Unexplained Infertility: newbie here

[NovaStar]

Hi,

I'm new to this particular part of the forum. My husband and I have been trying for #2 consecutively for 15 months but if I add up all the months before that that we tried (not in a row) then we've been trying for just over 2 years.

We conceived our daughter easily, after only 2 months of trying. She's 4 years old, now, and I'm desperate to give her a sibling. She loves babies and younger kids. She's so sweet and my heart breaks every time we go to the park and she's alone because we are the only one's there...if she had a sibling she would always have a friend to play with.

The doctors have said we have unexplained infertility. Everything is working okay...we're just not getting pregnant.

I've been trying herbal supplements, like raspberry leaf, to help make my uterus a healthier place. I've just started fertility yoga (yea, it's a thing!) and I'm hoping it makes a difference. I tend to sit a lot during the day, so I'm going to make sure to go on a walk every day and do yoga 3-4 times a week.

My husband is taking maca root, just to make sure his spermies are nice and healthy (for motility and sperm count). We've both cut out caffeine and added lots of vitamin C. We also have been using preseed.

I feel like we are doing everything right and I just don't understand why it's not working...I feel like with every month that goes by my chances of ever being pregnant again goes down significantly . I don't know what else to do.

 

[Cara x]

Hi hun, we're in the same position. Fell pregnant with our son easily whilst NTNP, he's now nearly 8, but have spent 4 years TTC#2. I've been through all the same emotions and feelings of guilt you've described. We had an early miscarriage on our 2nd cycle and then nothing for 4 years until I finally fell pregnant in September, but unfortunately we are currently going through another miscarriage. Our infertility is unexplained too, I have endometriosis, but as it's not in my tubes it technically shouldn't be causing problems. Hubby's swimmers are better than average.

About 2 months before I fell pregnant this time, I started taking a vitamin B complex in addition to my TTC vitamins. I don't know if that made a difference? We also use Conceive Plus (same idea as preseed) but forgot to use it a lot that month. Again, I don't know if it's coincidence but maybe it was doing us more harm than good?

Sending lots of luck and baby dust to you x

 

[chasemanzmum]

Oh sweetie I feel for you. Not that I can really offer any ideas that would help. But I am there too. My ob gyn said that my fertility tests came back normal and she doesn't know why I am not getting pregnant myself. My next option is DH having a SA. GL and ***baby dust***

 

[NovaStar]

It's good to know we are in good company. I feel like before, I was worried about making big plans too far in the future for fear of being pregnant (like family vacations) but now I'm like whatever. I feel like I'm never going to be pregnant again. I'm never going to have that experience again...I should have appreciated it more. It's so sad and unfair that anyone goes through this.

 

[mara16jade]

Have you tried clomid? And do you temp and chart?

My 1st was super easy to get (pregnant on our 2nd month trying). Our 2nd baby made us work for it. I had a miscarriage (chemical), and a year later...still no baby. We did IVF and got our baby. He's 5 monthe old now. Not at all how I expected building a family would go. It was stressful, maddening and depressive. But it all (barely) worked out. Pretty sure we're done ttc - I shudder at the thought of ever "trying" again.

Good luck. Don't give up - try something new. Start small like clomid and then see if maybe an IUI would help. We tried clomid and then I got too frustrated and jumped to IVF. I don't regret it, but boy was it expensive.

 

[fxmummyduck]

Hi nova, I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it was the same for me ttc#2, after conceiving our ds first try it was a huge shock when nothing was happening! We tried actively for 15 months but were ntnp before that. We were on our last cycle (which we’d given up on) waiting for af to arrive so we could start clomid and somehow ended up with a bfp. I think the ‘not trying’ and stressing, no opks and no expectation that month somehow helped us. I’d stopped taking all my supplements as I was so fed up. The only thing I did differently was drink grapefruit juice that month as I’d stocked up for my fil coming to stay with us as it’s his favorite.

I know I can’t help, but I understand the heartbreak and the frustration if you ever need to talk.

 

[Changjiang]

I also have same issue. I have tried to conceive for >12 months and nothing happen. I already did hormone test and estrogen level is low in the range. I also do not have EWCM ovulation. I do not know what to do now?

 

[Peach2010]

Hi Nova. I feel your pain. My daughter was conceived in 4 months with no issues ether. I never dreamt I’d be here 5 years later still trying to give her a sibling. We were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We did 1 IUI and It failed. I didn’t feel we were taken seriously by the fertility dr so we have switched to a naturopath fertility specialist and it’s much more personal and comforting. I refuse to give up. Hang in there

 

[mimi4]

Hi, I understand what you are feeling. I know someone who was in the same shoes, and was struggling with unexplained for over 3 years. She did not give up, and now has a healthy baby boy. Good luck!

 

[Kiwiberry]

Hello ladies!! @NovaStar had her baby girl Cleo last September. Don't give up . It took 2 years each TTC my daughter's, then only 1 cycle TTC my son.

 

[Bevziibubble]

Good luck ladies