Vaginal or Scheduled Section??

[cmharbour]

I am 30 weeks pregnant and I got the go ahead to go either way. I had posted one a couple weeks back but I need some advice. I really don't know which way to go. Has anyone gone both ways and which way if you had a choice would you go??

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

Haven't been through labour before at all but didn't want to read and run. Personally I would go vaginal. Yeah it will be alot more painful than a c-section but I've also been told that the recovery is alot quicker. I wouldn't rule out a c-section completely but I think if there's no medical need for one I would go for natural. But that's just my personal opinion

 

[kristen77]

Personally I don't understand why anyone would choose to go through major surgery when there is another option. As birth plans go, a section would be my very very last choice - obviously getting the baby out safely is the most important thing but I will be very disappointed if I have to have a section. All that recovery time? Not being able to drive for 6 weeks? A scar? And is it 7 or 9 layers of tissue they have to cut through?! Plus I want to push my baby out, I want a natural birth! Sorry, bit of a rant there!!

Is there a particular reason why would you consider a section if it's not needed?

 

[cmharbour]

Thank you for your input. I am leaning more towards that way just because they haven't given me a medical reason to have a c-section. Is this your first child?

 

[mummy2b2010]

i havent been through labour yet either, but like kayleigh said i would much rather go for a vaginal birth if poss, i wouldnt choose to have a section (thats just my choice) i want to be able to drive my car and push the buggy and do all the normal stuff after birth, there is alot your not allowed to do after a section as you need time to heal but again i think it is totally up to you hunnie.

xxx

 

[cmharbour]

No not really other than I am afraid that something will go wrong with getting the baby out. Seeing I already had a c-section I don't want my scar wripping but my doctor told me that I am 25 and healthy and that I should have no problem having the children naturally. My first c-section was with my twin boys and that was because the leading baby was feet first. This baby so far is already head down. I really would like to go natural but just afraid of hurting the baby or making the baby stress to come out. I appreciate your input as I am having a really difficult time deciding on what is the "best thing" to do.

 

[kristen77]

Totally understand the fear of your scar ripping hun but if the docs have said it will be fine then they're the ones who should know... Loads of women have VBACs very successfully.

 

[jess_smurf]

my aunt had a section first and 2 vaginally and she preferred to do it naturally, i was up and about few hrs after birth was shopping 2 days later!

 

[mummy2b2010]

My aunty had a c-section with her first baby and had a natural birth after hun and her scar is fine, she didnt leave much gap between either really, her boys r 5, nearly 4 and 1.

xxx

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

I can understand the worry with that but plenty of ladies have really successful VBACS. I would definitely try for the natural birth.. And if anything does go wrong.. (Which I'm sure it won't) atleast you'll be in the right place and the people dealing with you will know what to do and how to handle the situation.. Better to go for a natural then assume another c-section will be better when everything could have been perfectly ok

 

[cmharbour]

Oh that helps me a lot. I am happy to hear stories about other women who have gone through a section and have given vaginal birth successfully. It makes me feel like I can do it I know I can Part of the reason I don't want to have another c-section is because I want to actually be able to push the baby out. I also want to be able to enjoy my maternity leave with the baby and not have to worry about my scar getting infected and what not. Thank you thank you!!

 

[Scampie]

I have the same decision to make as you. Last birth was a section due to baby being breech. At the minute its looking like i shall be having a VBAC, but i know how it feels going into the unknown of labour. I feel so much more frightened of labour than a section, so i feel like i would be putting more stress on the baby by opting for a natural birth. I wanted to have a water birth, which kind of set my mind at ease, only to be told this wasnt an option!

If your doctors are anything like mine, then they make out any tiny little thing and you will be given a section anyway. Its making the decision of putting the baby through the stress of labour just to be given a section half way through. Its really not as black and white as people are making out, as having previous sections we are far more likely to be given another section half way through labour when chances are its not even neccesary, its the doctors taking precautions.

Cant help you to make the decision, but just wanted to say i know exactly how you feel

 

[Bee26]

Personally I don't understand why anyone would choose to go through major surgery when there is another option. As birth plans go, a section would be my very very last choice - obviously getting the baby out safely is the most important thing but I will be very disappointed if I have to have a section. All that recovery time? Not being able to drive for 6 weeks? A scar? And is it 7 or 9 layers of tissue they have to cut through?! Plus I want to push my baby out, I want a natural birth! Sorry, bit of a rant there!!

Is there a particular reason why would you consider a section if it's not needed?

Easy there tiger...some of us dont have a choice and dont really need you to tell us how horrendous its going to be!

