ceeceex]

My MIL is the exact same

she says, she HOPES im not pregnant.

i just ignore her though it is hard i understand xxx

 

[Broody1976]

My MIL is the exact same

she says, she HOPES im not pregnant.

i just ignore her though it is hard i understand xxx

It's sooooo unfair isn't it?

I'm not a bad person, I have a good career, I keep her son on the striaght & narrow

My only crime it appears, is not being his ex-wife

Thing is when we do get pregnant & have our baby (PMA!!) if she doesn't at least pretend to be happy for us, I'll be quite happy to say, "You know what, this child doesn't need you in their life".

I have a massive family and there will be plenty of love available without her!!

Ohhh cripes - Rant and a half from me

 

[Eternal]

After i had my son, the same mount SIL was so jelous got pregnant, i was talking to a friend saying how we want our children close in age so would be trying soon and MIL was over hearing and said, no you wont, i cant cope with that. i said something like you dont have anything to do with your grandson anyway so why would you care lol!

so annoying. my other SIL was talking names with us when we were TTC and i said i liked the name lucy, it was on our list last time, and MIL said oh no, Kirsty wants that name and she is pregnant arh!

anyway, she had a boy haha ... was so annoying as it was our name for a girl last time it wanst on her list, so she just said all the names we liked, even stole our boys name, matthew!

anyway ... families are so annoying lol

 

[lucy_lu10]

My boys are 18 months apart and I conceived #2 while nursing. Be prepared for your milk to dry up... I was fully prepared to tandem nurse, but my body wasn't having any of it. Not only did I dry up, but nursing actually brought on nausea. My oldest lost interest. I was sad, but had to go along. He weaned at 11.5 months.

How far into your second pregnancy did your milk dry up?