WIsh people would stop being so judgemental. "Oh... you're going to NYC this year and Florida in Feb? Where do you get your money? I wish i had that money just LYING around"
You think our money is just lying around?!?! No! We SAVE UP. We don't go out on the piss four nights a week. We don't buy random shit. We like holidays... and we both work damn hard for our money.
get your nose out
Oooh, I hate people who "count other people's money". They are just jealous.
im ttc #2... And i think its different to ttc your first, but not in the sense that i wanted one more than the other.
i think when ttc #2, it is slightly easier becasue i have a little monkey who is keepibg me busy, so u cant constantly think about ttc, wheras ttc#1 i had all the time in the world to think about it, which means it made time drag in!
It doesnt mean i wanted the first more than i want another one.. Its just different =D
Yeah "different" is the best word for it, because it's hard to quantify how much someone wants something. I also think that different women are going to feel differently about it depending on their circumstances. Some may be fine with whatever God sends their way, while others might have their heart set on more than one.
I had a hard time conceiving my first, and back then I thought conceiving a second wouldn't be as stressful since I'd already have one, but I have had a rude awakening on that.
I think if I had to be honest, I think I'd have to say that I wanted #1 more intensely in the sense that I am not willing to go as far to get #2 as #1. I don't see myself feeling good about paying thousands for IVF or going into debt to conceive #2 whereas I absolutely would have done so to conceive #1.
However, that being said, I am having a much harder time coping with my infertility this time around. It totally took me off guard and seems so counterintuitive, but for me it's been true. The things I used to do to cope when I conceive dd I can't do now.
I used to be able to take time out for myself just to cry or be alone with my thoughts, but now that I'm busy with dd, I can't do that when I need to. I don't want to be crying in front of dd, I don't have time to cry at work, and then with the little time I have with dh, I don't want to spend it crying. So I have a lot of grief.
Another thing that's harder is worrying about dd and if she'll be okay being an only child. I was an only for 10 years, but I was a very quiet introverted child. Dd is very outgoing and I think she really needs a sibling. I just hate thinking about her having to play by herself as she grows up.
The other thing that's hard for me is that I don't feel like I pull out all the stops trying like I did for #1. If I find that there is some problem that needs a lot of money or a lot of time to fix, then that will have to be the end of trying for me. I hate that I don't have as much flexibility as I did before.
girls. We all want the same thing in the end, whether you have no earth babies, or ten, no angels or 15. The longing, the aching, it isnt measureable, we only know our own ache. I just hope we all get there.
.. you 8month old baby is cute and i adore him ALOT! but you fell pregnant with him not knowing who the dad is cause you slept around with your ex boyfriend & his best friend, now you find out you are pregnant with a guy you were just 'seeing' by accident because you were to stupid to get contraception! i know you miscarried at the weekend and i truley sorry because i know how horrible it must be for you. but how do people like you who just sleep about and fuck guys about just fall pregnant? yet there are hundreds of women out there with OH and DH who do everything right but yet cant? YOU ANNOY ME BEST FRIEND! focus on your child you have, the last thing you need right now is another baby! your not stable enough to bring up a child and you have no income or anything! please just keep your legs shut.