 

[kristen77]

Personally I don't understand why anyone would choose to go through major surgery when there is another option. As birth plans go, a section would be my very very last choice - obviously getting the baby out safely is the most important thing but I will be very disappointed if I have to have a section. All that recovery time? Not being able to drive for 6 weeks? A scar? And is it 7 or 9 layers of tissue they have to cut through?! Plus I want to push my baby out, I want a natural birth! Sorry, bit of a rant there!!

Is there a particular reason why would you consider a section if it's not needed?

Easy there tiger...some of us dont have a choice and dont really need you to tell us how horrendous its going to be!

Sorry! If there is no choice then that's just how it is and if I end up having to have a section then as long as they get the baby out safely it can be either way.. Sorry again though, should have thought about other ladies reading it

 

[Scampie]

Bee, seriously, dont worry yourself. Ive had a section and im so scared of the idea of having to go through labour, a section seems like a breeze in my eyes in comparison to the thought of labour. A time, a date and a 40 min appointment including the clean up! People say the recovery takes alot longer, but i was up n about the next day, out of hospital 3 days later and out shopping , pushing baby around 5 days later. Ive known ladies to spend alot longer recovering from stitches etc than sections x

 

[Bee26]

Personally I don't understand why anyone would choose to go through major surgery when there is another option. As birth plans go, a section would be my very very last choice - obviously getting the baby out safely is the most important thing but I will be very disappointed if I have to have a section. All that recovery time? Not being able to drive for 6 weeks? A scar? And is it 7 or 9 layers of tissue they have to cut through?! Plus I want to push my baby out, I want a natural birth! Sorry, bit of a rant there!!

Is there a particular reason why would you consider a section if it's not needed?

Easy there tiger...some of us dont have a choice and dont really need you to tell us how horrendous its going to be!

Sorry! If there is no choice then that's just how it is and if I end up having to have a section then as long as they get the baby out safely it can be either way.. Sorry again though, should have thought about other ladies reading it

Its ok hun - given the choice id be doing it naturally but as you say, so long as they get here safely we do what we have to do. xx

 

[cmharbour]

Scampie well it is nice to know that someone is in the same boat as me It is a tough decision. My c-section before went pretty easy. I did get an infection afterwards but it was very mild and was treated easily. The boys came out as healthy as can be and I was up and walking around the same night as that is what they wanted me to do. I couldn't drive for a little while and I couldn't pick both babies up at the same time well when they were in their carrier but all and all my c-section went well so I didn't have a bad experience and I know what to expect. With the vaginal I have no idea on what to expect and watch me try and have to go c-section any way. Have you made a decision on which way you are going to go yet?? I mean the boys were 6 lbs 6 ozs and the other one was 6 lbs 11 ozs so the chances of me having a big baby is really high....oh the decision to be made.

 

[cmharbour]

That is what I am saying....what is the safest way for the baby to come out?? I just don't know what to do. It would be easier if he was breeched and he made the decision for me

 

[Bee26]

That is what I am saying....what is the safest way for the baby to come out?? I just don't know what to do. It would be easier if he was breeched and he made the decision for me

Hun, obviously only you can decide what to do but what I would say is make the decision that YOU feel most comfortable with. The risks for natural delivery are much lower than with a c section, otherwise they would make c sections standard! If I was in your position I would try for a natural birth, however if it frightens you and you feel that you would rather stick with what you know then do it. Nobody should judge you and at the end of the day your the mummy and you want to be as leaststressd as possible. You still have 4 week so dont rush yourself into a desicion, go through your options and make whatever feels most right for you xx

 

[Scampie]

I know exactly what u mean, im awaiting my 36 week appointment to find out if he has made the decision for me. I feel it would be so much easier to just go and have a section, i really would prefer to, im really quite scared of giving birth. To make things worse my OH is useless. When i told him about not being able to have a water birth due to constant monitoring, i was really upset. His response was pretty much, thats tough luck deal with it. I asked him the other day if hes gonna look after me while im in labour, his response to that was, i might stick my head round the door n see if your ok occasionally. My mum is going on holiday a week before im due, and will be gone for 3 weeks, so i kinda feel im gonna be doing it on my own.

As easy as it would be to just set a date and have the section, i also have another son who needs to get to school in the mornings, and an Oh whos response to that is..well what do u want me to do, im not gonna take 6 weeks off work am i.

I really cant weigh up whats best for baby, and it seems no1 wants to help me decide. Im constantly told things may well end up in a section, sometimes i just feel like i should take the easy option and say yes book it. But then i feel like im letting baby down, and not doing whats best for him. Its so difficult isnt it.