ugh... Problems with my husbands baby mom

[Tabitha83]

My husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2.
She has never let my DH see his son ever since we have been together she actually moved and we had no idea where she was until a few months ago. She has called the cops on us so many times and makes up stupid names on facebook to call him a deadbeat dad (which I don't understand) how can you be a deadbeat when you don't even know where your son is. We pay his support on time every month without fail. That's just a bit of the background on what we have been going though.
So anyway she has no idea that I am pregnant right now or at least I didn't think she did until she messages him last night with
you and I need to talk about your one and only biological son.
like WTF is that I know that my son is not his biologically but he did adopt him after we got married which makes him his son as well plus I'm also carrying his son.

I wish this girl would just fade off into the sunset and grow up for once.

Sorry about the long post.

Rant over !

 

[Mabythistime]

Mmmm, my DH has a child with another lady. When we met, I remembered he tried to see his son on many occasions, but it "was never a good time" or some or the other excuse. He was only allowed on the childs birthday and Christmas (obviously to drop presents)

Eventually, he broke all ties, pays support every month and we have moved on. BUT before we moved on, he was really terrorised by her. Also being called a deadbeat dad, and if he loved his son, he would go back to her. I am talking property damage....threats, the works. Its like you say, there is normally quite a background.

We finally blocked her number from his cell phone...(she has another number to get messages to him if need be), and he continues to pay his support.

By not giving any attention, she has quieted down. It is sad that the boy will not know his father, but I think better this way, than the boy being a weapon, if you know what I mean.

It is hard and tough, but remember, she has no bearing at all on your relationship, only if you let her..Dont get upset by messages. Just ignore them and delete whatever gets posted on FB. Its really cowardly!

 

[Leets]

I understand where you are cooing from, try not to let her get to you. My oh baby mother is total nutcase and has done some ridiculous things but now I Have made it to the stage where I don't want her having an effect on my life so just deal with the necessaries and nothing more. We ended up getting a court order which stopped her messing about with the times and days we had oh son, if he's gonna start seeing him then defo get the order and things done on paper as these baby mothers tend to be unstable and completely nuts lol.

 

[MommyJaan]

Which is why he is with you not with her. If she keeps up with the facebook abuse, warn her that IP addresses are traceable and you can sue for defamation of character. Possibly get a restraining order. Also, if your OH wants to visit his son he can go on to get visitation rights or better still, you can ask for custody. Considering she needs the support payments, father can say he is in a better position to look after his son and you can step in as a mom.... Sorry if I got to personal.

 

[Tabitha83]

No I totally agree with everyone of you. He would be way better off with us. Shes always been unstable and she refuses to get off welfare because of the amount of support my husband has to pay while she is on it. We are trying to go to court and get some sort of custody but because of the whole moving and not knowing where she was it was hard to track down anything to actually take her there. I truthfully think shes doing this now because the courts have finally found her and have served her with the court papers or she just wants to start the fighting all over again either way I know shes not going anywhere for a long time