MrsBop
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Firstly bit of background on Noah, he's a very sensitive little boy, suspected autism so he has quite bad anxiety issues which come out in a variety of ways in situations where he is comfortable if that makes sense, mainly violence towards us and also occasionally his baby sister, he also lies horrendously when anxious and bed wets. Thats the bulk of it.
When he moved up from nursery to reception this past year his best friend was going to a new school, we had a few months to prepare for it and thankfully his other friend was going to the same school as him, turns out they weren't going to be in the same class though, I figured it wouldn't be a big issue but for the first few weeks it was hell on earth, wet bed every night, tears on a night, full blown tantrums in a morning, lies about being poorly, he just did not want to go, he wanted to go back to nursery where he felt safe He then got really close to another little boy who he'd occasionally played with at nursery and for the past year they've been inseperable, so much so that if I knew this little boy wasn't going to be at school the next day I had to prepare Noah so we didn't have a full blown meltdown in the playground the next morning. On the days when this little boy wasn't there Noah played with a boy who he'd known since nursery and played with during school holidays. The 3 of them were best friends. Noah has also been bullied twice during the past school year by two different boys, both times I approached his teacher and felt nothing was done so I then spoke to the headteacher on a number of occasions.
Anyway the end of the school year is coming up and I have being anxious for a few weeks about classes and the consequences of Noah being seperated from both his best friends but mainly his very best friend so much so I actually went and spoke to the deputy head about my concerns and fears and was assured that they don't seperate best friends. I left feeling relieved so imagine my horror when today I find out he isn't with ANY of his friends, neither of his best friends or infact anyone he plays with, he's all alone oh except for the two boys that have bullied him (one who still is )
I went straight to the headteacher and basically got told there was nothing he was willing to do end of! I then told him that I had feared this would happen and had spoken to someone about it, he then again said there was nothing he could do but he would look at the classes tomorrow and phone me
I ended up leaving very upset, they don't have to deal with the consequences, not only would it be a horrible experience for any parent but I have serious medical condition and Noah's behaviour doesn't help at the best of times but let alone when he is anxious, upset and frustrated
Anyway this is the final nail in the coffin, it was bad enough I had to threaten them with the LEA to get them to do something about the bullying, I now feel that there is a comminication breakdown between staff and parents and they just don't care so for all of our sakes I am planning on removing Noah from this school and sending him to one that does listen to the parents (originally had Noah going to this school but he wanted to go to the one joined on to his nursery so I changed last minute!) but I don't know how to go about it, does anyone know? Is it also true that they can just do what they please with my child no matter what I have asked/requested/told them?
I am still so upset about it all, poor Noah
When he moved up from nursery to reception this past year his best friend was going to a new school, we had a few months to prepare for it and thankfully his other friend was going to the same school as him, turns out they weren't going to be in the same class though, I figured it wouldn't be a big issue but for the first few weeks it was hell on earth, wet bed every night, tears on a night, full blown tantrums in a morning, lies about being poorly, he just did not want to go, he wanted to go back to nursery where he felt safe He then got really close to another little boy who he'd occasionally played with at nursery and for the past year they've been inseperable, so much so that if I knew this little boy wasn't going to be at school the next day I had to prepare Noah so we didn't have a full blown meltdown in the playground the next morning. On the days when this little boy wasn't there Noah played with a boy who he'd known since nursery and played with during school holidays. The 3 of them were best friends. Noah has also been bullied twice during the past school year by two different boys, both times I approached his teacher and felt nothing was done so I then spoke to the headteacher on a number of occasions.
Anyway the end of the school year is coming up and I have being anxious for a few weeks about classes and the consequences of Noah being seperated from both his best friends but mainly his very best friend so much so I actually went and spoke to the deputy head about my concerns and fears and was assured that they don't seperate best friends. I left feeling relieved so imagine my horror when today I find out he isn't with ANY of his friends, neither of his best friends or infact anyone he plays with, he's all alone oh except for the two boys that have bullied him (one who still is )
I went straight to the headteacher and basically got told there was nothing he was willing to do end of! I then told him that I had feared this would happen and had spoken to someone about it, he then again said there was nothing he could do but he would look at the classes tomorrow and phone me
I ended up leaving very upset, they don't have to deal with the consequences, not only would it be a horrible experience for any parent but I have serious medical condition and Noah's behaviour doesn't help at the best of times but let alone when he is anxious, upset and frustrated
Anyway this is the final nail in the coffin, it was bad enough I had to threaten them with the LEA to get them to do something about the bullying, I now feel that there is a comminication breakdown between staff and parents and they just don't care so for all of our sakes I am planning on removing Noah from this school and sending him to one that does listen to the parents (originally had Noah going to this school but he wanted to go to the one joined on to his nursery so I changed last minute!) but I don't know how to go about it, does anyone know? Is it also true that they can just do what they please with my child no matter what I have asked/requested/told them?
I am still so upset about it all, poor Noah