sugarplum_elf
Pregnant with my 1st
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Hello lovely ladies,
Just wanted an opportunity to vent and get some feedback because I'm going a bit crazy and don't feel like I can speak to my friends or family about my situation at the moment. I have been with my partner for 7 years and we have been living together for almost 3 years. All this time I thought we were manoeuvring into a position where we would be financially and emotionally ready to get married and have a baby. I turned 31 this year and I realised that I am most definitely 'there' as far a having a baby is concerned. On top of this the females in my family have a history of early menopause (like really early, mid-30's) so I am probably up against the clock more than most women. A couple of months ago I told him that I was ready and that I wanted to start planning a family (as far as I'm concerned the wedding can wait; with my family history we have other priorities). At this point he decided to drop the bombshell that he wasn't sure if he wanted kids AT ALL!! After lots of arguing and tears I told him that I understood he would need time to think and we have decided that he will let me know in the new year. For the time being we are still living together and most of the time getting on fine until the uncertainty of the situation gets to me and we end up arguing. I love him so much but don't think I could forgive him if he took away my chance to have children.
In the meantime, I am trying to get organised so that if he decides he wants a child we're ready to go; had blood tests which show hormone levels are fine and I am ovulating and have been prescribed folic acid but I'm terrified that I will lose everything in the next couple of months. My partner wont speak to me about it until he's decided and I don't feel ready to share my horrible situation with anyone I know. Any advice or reassurance would be appreciated.
Just wanted an opportunity to vent and get some feedback because I'm going a bit crazy and don't feel like I can speak to my friends or family about my situation at the moment. I have been with my partner for 7 years and we have been living together for almost 3 years. All this time I thought we were manoeuvring into a position where we would be financially and emotionally ready to get married and have a baby. I turned 31 this year and I realised that I am most definitely 'there' as far a having a baby is concerned. On top of this the females in my family have a history of early menopause (like really early, mid-30's) so I am probably up against the clock more than most women. A couple of months ago I told him that I was ready and that I wanted to start planning a family (as far as I'm concerned the wedding can wait; with my family history we have other priorities). At this point he decided to drop the bombshell that he wasn't sure if he wanted kids AT ALL!! After lots of arguing and tears I told him that I understood he would need time to think and we have decided that he will let me know in the new year. For the time being we are still living together and most of the time getting on fine until the uncertainty of the situation gets to me and we end up arguing. I love him so much but don't think I could forgive him if he took away my chance to have children.
In the meantime, I am trying to get organised so that if he decides he wants a child we're ready to go; had blood tests which show hormone levels are fine and I am ovulating and have been prescribed folic acid but I'm terrified that I will lose everything in the next couple of months. My partner wont speak to me about it until he's decided and I don't feel ready to share my horrible situation with anyone I know. Any advice or reassurance would be appreciated.