Wanting another bub again...

[Jillie89]

Hubby and I had to go through IVF to have our daughter (17 months old) and our son (7 weeks old). It was a long, stressful and rollercoaster of a time. I had a dream pregnancy with my daughter but developed pre eclampsia at 37w the first time and second time the pregnancy itself was harder but made it to term. Had 2 c sections but recovered so well.

I am already wanting to be pregnant again! We decided that 2 children was our limit (financially we cannot afford to go through IVF and more children would mean we would need a bigger house, etc.)

Does anyone want more children but know that it is definitely out of the question? Part of me is hoping that we could just fall pregnant naturally so we can at least say we did it by ourselves once (like everyone else around us seems to be able to do!) But I know it would turn our lives upside.

How do I shake this feeling?!?!

 

[Teri7489]

Me! We currently live in a one bedroom flat (4 of us which is hell) but will be getting the keys to our new house in a weeks time. Its a two bedroom house and already will be difficult but not as difficult as the current situation. If that makes sense? I would love another baby but would mean the hell of trying to get a bigger house. Its not practical at all so baby no 3 is a no no. Whenever I think I want another (ie like when I found out my sister is trying for her first) I just tell myself that it's not fair on my two babies. Taking opportunities away from them because of finance, taking more time away from them to care for another new born and putting them through the stress of moving. They are my world and I have to put my own wants aside to make sure they are happy and well looked after. Its hard but they are worth it xxxx

 

[redrose89]

I like how you thought about your babies future needs and feelings to put yourself into perspective. my mother in law just hinted that my sister in law may be pregnant again....and I couldn't help but be jealous! she just had a baby 7 months ago...just after mine 9 months..your comment snapped me out of thinking about more babies (for now) and made me realize it wouldn't be the best thing right now for my toddler and infant. thank you!

Me! We currently live in a one bedroom flat (4 of us which is hell) but will be getting the keys to our new house in a weeks time. Its a two bedroom house and already will be difficult but not as difficult as the current situation. If that makes sense? I would love another baby but would mean the hell of trying to get a bigger house. Its not practical at all so baby no 3 is a no no. Whenever I think I want another (ie like when I found out my sister is trying for her first) I just tell myself that it's not fair on my two babies. Taking opportunities away from them because of finance, taking more time away from them to care for another new born and putting them through the stress of moving. They are my world and I have to put my own wants aside to make sure they are happy and well looked after. Its hard but they are worth it xxxx

 

[Teri7489]

I think those jealous feelings, the want to go through the exciting time in that bubble will always be there. I see pregnant ladies and think yeah I'd like another. But my kids are my absolute world and it would be taking away things for them. For me I loved being pregnant, all the fuss, the appointments and the spark in my relationship, but the end result is another person. Which of course is the goal and its fantastic but it changes your current life massively. For me its a no no for now, at least 10 years. Maybe someday in the future your situation may change and you could try for another. Just enjoy your precious babies for now xxx

 

[Jillie89]

Another child for us wouldn't be fair on our 2 bubbas now and I know that. Still doesn't make the want for more go away though. Maybe I will be clucky for the rest of my life lol. I miss my obstetrician so much too!

 

[o0oCharlieo0o]

I don't know if you ever get over wanting another, I think it's in us as women! Iv just had my 4th baby 2 weeks ago, I said this baby would be our last but looking at her makes me want to sob just thinking she will be the last baby I raise, we have 5 children between us and I know my body couldn't deal with another pregnancy but it just kills me to think she is our last and I think even if I did have another id feel the same again after

 

[charliekay]

I want another baby already and feel so guilty for wanting another so soon. I just want to enjoy the two I've got but can't help feeling I want another. I've decided we will try when our little one turns two as I had an emergency c section and want to give my body a good long recovery, although I'm feeling very impatient already x

 

[Bebedeux]

Me I don't think il never get over the feeling of a baby growing inside and wondering what they look like and what kind of little people they are. My DS is like me scandinavian blonde and blue eyed and my DD was born with a full head of dark brown hair and dark eyes like her dad. I love that there so different I'd love another to see who they are. I love my babies, but I think 2 is enough unfortunately DS was ivf, DD was iui so I just have to accept that we are lucky and I feel so lucky. But I don't think il ever get over not having another.

 

[Jillie89]

We still have 3 frozen embryos in storage which plays on my mind. After 4 more years we will have to decide what to do with them. I would love to donate them to other couples but then again they are my 'babies' and I wish it could be me to bring them into this world if it was possible. But it probably won't ever be the case unless we win the lotto.

I am enjoying being mum to my 2 miracles very much though. I consider myself very lucky to have them after our struggles.

 

[kajastarlight]

I keep thinking I want another one to and I know my body could not take that far less the $$ part. But it is a hard urge to shake.

 

[Ziggy2]

I feel the same, I know I should be content with my 2, and I am but I am always thinking about having a third, it's not practical we can't really afford it without sacrificing things for my girls if money was no object I think I would definitely go for another but life is not like that, trying to focus on the fun things we can do as they grow up which would be more difficult with another baby in tow

 

[Bebedeux]

We still have 3 frozen embryos in storage which plays on my mind. After 4 more years we will have to decide what to do with them. I would love to donate them to other couples but then again they are my 'babies' and I wish it could be me to bring them into this world if it was possible. But it probably won't ever be the case unless we win the lotto.

I am enjoying being mum to my 2 miracles very much though. I consider myself very lucky to have them after our struggles.

Were the same we have 4years. I think it's a good wAy of keeping an option open. We'll see what way financially we are. 4years you could be in a different place.