"Was it planned?"

[cliqmo]

I think it is a typical 'generic' question people ask when conversing about a new pregnancy- especially when it is too early to ask the gender etc, but I would still be affronted by it, even though we have been trying for 14mths

 

[kittymarie]

Yikes! I don't think I would ask someone that. Now I'm afraid I'll be getting that question. I would want to yell YES it took 4 months!

People sometimes! Geez!

 

[FLU77ERBYE]

The best one for me was. I split with DD's Dad, and I started seeing someone from work, we where together almost 6 months, and I got PG, I had been totally faithful to him, and when I told one of my close friends, Their 1st question was 'Who's the dad?' I was shocked! They knew I was with My Bf, and not DD's dad. I was livid...Do I have slapper written across my forehead?

Dont get me wrong, yes, it was too quick, yes it was only once, and yes the gobs**te didn't stand by me, But I am going to have 2 beautiful babies to bring up and can truthfully say I did it on my own and I'm proud! (Sorry for the slight OT!) xx

 

[annagrace]

I personally wouldn't ask it unless it was a very close friend or family member. They might as well say "Did the condom split?"! But i've been asked it a few times. I think it is just a generic question and although people are just genuinely interested and mean no harm, it is a little intrusive!

We're not married yet, so we have more of a 'taboo' for people to natter about! It's amazing how many people are still so traditional that it offends them.

 

[sofiasmommy]

I personally wouldn't ask it unless it was a very close friend or family member. They might as well say "Did the condom split?"! But i've been asked it a few times. I think it is just a generic question and although people are just genuinely interested and mean no harm, it is a little intrusive!

We're not married yet, so we have more of a 'taboo' for people to natter about! It's amazing how many people are still so traditional that it offends them.

this is exactly the answer ive been giving

 

[annagrace]

Hahaha! I might try it... be fun to see their faces x

 

[kittymarie]

I personally wouldn't ask it unless it was a very close friend or family member. They might as well say "Did the condom split?"! But i've been asked it a few times. I think it is just a generic question and although people are just genuinely interested and mean no harm, it is a little intrusive!

We're not married yet, so we have more of a 'taboo' for people to natter about! It's amazing how many people are still so traditional that it offends them.

agreed! so silly that the whole marriage before babies thing is even an issue. OH and I are married but we were TTC before we even got engaged. My dad brought it up and I thought hmm, him and my mother weren't married before they had their first!

 

[kuriazuri]

I had multiple doctors ask me, both at the clinic and at the actual dr office. I think there concern is how we feel mentally.